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Hello everyone, welcome back to my channel.

So today we are going to be answering your questions about our relationship and being a newlywed couple, a newlywed couple in Japan in an international relationship.

This video is actually sponsored by dude, she's gonna tell us, you should tell us about the show because you know you've known it for a longer time.

Sure it's called Try to say that 10 times fast.

It's actually a show that's been around for about 50 years.

It's the longest running show with the same host and it actually won a or it's in the Guinness Book of world records for being the longest running show with the same host show.

It's all about relationships and international relationships and also other crazy relationships.

So it's mostly international, but they also have other crazy relationships.

I wouldn't say crazy, but it's just not very common these relationships.

So someone that's older, way older than the other person or way younger.

A lot of the international ones are so interesting to us because we are in one in an international marriage.

We are going to be talking about that today.

So I want to talk a little bit more about the tv show.

It's very interesting the difference between american relationship type tv shows and japanese relationship type tv shows.

So we're going to go run that clip real quick and then we'll come back if you've ever seen a japanese tv show in general, you'll notice that the japanese pay loads of attention to detail, vibrant colors and extreme expressions.

The talk show, shin kong you're a shy is a tv show that began 50 years ago in 1971.

The show is the longest running TV show with the same host, Katsura Punchy, who is now 77 years old, which gives this show a deserving home in the Guinness Book of World Records.

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Mhm The show is about rare, unlikely or fascinating relationships, particularly surrounding international relationships in Japan, katsura bun Chee is known for his signature reaction to things when he's surprised they call this reaction is a coke.

If you live in the US, you'll know that compared to japanese talk shows, The hosts tend to be a little bit more chill and laid back, whereas japanese comedians and hosts can be a bit more expressive with facial expressions and body language as far as we know, America does not have any famous or well known talk shows surrounding only relationships amongst the culture, generally focused on reality tv shows and competitions.

We would love to see one.

They just released their Youtube channel.

So their Youtube channel has three languages that are available.

So you can watch it in english, chinese or spanish.

You don't have to worry about knowing any japanese, you can watch these shows with the subtitles.

I think it's super interesting.

They have a few videos up already.

So I will link their Youtube channel down below and we're going to answer some of your questions and everything like that.

So let's just jump right into the questions.

So the first question is what made us be together.

I know some of you guys are wondering because you guys are new here, where we met but I have a whole Youtube series on our meeting and how we met and I talked about it so much.

So if you guys want to go back in time and check those videos out, please do.

We met on instagram.

And he messaged me in my DMS rights when one of my videos went like crazy viral just overnight.

But I started to get a lot of messages starting to come into my inbox.

But I noticed his first and he was telling me about how he relates to a lot of my videos because he lived in Japan.

He was very articulate and very kind and not a pervert or weird or creepy at all and he was very creative and I loved all of your photos and you're like, you should come to L.

A.

And I'll shoot you And I was like, hell yeah, that was the gist of it.

I flew to L.

A.

And then we met and then we got engaged in two weeks.

You has been in the States for about how many years?

Eight years and then he moved back for me, Are there any difficulties challenges happening or troubles when you started dating?

I didn't have any many troubles when we started dating or anything because he's lived in the States for so long and I lived in Japan for so long.

So we just understand how we act and how we do things.

That's the difference with us cultural difference I guess.

Yeah.

But I think for us it's been easy to really adapt to each other because we just understand each other's cultures and that's what I really wanted in somebody.

If I were to date anybody, japanese, I wanted him to understand my culture.

One thing is I think like in english there's a little bit of like a nuance.

The difference is like if you mean something and I sometimes like my english is obviously not perfect.

So I take it in the wrong way or something.

Yes.

Yeah, I think that's a challenge to me.

It's more of a challenge if you have a language barrier, The other person has to know the language pretty well in order for a relationship to work out.

That's my opinion.

Maybe it's different for some people, but I think communication is like the number one most important thing in a relationship.

Are there any stories about international marriage in the beginning, like culture shocks, food preferences about your family, japanese and more.

A lot of this is pretty positive.

Like I when we got married, my life got so much easier.

He's been teaching me something every day that I didn't know that I've lived here for so long?

And there's so many things that I didn't realize.

I didn't know.

Like for example, my bike broke and I didn't know, I thought I had to go to a shop to fix it, but he's like, hey, no, there's a service, let me call them.

And it's just like, I didn't know all these services that existed or point cards that existed a lot that I didn't know existed and he's here to always be like, no, we can do this instead or renting a car.

Or like, I don't know.

There's just a lot that I just would have never been able to do without him.

So I feel like getting married to him was so much easier, but it's also making me lazy, but you always like, I don't know, teach me more american stuff too.

So yeah, So it's like, it's not like one way I think it's exciting to marry somebody that's from a, you are accepting of new information and things like that.

I'm learning a lot about Disney.

He doesn't know anything about Disney.

He's never seen a Disney movie.

The only movie you've seen is up.

Remember the old man and like that was Disney Pixar Disney Disney?

Yes.

Sometimes I question my marriage when he does things like that.

Is there anything that you don't agree on or have different opinions with.

Yes.

So being intimate in public.

So in Japan, like you just don't do that.

But I'm always like hugging him and like hanging on his shoulder like stop kelly wearing.

But in America you were like when we were like all over each other, I'm turning back into more japanese man that we should be more intimate because I'm a foreigner.

So it just makes sense.

Yeah, it's just like me being I guess in Japan I used to be japanese but more Americanized I guess.

But like I'm turning back into a japanese memoir.

No, don't turn back.

Okay, so in America we have central heating and central cooling and in Japan they have air con or air conditioning systems.

So I like to turn it on in the summer and all that stuff.

But in Japan they don't try not to use it so much to save money.

Same with like lights turning on lights and all that stuff.

It's just like, I feel like americans can be more wasteful.

Actually.

A lot of my japanese friends who lived in the United States or other countries, they always say like the A.

C.

Is too cold whenever they go.

Like they go to the bank so they go to supermarkets or they go everywhere.

City hall doesn't matter.

It's so cold.

Are you a comfortable couple that doesn't need privacy?

Like peeing with the door open?

I honestly wouldn't even pee with the door open in front of my family's I mean yes, okay we're comfortable couple.

Yes, we like fart in front of each other in America.

Everyone's like, that's a thing.

People say that.

Yes, people say that and I'm like, yes, we're comfortable.

It means you're comfortable with each other.

My friends would always ask that like, can you do those things in front of each other?

Just be comfortable because that's like when you're a real couple, you know, I agree actually, yeah, I think we're comfortable and I think you can confidently fart in front of me and I can do the same thing.

That's real true love.

I think we're comfortable with each other and everything that we do right?

I think we both need privacy though still, you know, I think it's the same for all the couples.

Okay.

So someone asked was it difficult at all as newlyweds to accommodate coexist with each other others, daily routines?

No, not at all because we started living with each other immediately and I feel like we got into the habit of our routine like just pretty quick, so Luigi and I have, you know, our own schedules and we just follow them.

So I think it's pretty easy to coexist and then we make time for ourselves on the weekend at least one day.

I feel like people make it more complicated than it has to be.

People, People think it's going to be so different.

It's going to change when you have kids.

That's what's going to change.

It's going to be hard.

I feel like one time.

Yeah, I feel like, yeah, I feel like when you're married things don't change as much as people think it's just kind of like, especially if you've already been living with each other, if you haven't been living with each other, I think that routines are going to be a little weird and hard to adapt to.

But I think once since we've been living together, it's it's not any different being married.

Like the only thing that changed was my name, How do you balance separate balance or separate your personal time?

I'm a morning person.

I wake up at 6:30 a.m. Sometimes seven, but I try to wake up at 6 30 am to start my day because it's so quiet and I can just be by myself and work out.

I can make my breakfast and just everything just feels very zen in the morning and I like to stay up late.

Yeah, you just stays up really late and I'm usually the first to bed.

So it's just kind of like we balance our time that way because that gives us our alone time.

I guess we have two rooms in our apartment so we're pretty separate, but it's still like we still need our quiet time I guess like no interruptions, no distractions sort of thing.

So that's how we do it.

Like talking too much, are there any cultural differences that you guys find hard to compromise on?

We already kind of touched on this.

But no, because I feel like we understand each other sometimes.

I feel like you're more japanese than they ever thought about me that way.

Like I'm more american than you are in some instances.

Like there's some moments where we just feel like, but we feel like we get each other.

Like it's just, it just makes sense if you were japanese and you grew up here.

I feel like there would be so many differences, but because we've traveled a lot and we're cultured and we just know about our countries.

It's just so easy.

Japanese people judge you or your husband because you are a foreigner.

People say anything to you about dating or marrying a foreigner.

No, we haven't think like that was like 1919 fifties or sixties or seventies feel.

Yeah, I feel like it's pretty common nowadays.

You know, I personally get a lot of negative comments from japanese people saying like go back to your country while you were Really Yeah.

Why are you marrying a japanese man?

Like you don't Yeah, there's a lot of, I feel like they're older people.

It's like 60 year olds, like men, it's only a, youtube like in my comment section, like japanese people will say, well say those things about me, but I've never had any like comments that were from that weren't japanese that were saying go back to your country sort of thing.

Like it's just, I think in general people here in japan, like american people.

I mean there are still a lot of people against it.

Maybe like super old people.

It's just mostly older people.

This question is, what do you choose english or a japanese name.

If you ever have both agree, actually we agreed to find a name that my parents can pronounce things something that japanese and english at the same time, japanese and like an american name.

So like for a boy we wanted to call him Luca whatever.

Easy for both.

Japanese people and english speakers haven't decided on the actual names, but we thought about Luca sora as for a girl's name and may for a girl's name.

If you guys have any suggestions for names, please come and sit down below.

Do we ever argue?

Yes, we just argue.

We argue about dumb things.

Okay, so here's one thing that I want to tell.

I think in Japan, if you're say a japanese husbands, we comment for, I guess a couple married couple do not talk about the problems I guess.

That's so bad.

Let it go.

Let it go.

No.

Yeah, no that's not, I disagree.

That's why like whenever we come up with, we can come across disagreement, I will, you know, try to talk to.

All right, thank you guys for watching and if you have any more questions for us, please comment down below, please check out Shinkansen attaches Youtube channel for more information about international couples and just relationships in general.