One, stop thinking you are more intelligent or deeper than your extrovert counterparts.

第一，停止認為你比你外向的夥伴更聰明或更有深度。

Sometimes, you know, because of our own insecurities, we try to weaponize superiority so that we can feel good and justify about our social anxiety.

有時，因為我們自己的不安全感，我們試圖把優越感變成武器，這樣我們就可以對我們的社交焦慮自我感覺良好並合理化。

I've definitely had this before where I was like jealous of how some people were just social baby butterflies that I wore my homebody badge of honor like it made me special or above it all.

我以前肯定有過這樣的經歷，我嫉妒有些人是交際花，而我明明是個宅女，卻為此感到榮耀，好像這樣會讓我變得特別或高於一切。

Or my favorite phrase that I used to avoid parties when I was just simply afraid of other human beings.

或者是我最喜歡在我用來避免參加派對，實質上只是因為我害怕其他人類時說的藉口：

I just hate small talk.

我討厭跟陌生人尬聊。

Two, stop avoiding investing in relationships and then acting like a martyr when you don't have any friends.

第二，不要再因為不投資時間在人際關係上，造成沒有朋友的情況後又表現得很可憐。

Look, I get it.

聽著，我懂。

We live in a world that is constantly demanding not only our attention but dictating what are reasonable response time is. It's draining.

我們生活在一個不斷要求我們注意的世界中，而且還要在合理的時間內回應。這讓我們很疲憊。

Sometimes you do need to disappear for a while.

有時你確實需要消失一段時間。

Sometimes you need alone time.

有時你需要獨處的時間。

Sometimes you need to fall off the face of the earth and disappear into your bed.

有時你需要人間蒸發，躲進你的床上。

But when you intentionally avoid nurturing your friendships or relationships, then act as though you did some bold sacrifice by becoming peerless.

但是，當你有意避免培養你的友誼關係，並表現得好像你做了一些大膽的犧牲，變得無敵了一樣。

You're just kidding yourself.

你只是在自欺欺人。

'Cause if you need alone time just communicate that. If you're in a state where you absolutely can't, come back to a relationship with a "Hey, sorry, (I've) been overwhelmed."

因為如果你需要獨處的時間，只要溝通一下就行了，如果你的狀態不對， 跟你的朋友說聲：「抱歉，我最近狀態不好。」就行了。

And finally, stop letting your fear ruin your ability to say yes.

最後，不要再讓你的恐懼毀掉你說「好」的能力。

I mean, how many opportunities are we missing out on because we're terrified of the unknown?

我的意思是我們錯過了多少機會，只是因為我們對未知感到害怕？

How many times are you going up to an event or a party and turning around at the front door?

有多少次你去參加一個活動或聚會，到了門口卻後悔？

How many almost are you turning down because you're just too afraid to show up?

有多少次你因為太害怕出現而拒絕參加？

I think introversion can be a beautiful thing, right? Cultivating an inner world, allowing your mind to wander, investing, and nurturing your own garden. All beautiful things.

我認為內向可以是一件美麗的事情，對吧？培養一個內心世界、允許你的思想遊蕩、投資和培育你自己的花園，這些都是美麗的事情。

But as with everything, it requires balance and moderation. And I feel like introverts have a tendency to go into extreme solitude or put up armor because of insecurity, fear, or anxiety.

但就像所有事情一樣，它需要平衡和節制，而我覺得內向的人有一種傾向，就是因為不安全感、恐懼或焦慮而進入極端的孤獨狀態，或武裝自己。

I'm Anna Akana.

我是 Anna Akana。

Thank you the patrons for supporting today's video and thank you as always to my Daddy — Squarespace for sponsoring today's episode.

感謝你們贊助今天的影片還有支持，並且也要感謝我的乾爹 Squarespace 贊助今天節目。

Daddy Squarespace makes it easy for creators to monetize their content and expertise in a way that fits their brand.

乾爹 Squarespace 讓創作者以適合其品牌的方式輕鬆實現其內容和專業知識的貨幣化。

With member areas, you can unlock a new revenue stream for your business and free of time in your schedule by selling access to get a content like videos, online courses, or newsletters.

你可以通過出售對影片、在線課程或通訊等有門檻的內容的訪問，為你的業務開闢新的收入來源，並可以自由發布。

Plus online booking makes it easier than ever for your clients to schedule classes or sessions.

此外，線上預訂讓你的客戶比以往任何時候都更容易安排課程。

They have easy access to your availability and can reschedule online, taking the hassle out of coordinating calendars.

他們可以很輕易知道你有空的時間，並可以在網上重新安排時段，減少調整日程的麻煩。

And if you're a content creator like myself, using video, they now have Video Studio where you can create pro-level videos effortlessly.

如果你像我一樣是一個影片創作者，他們現在有 Video Studio，你可以毫不費力地製作高水準的影片。

Their Video Studio app helps you make and share engaging videos so that you can tell your story, grow your audience, and drive sales out.

他們的 Video Studio 應用程式幫助你製作和分享引人入勝的影片，這樣你就可以講述你的故事，增加你的觀眾和推動銷售。

You can head to squarespace.com for a free trial, and whenever you're ready to launch, go to squarespace.com/anna to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.

你可以前往 squarespace. com 進行免費試用，無論你何時準備推出自己的內容，到 squarespace.com/anna，為你首次購買網站或域名節省 10% 的費用。

Okay.

好了。