That's what our parents did to us.

They might never say I love you, but they did a lot of nice things for us.

Every night, I don't care how busy my parents were, they'll come home and make a five-course meal.

That's love, right there. Right?

Yeah.

Give it up for them.

Give it up.

That's right.

In our culture, food is love.

I love cooking with my girl.

We love cooking together.

Food is love.

That's why I hate watching all these reality cooking shows when they make food so freaking stressful.

Like all these guys with aggressive tattoos and they're just sweating in the kitchen.

They're like, "Yes, chef, yes, chef. Two minutes, two minutes. It's still, it's still raw."

And they're just making fxxking scallops.

There's two items on the menu and they can't even handle that shxt.

You go to any Chinese restaurant, there's about 485 items on the menu

And there's one dude back there in the kitchen.

He's not even a chef, he's somebody's uncle from Hong Kong.

And he knows how to make everything in under 30 seconds.

That guy is the real hero.

You know what I mean?

He got a yellow wife beater that he brought from the old country, just chilling near the wall, cigarette in his mouth. Just like (this).

That guy's a gangster, man and he just cusses casually in Cantonese.

It's just like, "DLLM."

Any of you guys speak Cantonese here?

A couple of you guys.

I was born in Hong Kong.

That's my first language.

I love that language, right?

I think it's the most fun language to speak because it's the most fun language to cuss in.

In Cantonese, you can just like low-key casually cuss.

Like you go to Chinatown.

You see like a nice old man walk by, he would just be like, "DLLM, ham gaa caan."

That sounds really nice, right?

But what he actually said was like, "oh fxxk your mother, I hope your whole family dies."

That's Cantonese, man.

You gotta love it.

You gotta love it, man.

In a relationship, I think it's important to know how you convey love, but it's just as important to know how you receive love.

You got to be vulnerable and let your partner do nice things for you.

See, I'm not very good at that.

I'm terrible at like directly asking for things that I want.

So instead, I just drop little hints that's called being passive-aggressive.

Don't do that.

Don't do that.

Like for example, I love watching these YouTube videos of Japanese housewives making bento boxes.

It's very nice, very cute.

It's like a little ASMR, you know, it's just really nice.

Japanese woman wakes up at 6 a.m. every day to make her working husband a bento box.

But I can't ask my venture capitalist girlfriend to make me a bento box.

I'm not an idiot.

I'm a sugar baby.

I know my role.

So instead of asking it directly, I just drop little hints.

Like we'll be sitting on the couch together.

I just pull out my phone and pretend I accidentally stumbled onto this video.

I'm like, "Oh, what is this? Bento boxes?"

"Oh my God. It's so cute. What is that? Like a rice ball shaped, like a panda? Look. Look, look, look."

"Wow. So she makes this every day for him?"

"Wow. She must love him so much."

I thought I was being slick until she came out to one of my shows.

And she heard this joke and she was really upset, man and rightfully so I was just up here talking shxt, right?

We went home, we got into a big fight.

She was like, "Babe, that's bullshit."

"OK?"

"If you want me to do something, why don't you just ask me directly, and if you really want somebody to make you bento boxes, why don't you just go find a Japanese woman?"

"I'm like, babe, I'm sorry you feel that way. OK? But I think you're missing the point."

"You don't have to be Japanese to make bento boxes."

That's right.

That's right.