I need you to pause and listen in this lesson, I'm going to tell you seven things

that you must stop saying this year, seven things that if you stop saying them,

your English will go to the next level.

Are you ready to learn what these seven things are?

Well, then I'm teacher Tiffani.

Let's jump right in.

The very first thing you must stop saying is my English is bad.

And you're probably smiling or shaking your head because you've said this before.

Oh, I'm sorry.

My, my English is bad.

Why do you need to stop saying this this year?

Here's the reason why you must stop saying this.

When you say my English is bad, this phrase undermines.

Your confidence and also discourages conversation.

What do you mean teacher Tiffani?

Let me explain it more.

The moment you say my English is bad.

Your brain says, okay, well, we're not going to work hard.

We're not going to work hard.

If you already believe that your English is bad, why is your brain going to work

overtime to help you find the words or expressions in your brain's database?

It actually decreases your confidence in yourself.

When you say my English is bad, you're not believing in yourself.

Remember, I tell you all the time I believe in you, but you

have to believe in yourself.

The second thing is it also discourages conversation.

If you start off the conversation by saying my English is bad, well, the person

listening will say, okay, well, we're not going to have a good conversation

because you don't have the ability to express yourself in this language.

So a part of their listening suddenly turns off.

Oh, well, this person can't speak English.

So.

I'll just kind of listen, uh, kind of, and then I'll keep walking.

Don't say my English is bad.

Listen, I'm trying to help you improve your English this year.

I want you to be able to speak English fluently, but you must

stop saying my English is bad.

So what's the alternative?

What should you say?

This is what I want you to say.

I'm still learning English.

So please bear with me.

I love this one.

Hey, I'm still learning English.

So please just bear with me.

In other words, Hey, I'm still on my journey.

I'm still on my journey to speak English fluently.

Would you mind just being patient with me?

I guarantee the response is going to be much different from how my English is bad.

Okay.

Well, turn off my ears.

I'm on my English journey.

Would you be patient?

Sure.

I'm going to.

Open my ears even more, pay attention, even more, my friend, stop saying

my English is bad and instead say, I'm still learning English.

Please bear with me.

You got it.

Listen, write this down.

This is going to help you this year.

Let's move on to the second thing.

I need you to stop saying this year.

The second thing is this.

It's too difficult.

It's too difficult.

Stop saying this.

When you say it's too difficult, once again, you're telling your

brain, turn off, I don't need you.

I don't need your effort because this is too hard.

It's too difficult.

English.

I can't do it.

Why do I want you to stop saying this?

Here's the main reason when you say this.

It can discourage others and limit personal growth.

Listen closely.

It can discourage others and also limit your personal growth.

What do you mean?

What I'm saying is as human beings, we affect each other.

So the moment you say it's too difficult, the person listening

to you, another English learner, maybe you were their goal.

You were like, Hey, they were like, man, if she can do it, if

he can do it, I know I can do it.

The moment you say it's too difficult, all of a sudden.

Well, if it's too difficult for them, I know I can't do it.

You can not intentionally inadvertently start discouraging someone else.

And also it will limit your own growth.

Similar to the first thing I told you not to say, when you

say this, it's too difficult.

Again, your brain says, well, we're not going to grow in this area

because you believe it's too hard.

Stop believing that stop saying that.

What should you say instead, instead of it's too difficult.

I want you to say this.

I find it challenging.

That's a fact, but I'm willing to figure it out.

Ooh, I get so excited when these are the words that replace the old words.

Listen, I find it challenging.

I'm admitting this is not the easiest.

It is challenging, but I am willing.

To figure it out, listen, my goal is to help you this year.

Speak English fluently.

Do you believe in yourself?

Are you willing to figure it out?

Listen, I feel good.

I hope you feel good.

So again, instead of saying it's too difficult, I want you to say,

I do find it challenging, but I'm willing to figure it out.

You know what?

Say it with me.

I find it challenging, but I'm willing to figure it out.

Yes.

Let's move on.

Number three.

What's the third thing I need you to stop saying this year.

I'll try once again, I'll try.

You're probably thinking to yourself, wait, Tiff, why is I'll

try something that I shouldn't say?

Here's the reason.

The phrase leaves room for doubt and uncertainty, doubt and uncertainty.

I'm realizing that this is an English lesson, but also a motivational lesson.

So I'm hoping you're feeling motivated.

When you say I'll try even watch my body language.

If you're watching this lesson on YouTube, watch my body language.

I'll try.

I don't really believe I can do it per se, but I mean.

I mean, I'll, I'll give it a try.

There's this measure of doubt, this measure of uncertainty, like, ah, I

don't know the a hundreds that believe that I can do it, but I'll try.

So what do I want you to say instead of I'll try, this is what I want you to say.

I will do my best.

Such a different phrase I'll try, not sure if it's going to happen, but I

mean, I'll try versus I will do my best.

I'll give it my all.

I'll give 110 percent listen as your English teacher.

And I'm sure, or I hope you guys can feel this.

I hope you realize how passionate I am about helping

you achieve your goal this year.

I'm not trying, I'm doing my best.

I'm giving 110%.

Why?

Because I believe in you.

I am giving my best.

I'm not just, well, I'm trying.

I mean, I'm trying to record a video.

No, when I get in front of this camera, when I get on this microphone, I am

here for you giving my all my friend.

I need you to do the same thing when it comes to your English.

Don't try.

Give your best.

Don't slack off.

Don't be lazy.

You have control of your English journey.

Listen, man, I believe in you so much.

You have the power to take yourself to the next level.

Why you have a teacher who cares about you.

I care about you.

We've never met in person probably, but I care about you.

And now I just need you to believe in yourself.

Do your best, give your best.

And I.

Guarantee you will see results.

So stop saying I'll try and instead say, I'll do my best.

You got it.

Ooh, I felt that one.

I felt that one.

Here we go.

Number four, I need you to stop saying this.

Stop saying.

It's impossible.

Stop saying it's impossible.

It's not again, I'm your English teacher.

English is my first language.

Yes.

I understand that, but I have watched too many students do what

you might think is impossible.

It doesn't matter your age.

I don't care if you're 75 years old, it's not impossible.

I don't care if you've been studying English for 25 years, it's not impossible.

Here's the reason I need you to stop saying this.

This phrase can indicate a closed mindset and lack of creativity, a closed mindset.

Nope.

Hey, I'm done.

I mean, it's impossible.

It's impossible for me to speak English fluently.

Why am I trying?

That's a closed mindset.

And it also shows a lack of creativity.

You see, here's the truth of the matter.

As human beings, we all learn differently.

We each have a different learning style.

Some people are visual.

Some people need to hear things auditory, right?

Some people simply need a book and they can read it and boom, they get it.

But just because what you've been doing now has not worked,

it doesn't mean it's impossible.

You just need to get creative and find another.

Way of studying my goal as an English teacher is to hopefully provide you

with various methods, different ways of studying English that are more

enjoyable, that are creative to help you move forward along your journey.

To speaking English fluently.

So stop saying it's impossible instead.

Here's the alternative.

It seems challenging.

You want to acknowledge?

Yes.

I mean, it's a fact it seems challenging, but let me look for possible solutions.

Listen, I've been studying English for 15 years.

It's I'm not going to lie to you.

It it's challenging, but I'm willing to look for possible solutions.

There has to be another way to do what I'm doing.

People are speaking English fluently.

There's a way to get moving, to move forward on my journey.

I'm willing to look for possible solutions.

Man, I can't wait for the day when I can meet you in person.

And see all of the changes, all of the improvements witness in person,

your English speaking ability.

When you stop saying it's impossible and start saying, Hey, it's, it's challenging.

Yes, but I'm looking and willing to look for possible solutions.

That's called confidence, baby.

You can have confidence as a beginner, as an intermediate and

as an advanced English learner.

Listen, believe in yourself, wherever you are on your journey.

It's challenging, but I'm willing to look for some possible solutions.

You, you better say it, be confident in yourself.

Here we go.

Number five, number five.

The fifth thing I need you to stop saying, I don't need help.

I'm good.

I'm good.

I can do it on my own.

I don't need help.

Let me say this wasn't even planned.

Not in my notes at all.

When you say I don't need help, you are limiting yourself in so many different

ways, I'm your English teacher, and I'm going to be very transparent right now.

I'm going to be very honest with you.

I'm building this community, right?

We have this YouTube family, a YouTube community.

I have my Academy with my family.

Uh, students are called my family.

Again, you can join the Academy if you'd like links in the description, but the

purpose of what I'm saying right now is.