HowdoesthisstemfromtraumaWell, itisduetodisassociationandhypervigilance, whichrefersto a stateofheightenedawarenessandhavingyourguardupchildhoodtrauma.
Subconsciously, thisbehaviorishighlydamagingtoone's selfesteembecauseyou'relabelingyourself a failureorloserforsleepingortaking a break, whichissomethingyoudeserveandyoushouldn't feelguiltyfordoing.
So, wheredoesthiscomefrom?
Emotionalneglectas a child?
Fromyourparentsnotbeingpresentorfulfillingyouremotionalneeds, beingtiredcanbe a triggertosadfeelings.
It's a feelingofliterallyleavingyourbodyorfreezingwhenyoufeelthatyou'rebeingputonthespot.
Someexamplesofonthespotdisassociationincludehavingtodo a presentationinfrontofpeopleatschoolorworkandhavingananxietyattackorevenbeingnervousandfidgetyon a firstdatewhenbeingaskedintimatequestions.
Wheredoesthiscomefrom?
PsychiatristIrvinYalomtalksabouthowweusuallyonlyput a childonthespotabusively.
Anexampleishow a parentmayputtheirfingerontheirchild's faceandspeaktothemaggressivelyinanattempttoinstillfearandintimidation.
Thistypeoftraumaresponsealsostemsfromparentswhoarehypercriticalandoverbearingsuchasnotgiving a childenoughspaceandnotallowingtheirthoughtsandopinionstobeheard, laughingthroughthepain.