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  • So last week I did a video

  • summarizing three of the biggest ideas

  • in this book right here.

  • "Atomic Habits" by James Clear.

  • And that's the only Dr. Seuss's calamity in this video

  • but I just couldn't help it.

  • But like I said, in that video,

  • this is one of the better self development books

  • that I've ever read,

  • and when it comes to building habits,

  • I think this is the best habit building book

  • that I've ever read.

  • But while those three big ideas we discussed in that video

  • do kind of encapsulate the strategic component

  • of building habits,

  • they aren't the entire picture

  • because as anybody who's ever studied business

  • will tell you to run a successful business,

  • you need two things, strategy and tactics.

  • Strategy being the foundational sort of birds eye view,

  • huge ideas that really form the foundation

  • of everything you're trying to do.

  • And tactics being the more in the trenches plans

  • that allow you to carry out the strategy

  • on a day to day basis,

  • in addition to dealing with whatever crap

  • life happens to throw your way.

  • And while running a business and building habits

  • in your everyday life, aren't completely identical goals,

  • they do have one key component

  • in which they are very, very alike,

  • which is that you need both strategy and tactics.

  • And luckily "Atomic Habits"

  • also deals with this more tactical question.

  • In fact clear lays are four different rules

  • for making habits stick over the longterm

  • and making sure that you stick with them even when life

  • inevitably gets in your way.

  • So in today's video,

  • we are gonna summarize those four rules,

  • I'm gonna give you my thoughts on each of them.

  • So let's get started with rule number one,

  • which is to make it obvious.

  • Any habit that you're trying to build,

  • shouldn't come with question marks on it.

  • Where am I gonna do it?

  • How do I do it?

  • When do I do it?

  • If you're asking these questions,

  • you're already getting off on the wrong foot.

  • One of my favorite quotes from this book

  • is actually one of my favorite quotes in general

  • which is that, "You do not rise to the level of your goals,

  • "You fall to the level of your systems."

  • And if your system hasn't defined a clear picture

  • of what a habit is supposed to be,

  • then you're not really gonna know what to do.

  • For instance, I will eat more vegetables is unclear.

  • How do you know on any given day

  • that you've actually completed that goal?

  • Is a single baby carrot enough?

  • Well, if you've set your system in an unclear way

  • or if you set the bare minimum so low,

  • then on many days you're gonna find yourself

  • falling to that bare minimum,

  • eating a baby carrot and saying, "Hey, I ate vegetables."

  • And that's the thing, on really busy days,

  • or days when you're feeling just really, really tired

  • or unmotivated,

  • you can bet that you are going to just fall

  • to the bare minimum requirement that your system has set.

  • And over time, this can lead to self sabotage

  • because while you are technically fulfilling

  • your requirements of the system,

  • the results you get through that habit,

  • through that practice are so infinitesimally small

  • that you don't see real progress over time.

  • You're basically just kind of stalled out.

  • But you can easily fix this by making the goal obvious

  • by setting some specific requirements

  • that give you a very clear bare minimum,

  • that's actually gonna get you results.

  • So going back to our vegetables goal,

  • instead of saying, "I will eat more vegetables,"

  • just again, very unclear,

  • maybe say something like,

  • "I will eat one full serving of vegetables

  • "every day at lunch, except for on Sundays

  • "and fries don't count."

  • I don't know who thinks fries are a vegetable

  • but hey, we gotta be specific here, right?

  • But you can see it's very clear minimum requirement

  • makes it a lot harder to cheat yourself in the long term.

  • And it also makes it a lot more obvious

  • what you're supposed to be doing on a day to day basis.

  • And if you wanna make this even more obvious,

  • then it's a good idea to have a written record

  • of your past accomplishments,

  • of your past compliance with the habit that you're set out.

  • In other words, track your habits.

  • We, human beings have a very fallible memory.

  • Sometimes it's hard to remember what we did yesterday

  • let alone two weeks ago.

  • So if you have an actual concrete record of what you've done

  • you'll often find it motivating and you'll find it more easy

  • to keep doing this in the future.

  • Now when it comes to tracking your habits,

  • there are a ton of different methods out there.

  • If you're a fan of pen and paper,

  • I did a video earlier this year

  • about something called the Martin System,

  • which my friend Martin created,

  • and a lot of people seem to like,

  • so I'll have a link in description for that video,

  • but there are also tons of habit tracking apps out there,

  • Habitica being my favorite one,

  • because it brings in lots of video game design elements

  • and video games designers

  • have had probably about 40 years this point

  • to study psychology and figure out

  • what motivates players to keep playing their games.

  • So you can take those insights,

  • put them into a habit tracking app,

  • And at least in my experience,

  • it makes it a lot more motivating to use.

  • Of course you could also just mark things off

  • on the calendar,

  • mark each day as you do the habit,

  • which Jerry Seinfeld is very famous

  • for having done with writing jokes,

  • and that's why this is often called the Seinfeld Effect.

  • But whatever you do, calendar, app, Martin System,

  • whatever it is,

  • simply tracking your habits

  • is going to make it more obvious every single day

  • what you're supposed to be doing,

  • because you have a record.

  • Now, this isn't always going to be enough.

  • Just making a habit obvious

  • isn't going to ensure that you're going to do it.

  • So let's talk about the second rule on Claire's list

  • which is to make it attractive.

  • The idea here is to pair the habit

  • that you're trying to build, which is often difficult,

  • requires self-discipline, requires motivation and willpower

  • with something that you already like to do.

  • And this can be especially important

  • in the early stages of this habits

  • where again, it's taking mostly willpower for you to do it

  • because it hasn't yet worn a well-worn neural pathway

  • that makes it an automatic behavior.

  • Or I guess in definition, a habit.

  • Giving an example,

  • my friend Martin wrote this script for this video,

  • and like me he doesn't necessarily like writing

  • especially when it's nonfiction productivity scripts.

  • But there are two settings in which he can make himself

  • get into the writing habit and get started

  • by tweaking his environment

  • to make it a little bit more enjoyable.

  • The first one is at home, he'll clean off his desk,

  • he'll make a fresh cup of tea, since he's a tea drinker,

  • and he'll light a candle.

  • So he's making his home environment a bit more attractive

  • as a writing space.

  • Alternatively, sometimes he actually goes out in his car

  • and we'll park somewhere in nature

  • where he can look at trees

  • and writes a script on his iPad.

  • Personally at a knock at the allure of riding in my car,

  • I think it'll would be very uncomfortable,

  • but hey, whatever works for him works for him,

  • and whatever works for you will work for you.

  • So try to tweak your environment

  • in a way that makes it more enjoyable

  • to get into this habit.

  • You could also create what I like to call Jedi Councils,

  • which is just my nerdy term for a mastermind group.

  • I don't really like the term mastermind group

  • 'cause a lot of those fake gurus love to use it.

  • So I'm gonna go at Jedi Council,

  • but essentially,

  • a Jedi Council is just a group of like-minded people

  • who have similar levels of ambition,

  • who agreed to get on a call every week or every two weeks

  • and support each other.

  • I was on the same Jedi Council call

  • with the same four people for about four years.

  • And every couple of weeks we'd get on a call,

  • and we talk about what we had done

  • over the past couple of weeks.

  • Every week, somebody would be in the hot seat,

  • they would kind of do a deep dive

  • on the struggles they were having,

  • what they were trying to do in their business

  • or in their goals.

  • We'd all just sort of provide support

  • and encouragement and accountability.

  • At the end of that call, everyone would say,

  • "Here's what I'm going to do in the next two weeks,

  • "keep me accountable."

  • One thing I've noticed with friends,

  • is that often friends are too close to you,

  • they like it too much to really hold your feet to the fire

  • with a goal.

  • Maybe some friends will actually do it,

  • but a lot of friends will sort of forgive you

  • when you fall off the horse,

  • which is not always what you need.

  • Sometimes you need to somebody who's kind of at arms length,

  • who cares about you,

  • but they care about you in a way

  • in which they're going to really hold your feet to the fire

  • and ask you,

  • "Why did you not do what you said you were gonna do?"

  • You know, they're not gonna take it can excuses from you.

  • So it can be very, very helpful to form a group like this.

  • The accountability these people provide you

  • might not always be enough to help you hurdle

  • the difficulties involved

  • in sticking with your habit longterm,

  • which is why sometimes you need to look for a way

  • to reduce that difficulty.

  • In other words, make it easy.

  • The main thing we're looking to do here

  • is to remove as much friction as possible

  • from whatever positive habit that you're trying to build.

  • So for an example, let's talk about guitar for a second.

  • It took me all of two seconds to go and grab this guitar

  • off the stand over there.

  • Now, when I bought this guitar,

  • when I bought my first guitar in Colorado,

  • they always tell me the same thing.

  • You live in Colorado, which is a very dry environment.

  • So you need to buy a case

  • and you need to keep the guitar in the case

  • as much as possible,

  • and you also need to buy this humidification device

  • which you have to fill with distilled water every two days,

  • Otherwise guitar is gonna crack over time

  • and become worthless.

  • And I understand what they're saying and they're not wrong,

  • but here's the thing,

  • I did that at first diligently when I bought my first guitar

  • here in Colorado,

  • and as a result, I almost never played it,

  • because it was locked in the case,

  • it would take me, you know, probably 20, 25 seconds

  • to go get the case, unlock it, take the stupid humidifier

  • out of the strings,

  • and then get myself ready to play.

  • So now I've said, "You know what?

  • "I don't care if my guitars crack over time,

  • "I will buy a new guitar 40 years down the line,

  • "when my old one has worn itself out."

  • Because in exchange,

  • by keeping my guitars out all over the house on stands,

  • just ready to play, ready to pick up

  • whenever I have a whim to play, I play much more often.

  • And as a result, I've seen my skill grows so much faster.

  • And the funny thing is,

  • I don't even have to make it obvious for this goal.

  • I don't have to say, I will practice guitar

  • and do these scale patterns every single day for 20 minutes.

  • It's just easy.

  • I love to play guitar.

  • It is something that takes work,

  • but because the guitar is right there

  • whether I'm upstairs, whether I'm down here in the studio,

  • whenever I have a spare moment,

  • I'll often pick it up,

  • and about half the time I pick it up,

  • I'll end up making something up

  • that I really like and wanna record.

  • So, make it easy.

  • Remove the friction involved in getting into whatever habit

  • that you want to do.

  • Another way to make a habit easy,

  • is to Start with baby steps,

  • or in other words, to set the bare minimum

  • at least at first, at a level that you know

  • you could accomplish every single day.

  • Even if something weird and unexpected comes up

  • and interrupts your day,

  • even if life gets in your way.

  • So for example,

  • and Martin put this in the script,

  • I think to annoy me,

  • but if you're trying to meditate,

  • which I don't like to do,

  • and you set your goal and immediately at 10 minutes per day,

  • you might find that your mind is not used

  • to 10 minutes of meditation.

  • My mind isn't even used for 30 seconds of meditation.

  • It's just not for me.

  • But if you're trying to get into a meditation habit,

  • it might be more useful to set a two minute goal to start.

  • Two minutes is something you can absolutely do,

  • every single day.

  • You probably meditate for two minutes

  • while waiting in line at the grocery store.

  • And if you can get your mind

  • used to the feeling of stillness for two minutes,

  • you'll be able to slowly work yourself up to three minutes,

  • five minutes, 10 minutes, half an hour,

  • whatever people who meditate like to do.

  • I also find this works for writing.

  • When I was writing my book

  • "10 Steps To Earning Awesome Grades."

  • I set my bare minimum goal at 500 words per day,

  • because I knew if I had to,

  • I could write 500 words sitting on the toilet.

  • They might not be very good,

  • but I could do it.

  • And in some days I find myself pushing past

  • that 500 word minimum goal.

  • Some days I would write 3000 words,

  • but I knew if I set my goal at 3000 words per day,

  • on a lot of days, I was going to fail.

  • So set a baby steps goal,

  • and don't worry about what your results are right now

  • if you're only sticking to the bare minimum,

  • as Claire writes in the book,

  • "You should be far more concerned

  • "with your current trajectory,

  • "the direction of which you're going extrapolated

  • "based on the points of data you already have,

  • "than with your current results."

  • In other words, ask yourself, "Where am I headed?"

  • with the steps that you've been making,

  • with the incremental bumps you've been making,

  • where are you gonna be in the future?

  • Well, if you like how the future looks,

  • then don't worry about where you are right now,

  • because where you are right now

  • represents your training ground.

  • It's kind of like this episode of "Dragon Ball"

  • I used to watch when I was a kid,

  • where Goku had to run around

  • with this giant a hundred pound turtle shell on his back

  • and he could run very, very slowly

  • and could barely jump,

  • but the moment he takes it off,

  • he could jump like a hundred feet in the air.

  • I thought that was real in fifth grade,

  • and I thought I'd be able to jump a hundred feet in the air,

  • If I put a turtle shell in my back,

  • or like carried weights around, that's fake.

  • But the idea is there, isn't?

  • So let's move onto the fourth rule in the book,

  • which is to make it satisfying.

  • So part of what makes building a habit so difficult

  • to something that the human brain

  • kind of hasn't wired itself to fully accept yet.

  • And that's the concept of delayed gratification.

  • This is when you forego a present reward,

  • a short term reward,

  • in order to get a future and hopefully better reward.

  • And this comes up a lot in modern day life,

  • because we love to make big plans.

  • Plans that right now might cost a lot of effort,

  • money and time,

  • but that potentially won't pay off

  • for a very, very long time.

  • And I say this happens more often now,

  • because in the modern day a lot of us

  • can reliably count on that future existing.

  • So we go to school,

  • or we start that scrappy business in our garage,

  • or we save up for that PS5,

  • but for most of human history,

  • we were hunter gatherers

  • who had to rely on what we can get right now.

  • And while PS5s are very hard to catch,

  • so as the saying goes, one PS5 in the hand,

  • is worth two PS5s in the book.

  • In other words,

  • if you don't know that your next meal is coming,

  • then you learn to prioritize what you can get right now

  • over future potential, maybe rewards.

  • Loss aversion becomes a very, very useful

  • survival mechanism,

  • when the potential consequence is starvation.

  • And we've never fully escaped this mindset.

  • This deep seeded brain wiring takes a long time to change.

  • Our external environment has changed relatively rapidly.

  • Seems like it's been thousands of years,

  • but in terms of brain wiring,

  • well, that's pretty done quick

  • and the brain just hasn't had time to catch up.

  • As Claire points out in the book,

  • "Because of how we are wired,

  • "most people will spend all day

  • "chasing quick hits of satisfaction."

  • And you can see how this might be a little bit productive

  • for building strong habits.

  • Since a lot of habits aren't immediately satisfying

  • and take a bit of discipline to get you

  • toward their eventual goal.

  • So what we need is some metaphorical way

  • of getting all three PS5s.

  • We need something that motivates you

  • to stick with the habit longterm,

  • but that gives you something satisfying in the moment.

  • In other words,

  • we wanna bundle some sort of short term reward

  • with the longterm rewards gained through the habit.

  • Now there are really bad ways to set this up,

  • for example, if you are a runner

  • and you're trying to go on a run every single day,

  • maybe giving yourself an unhealthy snack as a reward,

  • isn't the best idea.

  • For one, eating as little as three Oreos

  • could actually counteract the calories burned

  • in an eight minute mile,

  • and well, not everyone's gonna care about that.

  • That is something worth considering,

  • but number two,

  • you could actually end up building a bad habit

  • through rewarding yourself for sticking to a good one.

  • And that's just not really a good thing to be doing.

  • So instead, find a way to give yourself a short term reward

  • that is helpful in and of itself.

  • For example, if you go for that run,

  • maybe reward yourself by coming back

  • and listening to an audio book,

  • or spending the time when you're cooling down,

  • reading a fiction book.

  • That way you also get to reading time in,

  • but you're also rewarding yourself for going for that run.

  • Another potential short term reward here

  • might be just the simple and sweet dopamine release

  • of checking off a check box.

  • Personally, I love writing out my daily plan

  • on my whiteboard,

  • so I can check off those check boxes as I go.

  • And I briefly mentioned habit tracking systems earlier,

  • but another great benefit of marking down your progress

  • is simply having a record of your success

  • and deriving satisfaction from being able to look back

  • on that record.

  • In any case, finding these short term rewards

  • or being creative and coming up with your own,

  • can be especially valuable in the beginning,

  • because like I said in the last video,

  • the compounding effect of their skill building journey

  • really hasn't started to show its power yet.

  • In the beginning, your daily 1% improvements

  • still might not add up to all that much,

  • and you might be feeling a little bit discouraged

  • about your results.

  • So if you can pair that with a reward,

  • at least until the compounding effect

  • has really started to show,

  • you're gonna be able to stick it out

  • through that initial difficult period.

  • Additionally, it just feels good to see

  • a long unbroken streak of successes,

  • but if you do end up failing,

  • like I said in the last video,

  • and I feel compelled to reiterate here,

  • don't beat yourself up about it.

  • Avoid what Claire calls, the second mistake.

  • The secondary data point that causes a failure

  • to transform from an outlier, an anomaly

  • to something that indicates a trajectory towards failure.

  • If you can avoid making that second mistake,

  • if you can avoid starting that trajectory,

  • then a mistake is just that, it's a mistake.

  • It remains in the past,

  • and it doesn't really hurt you all that much.

  • So typically summarize this summary,

  • for whatever habit you're trying to build,

  • consider these four rules,

  • make it easy

  • make it obvious,

  • make it attractive

  • and make it satisfying.

  • Implement just one of these rules

  • into any habit you're building,

  • and I think you're gonna have a much easier time

  • sticking to it over the long term.

  • And if you think about these four rules

  • a little bit more broadly,

  • you can probably see that they actually apply

  • to more than just personal habit building.

  • And that they're used in a lot of the products and tools

  • that you use every single day.

  • For instance, if you're somebody who wants to get better

  • at math or science or computer science,

  • a tool like Brilliant, might be a lot more easy to use

  • on a day to day basis and to stick to,

  • because the people who build Brilliant

  • understand these habit building rules.

  • Which is why when you get into one of their courses,

  • instead of having a very long piece of text to read,

  • you're almost immediately thrown

  • into some sort of bite sized interactive problem

  • that gets you results right away.

  • And because you're getting active immediately,

  • and you're getting the satisfaction

  • of using the material to solve a problem,

  • like in the algorithms course,

  • where you learn to drag different blocks around

  • to make a correctly formatted algorithm,

  • you gain the satisfaction required to push through.

  • They're using that satisfaction principle right away.

  • They're using that attractive principle right away.

  • Of course, there are a lot of other reasons

  • to use Brilliant, besides these rules here.

  • For instance, they have more than 60 in depth courses

  • in their library, including a full math suite.

  • That starts from the basics of number theory,

  • and it goes all the way up to calculus and probability,

  • math for quantitative trading and finance,

  • along with science courses like gravitational physics,

  • and computer science courses

  • like their Python programming course

  • and the Algorithms course that I mentioned earlier.

  • And if you're one of the first 200 people

  • to go over to brilliant.org/ThomasFrank and sign up,

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  • premium Brilliant subscription.

  • So check them out and as always,

  • thank you so much for watching.

  • Hopefully you found something helpful

  • and actionable in this video.

  • Again, I highly recommend reading this book in its entirety.

  • It is one of the better self development books

  • that I've read.

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