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  • - I donated my kidney to my boyfriend, and he cheated on me.

  • And this is that story.

  • This all started in the beginning of 2015.

  • So we met through mutual friends.

  • He was really cute and outgoing and,

  • oh, God, sorry.

  • We would take turns making drives

  • to see each other and hang out.

  • And then, early on, he told me

  • he had chronic kidney disease and Crohn's disease.

  • So he had to connect to a machine every night

  • to filter out his kidneys.

  • At that time, he was 27 and had it for 10 years.

  • Just knowing that his kidney function was already below 5%,

  • it made me have this urgency to help him.

  • I didn't wanna wait to, you know,

  • have his condition get worse,

  • or he could have passed away too.

  • In order to donate, you have to be in good health.

  • They have to do tests

  • to make sure your body can survive with just one kidney.

  • And so, I had to do a bunch of tests

  • to see if I was a match.

  • Probably around three, four months going to his doctor

  • and getting blood work done and a glucose test,

  • different types of scans, and then in November,

  • that's when I got the call.

  • The doctors told me my body was ready to go,

  • and I was ready for surgery.

  • So I was the one who chose the date to be May 23rd

  • because 23 is my favorite number.

  • I was born on December 23rd,

  • and Michael Jordan's my favorite player, so.

  • I was tempted to YouTube the procedure before just to see,

  • just to get an idea what my body's gonna go through.

  • But I didn't, and I'm glad I didn't.

  • Surgery was pretty easy.

  • They put me under anesthesia,

  • so I was knocked out the whole time.

  • Once I woke up, I just remember

  • waking up to tubes in my mouth,

  • and they tried feeding me like, you know,

  • ice cubes, and I almost threw up.

  • But other than that, I just went back to sleep.

  • And it took me about two weeks to recover,

  • like, to feel back to normal.

  • So my doctor only recommended me to not drink,

  • you know, a lot.

  • I don't drink a lot anyways -so it wasn't really

  • a big sacrifice to me- and to not do physical sports,

  • like boxing.

  • And I was totally okay with that.

  • So for him, his lifestyle change;

  • they took the tube out of his stomach,

  • so he didn't have to go do dialysis anymore.

  • He just had to take anti-rejection pills and pain medicine.

  • His family was really grateful, and they cried a lot.

  • It just felt great for the both of us.

  • A few months after the surgery,

  • my boyfriend went to a bachelor party in Vegas

  • with some of his Christian friends.

  • His best friend was getting married.

  • He was texting me throughout the trip

  • how much he didn't wanna be there

  • and how much he just wanted to read the Bible.

  • And then I responded to him like,

  • "No, just enjoy yourself.

  • You know, you don't really go to Vegas too often and,

  • you know, you're with your friends,

  • you don't have to go onto dialysis anymore.

  • So, you know, just have fun."

  • I didn't think anything was gonna happen in Vegas

  • because he portrayed himself as a really religious man.

  • And he stuck to his morals throughout the relationship.

  • And so I thought this was just a regular weekend.

  • On the Sunday that he was coming home,

  • he came to my house unannounced,

  • panic in his eyes and just, like, pale.

  • Like, he looked really scared.

  • And I was just confused on what happened.

  • And then that's when he admitted to the cheating.

  • He admitted to doing things

  • with some of the bachelorette party.

  • It's funny cause those girls knew who I am.

  • And I know one of them was a close friend to mine too,

  • and I was just broken.

  • And then after he came and confessed what he did,

  • I had to go to work.

  • I had to go to work at Disneyland,

  • the happiest place on earth.

  • I was scheduled to work at the churro cart at Pixar Pier,

  • and I really didn't wanna cry in front of the guests.

  • One of my coworkers knew something was wrong,

  • and then he asked, "Are you okay?" and that triggered me.

  • The tears just fell down my face,

  • and I just couldn't stop crying.

  • And then my lead let me go home for the night.

  • I thought about it for a while,

  • and I decided to try to make things work.

  • Maybe he deserved another chance.

  • Maybe we can work it out and make it,

  • make it happen for us.

  • And after everything that happened,

  • it definitely hurt my trust issues with him.

  • And it was hard to trust again,

  • especially when I thought

  • he wouldn't do anything behind my back.

  • It did lead to a lot of fighting and insecurities.

  • We fought a lot about me not giving him enough trust,

  • and it just felt repetitive.

  • It really took a toll on our relationship.

  • One day we were fighting about him resenting me

  • of not being forgiving fast enough,

  • and in the middle of the argument,

  • he wanted to stop and read the Bible together.

  • I was like, "No, can we, kind of,

  • just talk like regular people?

  • And that's when he just shut down and pretty much said like,

  • "Oh, if God wanted us to be together,

  • then he'll bring us back together in the end." and hung up.

  • After he hung up on me, he blocked me on social media,

  • and yeah, just completely cut me out.

  • I felt really hurt that he could just, you know,

  • throw me out of his life like that.

  • I would work at Disneyland five days a week,

  • and it was kind of hard to, you know,

  • keep that smile throughout my shift.

  • But I decided to make peace with the situation

  • and decided to stop trying to contact him.

  • Even after everything has happened,

  • I still don't regret donating my kidney to him.

  • Despite the trauma and the heartbreak

  • that I had to go through,

  • it did lead me to a better life,

  • and that's how I met my current boyfriend.

  • I'm with someone who really loves me unconditionally.

  • I haven't been happier. I'm not mad at him.

  • I don't hold any grudges against him.

  • I only wish him well and for him to live a happy life.

  • I don't want my kidney back.

  • Go ahead and have it, and make sure you treat it well.

  • (gentle upbeat music)

- I donated my kidney to my boyfriend, and he cheated on me.

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