stick around for my four-minute meditation on letting go of anger.

I want to share a little story about something that happened just ten minutes before shooting

this video today. I was on a car ride with my husband and the universe once again gave

me an opportunity to learn a lesson. About ten minutes into our ride, he did something

that really got on my nerves, and I decided --irrationally so -- to be really angry about

it. I gave him the silent treatment. I sat there and pouted for the entire car ride.

Then something really interesting happened. About 35 minutes into the ride, I looked over

and he was fast asleep, snoring. So my anger that I wanted him so badly to feel was really

all inside of me, and I was the only one being affected by it. He was totally cool.

So to hopefully prevent you from making the same mistake I did, I'm going to lead you

through a little meditation that will help you to turn your anger into something beautiful.

Let's get started by finding our easy seat. You can be in a chair or on a pillow -- wherever

is comfortable for you. You can sit in lotus, half-lotus or one foot in front of the other.

Inhale your shoulders up to your ears and then exhale your shoulder blades down your

spine. This will have you sitting up nice and tall. Place your hands downturned on your

knees or upturned to receive the energy around you.

Close your eyes and start to pay attention to your breath. No need to change the pattern

of your breathing. Just observe the natural rhythm of your inhales and your exhales.

On the subject of forgiveness, there's a very interesting quote that's often attributed

to Buddha, but most likely came after him. It compares anger to a hot coal that we hold

in our hand with the intention of throwing it at another person, but really only burning

ourselves in the end. That was exactly what happened on my car ride

tonight. I was holding onto this anger, this hot coal, with the intention of affecting

my husband, but really only ruining my own experience, making the moment miserable for

myself. I did a little research on coal and ashes,

and what's left behind a fire is burned. When I look at my fireplace, I see these beautiful,

hot pieces of wood -- these little coals, that are certainly beautiful to look at, but

I wouldn't want to touch them. So that's the anger. That's the coal we're holding in our

hand. In this research, I learned that you can take

ashes -- coal -- put it in soil, and fertilize your garden. This will help to amend very

acidic soil and allow breathing room for plants to grow. So this coal -- this anger -- when

given away frees us from pain and the energy can be rechanneled, repurposed, to grow something

beautiful. How awesome is that? I want you to imagine yourself literally holding

a piece of coal. You have this coal in your hand. You're placing it into the ground, and

you're watching a beautiful flower, or maybe even a tree full of flowers, grow from the

soil. Your anger is gone. You are free, and you have given life to something beautiful.

See the flower. See what you've grown. One last inhale to open your eyes.

Did you see it? Did you see the flower? That's what it takes: this change of mindset. I know

some things are so big hard and so hard to forget and to forgive. But if you practice

every day to let go of that, to understand that it's really not the other person who

you're hurting -- that it's you who you're hurting with your anger, holding on to that

resentment or that grudge -- then maybe you'll be able to release it just a little.

Remember the hot coal. Give it away. Release yourself from the pain and let something else

beautiful grow. Thank you so much for joining me for this

meditation. If you have a request or a topic for another meditation, go ahead and leave

it in the comments below. I love you and I'll see you around.

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