And comparison is the deadliest thing we can do to ourselves because we will always come up short.

And all it does is exaggerate all of our insecurities.

It's okay to enjoy other people's success, but you let them live their lives and you live your life.

Oh, and by the way, they're curating their social media, that's not really their way.

And so you're making decisions based on how you feel, based on their curated things.

I know. I've talked to so many millennials.

I know somebody who's out of work, really depressed and yet she goes and does all these things, so she has the appearance of this amazing successful life.

And so she may be making those decisions based on what her friends who knows what sort of weird, twisted, exaggerated, you know, circle of depression this is forming.

So go back to the rules of the infinite game.

Your friends are there to admire. Your friends are there to say, God, I'm so happy for them.

What are they doing that I can learn from?

I'll give you an example.

So we can all fall into this trap.

So, you know, in my business, authors and speakers and folks like us, we're all comparing ourselves to each other and sometimes it can get silly and competitive.

And there was, you know, sometimes I go on Amazon, I check the rankings of my books to see that I still have a job.

And now and then, there was this one author who I hated for no reason.

He's very smart.

His work is incredibly good.

He's incredibly well-respected. I respect him, but I hate him.

And I would check the rankings of his books.

And when I was ahead, I'd be like, "Yes."

And when he was ahead, I was like.

It would drive me crazy.

And I had this weird abstract competition, same thing, right?

Social media happened to be Amazon rankings and I would check in all the time.

I'd always check in, mine, his, mine, his, nobody else, just mine and his.

Anyway, we were... I was at an event and we were interviewed together on the same stage and the interviewer decided to let us introduce each other.

So I went first.

I had to introduce him and this is what I said, I looked at him and I said, "You make me very insecure."

I said, "Because all of your strengths are all of my weaknesses and every time I see you do well, it just reminds me what I'm bad at."

That's how I opened up.

He turned to me and he said, "Funny, I feel the same way about you."

And now we love each other because I realized that he's really good at what I'm bad at.

So by me getting to know him and really learning to love him, I'm realizing I'm getting better at those things and I'm taking more pride in the things that I'm good at,

rather than thinking I have to be good at everything he's good at.

Right?

So that is healthy to grow our own strengths and rather than be intimidated by the strengths of others.