Relationship experts all around the world have been trying to uncover the secrets of that passionate feeling that makes us blush and smile from ear to ear today we know about different types of love and different love languages and recently we're beginning to understand different behaviors we exhibit in a relationship experts call these behaviors love styles.

They define how you associate and relate to your romantic partner.

The special thing about them is that they stem from our childhood experiences according to licensed marriage and family therapist, Dr Milan and K.

Djurkovic.

There are five distinct love styles.

In today's video we'll tell you a little bit about each one and how you can recognize the way your partner feels about love.

Number one, the victim, If your partner's love style is the victim, there's a chance they grew up in a dysfunctional family where they couldn't voice their opinions in relationships, victims usually suppress their anger which then leads to passive aggressive behaviors.

Have you noticed those behaviors in your partner?

They might be giving you silent treatments using sarcastic remarks or avoiding you completely.

If there's a disagreement to make your relationship with the victim better, you should try acknowledging their feelings when they try using passive a christian against you use kindness as a counter attack, Tell them something like I see something is upsetting you would you like to tell me what's going on?

I'll be happy to listen this way they feel like their voices heard and they'll know that they're safe to express themselves in a healthy way.

Number two, the pleaser the pleaser grew up thinking that they need to satisfy everyone but themselves.

If your partner is a pleaser, you might notice they're always there to comfort you anytime day or night.

They barely ever argue with you and often let it be your way to avoid trouble and conflict.

And they might say phrases like I don't want to annoy you or I don't want you to be angry.

Pleasers are visibly committed to your relationship and maybe that's why you got attracted to them in the first place.

But sometimes they can backfire.

Then they might start feeling stuck and unsupported.

They might feel they have to mask their feelings and pretend nothing is ever wrong just to keep the peace as their romantic partner remind them that neither of you are perfect and that's okay.

Let them know that you're willing to listen to them and encourage them to be open and honest about their worries so far.

What do you think about these love styles?

You think something about them sounds familiar.

Each of these love styles is rooted deep into a person's childhood and is connected to something called the attachment theory.

If you don't know what that is and are curious to find out.

Check out this video of ours Number three, The Vasa later, the vast later love style describes a person who really wants connection and is somewhat a hopeless romantic, they idealize new relationships, hoping and longing for attention and love, but they seek the type of love they see in the movies.

Sometimes they might feel unfulfilled.

That's when they might say things like I don't feel heard, I don't feel important to you, you don't get me, I'm done.

As a result, you could both feel frustrated and confused to have a healthy relationship with a vaccine later.

You need to provide them with emotional support and be willing to listen.

You want them to feel heard and appreciated that way.

Even though they won't get their fairytale relationship, they might stop questioning themselves so much and start enjoying your love.

Number four, the avoider avoiders didn't share their feelings and affection while they were growing up.

As a result in romantic relationships.

They don't know how to express their love verbally.

Does that sound like your partner instead they prefer showing it through their actions.

Which could be a bad thing if there's someone who likes to be told that you're loved.

Your partner might also be an avoider physical and I feel awkward cuddling or kissing.

I believe you touch If you want your relationship with an avoider to thrive, you need to make sure understand, explain that every once in a while but let them be the one to initiate it compromise is a key to feeling good with an avoider during conflicts trying to give them time to cool off since they don't really respond to emotions and number five the controller, a person with this love style learned to do things on their own.

At a young age, they grew up believing that being in control means that they are strong and capable.

Today when a controller is in a relationship, they tend to showcase their decisiveness and ability to take charge With a controller.

You don't have to spend 30 minutes deciding where to go out and they know what they want right away.

In some cases this means they're confident in themselves, but sometimes it may go into toxic behavior, you may start to be afraid of their controlling.

They might try to control the way you dress, who you hang out with or who you talk to you on your phone if you're doing it's important work on your self esteem, learn how to set boundaries and I respect you too in your love desired.

However, if your lifestyle is ignored or not understood, you may feel insecure, taking for granted and bitter towards your partner and in turn your partner feels the same way.

This is what makes love styles so important by openly communicating what you need and listening to what your partner needs.

You can develop a more fulfilling relationship.

What do you think?

Which love style describes your partner the best?

Is that compatible with the way you love?