You can't change your career at 35 you should have had it figured out by then.

Oh my god you're not married at 38 what the hell are you doing with your life?

Who comes up with this stuff I have no idea but this stuff plagues so many people that I speak to.

So many people open up to me and say Jay I just don't know how to change is it possible?

What do you think this guy was before he became who he is?

He used to be a PE teacher right sports teacher at a high school.

How about her?

She was a telemarketer for two weeks.

How about her?

She applied to be a funeral director.

It's incredible.

What happens in society is that we're clouded by the noise.

The noise of family expectations the noise of our parents the noise of our brothers and sisters expectations I grew up in a family where you can either be a doctor a lawyer or a failure right those are my three options.

Anything else would just count me as a failure I would have failed so basically I failed right I'm standing up here in front of you all as a failure.

I'm in one of the most incredible periods of my life that I could ever have asked for and so much of that is based on the fact that I decided to do something different.

So many of the times our expectations are driving us in a certain scenario we focus so much on life in what we want to be as opposed to who we want to be because we've always been told that life and jobs and careers are like boxes and containers there's only a finite number of options there is no formula there is no pattern.

If you know what you're passionate about if you know what you're good at and you invest in that people say follow your passions I say forget that invest in your passion if you're passionate about something go and become the best at it go into a course on it go and learn from the best go and find a way to be incredible at that trade not only will you be criticized and grow you'll be able to find new things about yourself that you never knew don't trade who you are for who you think the world needs because the world needs you to be you and I mean that