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  • - [Narrator] Hey friends.

  • What's the first thing that comes to mind

  • when you hear the word sex?

  • For some, sexy time means fun, enjoyment, or love,

  • but for others, it's a trigger for feelings of anxiety,

  • uneasiness, and embarrassment.

  • Do you feel uncomfortable when it comes to sex?

  • Are you avoiding it

  • or do you feel something's wrong when you're having sex?

  • If so, there's a possibility

  • you could be experiencing sexual repression.

  • If you're not sure, here are five signs to look out for.

  • Number one.

  • Lack of interest in sex.

  • Do you notice that you rarely think about sex?

  • Maybe you seek other forms of physical contact,

  • such as cuddling, kissing, or holding hands,

  • but having sex is just not on your mind.

  • You simply find it uninteresting and unappealing.

  • Lack of interest in sex could mean you are simply asexual,

  • but if you used to be interested in it before

  • and you don't find it appealing anymore,

  • you may be suppressing your sexuality.

  • Number two.

  • Feelings of guilt and shame.

  • Do you feel ashamed of your sexuality

  • or maybe feel guilty if you think about sex?

  • For some people, guilt and shame around sex

  • make their sexual desire diminish completely.

  • It could be that you grew up

  • in a religious or strict household

  • that saw sex as something dirty and bad.

  • If so, your psyche is trying to suppress your urges

  • as best as it can.

  • You may see it as a sin

  • or think that you're a bad person

  • for having sexual thoughts.

  • Not only do these feelings suppress something in you

  • that is completely natural,

  • but they could also destroy your romantic relationships.

  • Number three.

  • Inability to enjoy sex.

  • Sex should never be for reproduction.

  • If you choose to have sex,

  • you should enjoy it and feel good about it.

  • But if you are sexually repressed,

  • you may find it to be everything but enjoyable.

  • You may have trouble getting or staying sexually excited

  • or maybe having an orgasm.

  • These problems could take a toll on your mental health

  • and even worsen your symptoms of sexual repression

  • because having sexual activity you don't enjoy

  • could make you desire sex even less.

  • Number four.

  • Physical pain.

  • Another telltale sign of sexual repression is physical pain.

  • While it could be a sign of a medical problem,

  • pain in your abdomen or genitals during intercourse

  • could mean sexual repression.

  • If it's accompanied by emotional problems

  • or other signs mentioned,

  • it's best to visit your physician

  • to rule out other possible causes

  • and possibly work on emotional problems

  • that are causing you pain.

  • And number five, erotic dreams.

  • While, usually, people have zero desire for sex

  • when they're experiencing sexual repression,

  • there may be a part of you

  • that wants to satisfy your normal human urges.

  • But since the body and mind don't agree on the matter,

  • your subconscious is working instead.

  • This can manifest in erotic dreams,

  • dreams of flirting, passionately kissing,

  • having sex, or experiencing orgasm.

  • If you can relate to any of these points,

  • know that these feelings are nothing to be ashamed of

  • and it's certainly not your fault.

  • Even if you feel alone,

  • know that sexual repression is not uncommon

  • and it's possible to get help.

  • You can talk to a sex therapist

  • who can help you find out the reasons behind your feelings.

  • It could be your upbringing,

  • difficulties accepting your sexual orientation,

  • or a trauma response.

  • Talking about it and working on resolving the issue

  • could help you regain your sexual energy

  • and accept your body and your sexuality.

  • Can you relate to this topic?

  • Let us know in the comments below

  • and share this video with others who might benefit.

  • As always, the references and studies used

  • are in the description below.

  • Until next time friends, take care and thanks for watching.

- [Narrator] Hey friends.

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