Subtitles section Play video Print subtitles Hey guys it's been a while... So, a lot has happened in the last couple of months that I don't talk about but I've been thinking about quitting YouTube once and for all and just being done with it if I'm being honest. Um... I'm sure some of you have noticed that I'm burnt out and that I've been burnt out for some time now Like the stress, the pressure, and the hate Sometimes I just... I don't know if it's worth it I feel like I'm walking on eggshells on YouTube I have to watch every little thing I say Like something really simple like me enjoying chocolate or liking chocolate can turn into an eating disorder. But I'm really proud of our community and what we have built This channel has given me such a great sense of accomplishment And look, everyone on social media gets hate and it's normalized. But it gets really challenging and hurtful when some people try to villainize me. Sometimes I can't block off all the hate you know And on top of that there are brands that are trying to take advantage of me There are people selling merch or apps using my name that has nothing to do with me and also people trying to hold trademarks over my name My name But you know, all that doesn't affect me as much What affects me the most is the persistently hurtful content because it affects my mental health and I'll get into that in a sec And yeah, it just gets a little bit too much and I'm just... losing passion for making content at this point So I've been quite disconnected for the last couple of months and some of you have noticed so it's really nice to finally share this with you guys I can only talk about so many things in a video, so in today's video I'm gonna talk about the legal proceedings that I filed in court against 1) the individual from my "Time to Talk" video, and 2) a media company that has published material about me and said very hurtful things about me But before we get started I want to be crystal clear... Hang on, hang on, I need to read this properly. I need to be crystal clear that Ok, you got it? Alright, if you have watched an older video of mine you'll know about this guy that has posted tons of statements about me. Statements like I have "no fitness background" I "know nothing about fitness" I'm a certified personal trainer and I've put in hours of studying and training so how can I not have any knowledge in fitness? I "intentionally mislead people" Claims that I "promote" eating disorders and body dysmorphia Insults my content and community Implying that I'm just "a pretty face in yoga pants" and so much more... and I stated in court papers that it was malicious and defamatory Anyways, most of you guys know about that story but no one actually knows what happened after So I'm sure some people are gonna jump into conclusions and think that Chloe's just escalating matters to court without basis... No! ...No. We have reached out to this person multiple times over many, many months to try to resolve this matter So after that video, I sent him a concerns notice which is basically a legal notice saying that here's a long list of things that you said that are defamatory and here's your behavior and what are you gonna do about it? So he responded to my lawyer seemingly apologetic and admitting that he was wrong but a week later, he reposted everything - made things worse - and he claimed that his girlfriend "told him to be nice" about it but he changed his mind so I guess his intentions were never nice. Eventually he removed his publications again and then in another email he seemed apologetic once again and also weirdly pitched ideas to put me in a better light and also suggested to come on my channel to make an apology I don't even know what to say First, he shits on me and then he pitches ideas? So anyways, all good, right? Seems sincere in an email, he then took down all the posts about me So I thought, "Hmm, this guy deserves a second chance." Disputes are very draining, okay? In terms of time, energy and cost And I don't have time for that. I'd rather do something else that's more productive So I offered him a Deed of Settlement And typically, a settlement involves compensation for damages From him to me But I did not insist for any compensation, not a single cent. In retrospect, I believe I was being way too generous I didn't wanna make anyone pay for anything even though he fucked up I just believed that everyone gets a second chance but I feel like he took advantage of that All he needed to do was to give me a sincere apology that he wanted to give me initially anyway since he admitted that he was wrong and to ensure those posts remained taken down and just to stop! Stop all of this, 'cause it causes people to send me hate. But long story short after months of back and forth he only put up the apology January this year so at this point in January, it was all done I was happy to move on even though I was the one that's out of pocket for legal bills which, by the way, kept increasing because it took such a long time to reach to a settlement. He even said to my lawyer that my cost is no concern to him and it's my choice for pursuing him I'll be honest, I felt manipulated and I felt that he took advantage of my kindness Like, he made it sound like he's really apologetic and then... he turned around... Um... I just felt like I was too naive It's just really confusing when he launched a whole exposé, as he calls it and then apologizing for it, wanting to move on but not really like, he's still dragging on. Anyways, it should have ended there in January I let it go and all he needed to do as he said he would in the settlement deed was to apologise and just stop... stop! Like he said he would and to not dilute the efficacy of his apology because what's the point of it? But unfortunately, which is very predictable at this point, he decided to go back on his words and I can't go into detail for good reason but basically, he just... kept going with an ongoing campaign towards me. He did this by victimizing himself saying he was bullied to taking down posts leaving up posts that he said he was meant to take down making references to the original defamatory posts jabs towards my type of content creating a similar hashtag claiming people have tried to sue him with no success and I think all of this is contradictory to his apology and dilutes the efficacy of it. So, to me, the settlement to put this behind us was not followed through I felt like he continues to refer to me directly or indirectly or continued to act in a way to make me feel like I was being undermined, bullied and targeted. I just felt like it never ended. And, by the way, we informed him of this but he stopped responding and just kept going with this behavior. I mean, he said that he even found a girlfriend out of this and made reference to a lawsuit. To be clear, there was no lawsuit filed before today, only emails apologizing with promises that didn't eventuate. And you can see how, by him saying that there was a lawsuit it potentially changed his narrative so some might actually assume that he had a lawsuit that he might not have he might have won or something. I don't know, it just seems like he's twisting things again. So after the "Time to Talk" video, and even until today people were sending me hate and people were jumping on this hate bandwagon because people believed these statements and I just need to stand up for myself and protect myself based on what the law allows me to that's the reason why defamation, cyber-bullying and harassment laws exist. I've always been the type of person that lets things go because I don't like to dwell on things so take this video as you may. I don't start anything, I don't shit-talk anyone I mean just look at my channel like that's not what I do but if I believe that someone crosses the line and keeps smearing me and my work and then turns around and says that he was bullied when he started all of this... Who was actually bullying who? I'm not gonna let that happen. I'm gonna stand up for myself. I was happy to let it go, but he just wouldn't let it go. I'm gonna fight for myself because no one will stand up for me like how I will for myself. I'm not gonna be pushed around I've been bullied a lot... a LOT and this is it. I'm not gonna let people get away with bullying... it's just not okay. It's just not okay with me. I've worked really hard to get to where I am I have sacrificed so much... So... much. I can't even... begin! Nothing is just purely luck. I feel like I let him off the hook too easily and he's taking advantage of that and just keeps going and I'm just really tired of it, like, I'm just really tired of his behavior. So, I'm doing what's right by me and my values I'm a strong person and I know that I'm strong. I've gotten to where I am today because I'm strong and it's liberating to be able to do this... to stand up for myself. Alright, so besides this person I've also proceeded with legal action against a media company who published content to make people think less of me and distrust me and refused to remove it. And similarly, I had a really simple request: it's just for them to remove the post. I would assume that a media organization would vet their content before they publish and do their due diligence. It was really surprising to me that they didn't want to remove the content when I flagged it when other publishers just took it down but this one just wouldn't budge. The funny thing is that this same company once reached out to me and asked me to do a workout live stream for them on their platform so they knew how to reach out to me when they wanted something, but they didn't know how to reach out to me to do due diligence or fact checks with me before publishing an article about me. There's always people that are going to talk shit and I can block it off. But the response at that time was as if everything that was alleged were true and here's what they said: "Your client has no formal training in nutrition or fitness." "Your client has a physique which is traditionally seen as being desireable but is unattainable by many girls and women." I didn't magically have this physique I worked hard for it I spent hours... days... days!! Many, many months I spent a lot of effort working on myself because I was being teased and bullied about my physical appearance my ent- not entire life, that's just too dramatic but, for a long time. It's really insulting to disregard my effort that I put into making myself feel better or confident and making it sound like I'm just gifted and I didn't work hard for it. "The problem is that the vast majority of the female population will never look like your client and their inability to do so fuels body dysmorphia. If your client posed in a baggy t-shirt and sweat pants then she would not be adding to the problem." So based on this logic, in order to not fuel body dysmorphia, I should be posting my workouts in baggy t-shirts and sweatpants... I'm just wearing appropriate fitnesswear. What's wrong with that? Why am I being singled out here? Don't people wear fitnesswear when they work out? "Of course, if she did that, she probably would not have as many followers as she does." Uh... I don't even know what to say right here, by the way... It's just... so insulting and degrading that I did not put effort into my work I just... wear my beautiful fitnesswear and get to where I am today I guess. So basically, they repeated the claim that I have no knowledge in fitness and that I fuel body dysmorphia and eating disorders and I take great offence to that. And this is something that hits me hard because this is not something I believe in and this is not what my content is about. It's putting a lot of weight on me and my conscience, and I disagree to that. I haven't even shared how I personally experienced being body shamed when I was in school, or at work I haven't even got a chance to talk about it so, to me, that's really hurtful and a shitty response. So, no, I'm not gonna back down just because it's a media company and that it may seem scary I'll leave it to court to decide whether or not their conduct towards me was lawful or if anything they said about me was true and if the court determines that it's true, then maybe I should consider whether I wanna be making any more fitness content It's just free workouts, man... Alright, I'm gonna wrap this up. Look, I just wanna say this because it's very important for me to put this out there it's fine for people to have a negative opinion about me this is not what this video is about. To me, this feels like a campaign towards me that has been going on for a long time it's been more than a year and I don't know what he wants from me like does he get a lot of enjoyment out of this by sending hate my way from other people? It's like it's normalizing for people to hate on me and you know, in time, we'll know if the court finds this unlawful as well. So yeah, I always wonder whether I'll quit YouTube on my own because I feel like, you know, I'm way too burnt out from creating content or I'm just like tired, or would it be because people are trying to take me down 'cause when that first happened it was just a lot of people hating me at the same time. It was a little bit tough, um, but I know I have a thick skin I could always just ignore a lot of it um, but this one campaign actually did bother me. It's fine I'm okay I just needed to tell you guys what I think. It's nice to be able to tell people, I guess. Of course, I won't be able to tell the full story here because, for good reason but it's good to be able to say something, you know, instead of keeping quiet and finally being able to stand up for myself because it does look like I'm really weak letting him just push me around like that it's just not cool. I've always been taught to keep my head low look the other way and just move on and, you know, like don't worry about it, you know don't worry about this kid, don't worry about this person bullying you like, it's okay just move on like, I've always been taught that way to just try to not get bothered by people bullying me... um, but that's... ...I don't want it anymore. I'm a grown-ass woman and I need to take care of myself. I need to take care of myself. So, yeah. This is it. And if you are here still listening to me thank you so much. Don't think a lot of people care about this sort of video or care about me this way because, you know, I make fitness content so if you are here watching this video if you actually bothered to listen to the entire video, it really means a lot to me because it's... it's a long video, I reckon... um... yeah. Thank you so much for watching. Thank you so much for listening, I appreciate that. I really appreciate that, like, I mean it. I really do mean it. Um... it's nice to be heard. Again, thank you so much for listening and I'll see you guys in the next video bye bye
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