You can't change your career at 35 you should have had it figured out by then.

你不能在 35 歲時改行，那時你應該已經想好了。

Oh my god you're not married at 38 what the hell are you doing with your life?

天啊，你 38 歲了還沒結婚，你這輩子到底在幹什麼？

Who comes up with this stuff I have no idea but this stuff plagues so many people that I speak to.

我不知道是誰想出了這些東西，但我接觸過的很多人都被這些東西困擾著。

So many people open up to me and say Jay I just don't know how to change is it possible?

很多人向我敞開心扉，說 Jay 我只是不知道如何改變，這可能嗎？

What do you think this guy was before he became who he is?

你覺得這傢伙在變成現在這個樣子之前是個什麼樣的人？

He used to be a PE teacher right sports teacher at a high school.

他曾經是一所中學的體育老師，也是一名體育教師。

How about her?

她怎麼樣？

She was a telemarketer for two weeks.

她做了兩週的電話推銷員。

How about her?

她怎麼樣？

She applied to be a funeral director.

她申請成為一名殯儀館館長。

It's incredible.

太不可思議了

What happens in society is that we're clouded by the noise.

社會上發生的事情是，我們被噪音矇蔽了雙眼。

The noise of family expectations the noise of our parents the noise of our brothers and sisters expectations I grew up in a family where you can either be a doctor a lawyer or a failure right those are my three options.

家庭期望的噪音，父母的噪音，兄弟姐妹期望的噪音，我在這樣的家庭中長大，在那裡你要麼成為醫生，要麼成為律師，要麼失敗，這就是我的三個選擇。

Anything else would just count me as a failure I would have failed so basically I failed right I'm standing up here in front of you all as a failure.

如果不這樣做，我就會失敗，所以基本上我失敗了，現在我站在你們面前就是一個失敗者。

I'm in one of the most incredible periods of my life that I could ever have asked for and so much of that is based on the fact that I decided to do something different.

我正處於人生中最不可思議的時期之一，這是我求之不得的，而其中很大一部分原因是我決定做一些與眾不同的事情。

So many of the times our expectations are driving us in a certain scenario we focus so much on life in what we want to be as opposed to who we want to be because we've always been told that life and jobs and careers are like boxes and containers there's only a finite number of options there is no formula there is no pattern.

很多時候，我們的期望會讓我們陷入某種境地，我們太關注我們想要成為什麼樣的人，而不是我們想要成為什麼樣的人，因為我們總是被告知，生活、工作和事業就像盒子和容器，只有有限的選擇，沒有公式，也沒有模式。

If you know what you're passionate about if you know what you're good at and you invest in that people say follow your passions I say forget that invest in your passion if you're passionate about something go and become the best at it go into a course on it go and learn from the best go and find a way to be incredible at that trade not only will you be criticized and grow you'll be able to find new things about yourself that you never knew don't trade who you are for who you think the world needs because the world needs you to be you and I mean that

如果你知道自己熱衷於什麼，如果你知道自己擅長什麼，併為之投資，人們會說追隨你的激情，我說忘了這一點吧，投資於你的激情，如果你熱衷於某件事情，去成為它的佼佼者，去參加它的課程，去向佼佼者學習，去找到一種方法，在這個行業中成為令人難以置信的人，你不僅會受到責備和成長，你還能發現自己從未了解過的新事物。