How has this last week been?

Don't you already know?

'Cause I'm all-knowing?

Yes.

Yes.

So, last week you were trying to figure out if Adam was the one.

Yes, but I have been journaling my own answer to that question. Just like you told me.

How's it going?

Well, three things came to me.

First off, that Adam is really good at communication.

Whether we're just having, like, a fun conversation or discussing our feelings, or we're navigating conflicts.

Babe, I really think that we should eat this.

God said it wasn't chill babe. And you know I'm terrified of authority figures.

We shouldn't operate out of fear, right babe?

We don't know what... We don't know and don't you want to know?

I don't know, babe.

I like it here in paradise.

And plus, that snake looks sass.

What if the forbidden fruit shows us that there's places beyond here that we could explore?

I totally support you, babe, and whatever you want to do, babe.

But I had to draw a clear boundary.

Okay, babe I'm sorry to keep fighting about this.

I get it, babe, you're passionate. I do. I totally get it.

But let's table this and come back to it later when we're more regulated, okay, babe?

Absolutely. Every relationship is gonna have conflict.

The important thing is to know how to fight.

And if you and Adam want kids eventually, you'll want to model healthy conflict for them.

Yeah.

Otherwise they'll just kill each other.

Yes.

Yes. Unfortunately, they will.

What?

Hmm? What else?

Well, the second thing I realized is that we're both really aligned.

We have the same wants in life.

We're going in the same direction.

We have compatible value systems.

Okay. Well, if we moved out, where would you want to live?

Anywhere without bugs, babe.

I'm really sick of all these bugs everywhere, babe.

Yes, yes.

When we often ask ourselves, how do I know if this person is the one we're making it an "I" experience when it's not, it's a "We".

It's something we are building together with the other person.

A two person experience from one rib.

Yes, yes, recycling. You'll need it.

So what was the final thing you realized?

Well, the last thing was actually something that Adam said.

I told him that I was having trouble figuring out if he was the one, or just the only one in Eden.

Are you mad at me babe?

Of course not, babe.

It's a totally reasonable question to think through.

I asked myself the same question.

You have?

Yeah, babe.

And, how I know you're the one?

It's hard to describe it, but it's a sense that I can be myself completely around you.

The pretty parts, the ugly parts, and you accept me, babe.

And the core of our relationship, our foundation, is friendship.

One where we're both able to be free and safe around each other.

That is beautiful, babe.

Look, babe.

If you want to eat this forbidden fruit, I'll do it with you.

Really, babe?

Yeah, babe.

If it's important for you to have this experience together, to grow together, then as your person, I'll do it.

Babe.

So you ate the apple?

Yes.

And in eating from the Tree of Knowledge we realized we are the ones for each other.

That's wonderful, Eve.

So, are you gonna kick us out?

Well, that's all the time we have left for today.

Let's revisit this next week.

Same time?

Sounds great.

Bye.

Ready the rain.

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