I wanted to be known as all of those things in school, but I was constantly worried that people thought I was unattractive and awkward, so during my teenage years, I was very unconfident and shy.

Now, I'm someone that my younger self had always dreamed of becoming, and more, because never could I have imagined that I would be putting my face in front of thousands of strangers to judge.

But this glow-up in all different aspects and confidence took me many, many years to get to, and because I'm the older sister in the family, I had no one to tell me what to do to make it easier.

It was a rough journey, so I'm here to help make your glow-up way easier.

Today, I'm spilling the secrets that I wish I knew about becoming smarter, more attractive, and interesting.

Make sure to stay to the end of the video for a little twist.

Let's go!

Being smart, and also being perceived as smart, can be very advantageous.

Well, that was kind of a dumb statement.

Ironic.

How can you be smarter and be perceived as smart?

The easiest way to do this, no, is not from your report card, but it's with your ability to contribute to conversations.

There are several ways to do this.

One, listen to what people are saying instead of just hearing it.

I used to be really awkward and have a hard time talking with people, so I'd seem really dumb because I would only be hearing the words they're saying passively.

You have my undivided attention.

Instead of listening intently to their meaning and processing it so I can have something to say back.

So instead of just letting the words go in one ear and out the other, and being so stressed about what to say next, Be so absorbed in the moment of their words so you can really feel how the other person feels.

And then when you give a response that shows you're empathetic, then they think, oh, you're really smart and you're understanding.

The second thing you can do is to learn wisdom or philosophies that can be applicable to any situation.

For example, the advice on this channel is not just study tips.

If you think about it, most of my advice is applicable to people who just want to level up in life in general.

People have called me smart not because I'm some genius with a high IQ, but because I give holistic advice that reaches and helps people on a deeper level.

One way that you can learn philosophies and additional wisdom that I don't share on this channel is in my free newsletter.

You can sign up for that in my description box.

An example of a newsletter I sent with wisdom is where I shared how you can achieve more with this mindset.

If your friend is struggling with something and their words are all littered with, I can't, then tell them, instead of thinking, I can't, think, how can I blank?

You can also tell them that this is an abundance mindset instead of a scarcity mindset.

And boom, the more you can give helpful advice to other people, the more they will appreciate your mind and the smarter you will be about solving your own problems.

The third way is to value people's internal beauty.

If you want to be smart and perceived as smart, that means that you want to place emphasis on what's on the inside, right?

So if you want other people to see what you have on the inside, then you need to genuinely value that as well instead of just looking at outside appearances.

When you start admiring people for who they are on the inside rather than just the clout they have, you're going to subconsciously be able to feel and think about things deeply and in a more smart way.

Then automatically and naturally, your language that you use on a daily basis will reflect how you value deeper things and not shallow things.

For example, once you place emphasis and prioritize your internal skills and characteristics, you won't care as much about materialistic new clothes, the latest celebrity.

So that will lead you to speak about shallow things less as well.

I can tell from your comments how deeply you think about things and reading your words makes me feel, wow, that person is so smart because they took a moment to reflect and give their own perspective.

Because I admire that, then I myself will also speak in a more smart and deep way.

Another way you can gain knowledge and be able to spit those random facts is by reading more books, watching more documentaries.

When you take time to consume a long piece of content with a story, then you're more likely to remember that and be able to recall that in a conversation.

Giving examples and evidence in your spoken word just like in an essay is just as important to being smart and credible.

You want people to value your thoughts.

They do this when you give them good advice that also makes them think.

Something that makes them go, wow, I've never thought of that before.

That's so helpful.

Being able to respond intelligently and show how someone's words move to you like you really listened will make people think very highly of you because that's also just being a good human at the end of the day.

How to be interesting.

So I read this quote somewhere, I don't remember where, but it's boring people are bored.

So if you are sitting in your chair or on your couch all day bored, ah, well, might as well go scroll on TikTok.

Might as well be told what to put in my brain through a Netflix show.

Then you likely are a boring person.

So how have the vibes been lately?

Low key.

I just feel like life's been mad cringe lately.

And how's your Riz?

Mid, no cap, on God.

When I'm bored, I realize, huh, I must be boring because I don't have an interest or a hobby I would love to do right now to get me not bored.

Thus, to be interesting, have real interests.

Think about some acquaintance you have like that person, let's call them Joe.

So Joe kind of knows you.

Now, if someone asked Joe, what do you know about Amy?

And Joe only says, I think she's nice.

Well, then I don't see him very interesting, right?

But if I have hobbies and passions that I'm always committed to, then probably word spreads around and Joe would be like, Oh, Amy, she likes playing tennis and she loves singing.

I think she has a YouTube channel.

Do you see how if you find things interesting and you commit time toward it, then people are also going to find you interesting.

So number one, have hobbies.

Not too many because you want to be able to commit a lot of energy to each one so that it's obvious that you're actually passionate about it and you have something to show for it.

Number two, have goals.

Have aspirations in life.

I find that the most boring people are when I meet them and I ask them about what they do outside of work, what they think about life, and they just always say, I don't know.

So have some way of reflecting and know what your goals are.

Number three, build transferable skills.

Fantastic skills that will help you in all aspects of life are writing, being able to portray your thoughts in a clear, understandable way, problem-solving skills, ability to create content, coding.

Once you build your repertoire of things you're good at, you might become known for that.

So someone might be like, oh, you have a coding question?

Go ask Amy.

Oh, you're stuck on writing an essay?

Well, let's ask Amy a quick question.

You're interesting because it shows that you love life and you want to live it to the fullest you can by improving your human capital.

I really admire people who have skills, not because of that skill itself, but because I know that it took a lot of time and commitment to get to that skilled point, to become a master.

And to do all of those things with hobbies, goals, and skills, you need to keep the mindset to convert time in a beneficial way to yourself.

That's the headline.

If you're converting time in a way that's beneficial to yourself, you're going to be interesting.

Attractiveness.

Okay, so yes, attractiveness is relatively subjective, but there are some universal things that I think many people would agree that increase your attractiveness.

Health and fitness.

Being healthy is super attractive.

That shows that you value yourself and your body.

If you don't even take care of yourself, then how can you expect other people to take care of you?

With fitness and treating your body like a temple, know that discipline is so attractive.

I like having and building abs, not because it's some beauty standard, but because they're a visible sign of my hard work and discipline.

When you make a decision based on how good that is for you, that is so attractive because that shows you value yourself and so other people will too.

Ask yourself, how does the way you carry yourself and treat your body reflect your self-esteem?

Number two, dress for yourself.

I had a phase in middle school where I would just copy what other people are wearing because that was all the validation I needed for looking cool.

You know how clothes are sometimes like a second skin?

Well, sometimes I wouldn't even feel comfortable in my own skin because the clothes wouldn't really represent what I wanted to wear.

Since it wasn't purely based on my own taste to wear that thing, the clothes were wearing me.

I wasn't wearing the clothes.

And people can feel that lack of confidence when you're not comfortable in your own skin.

So in college, I picked the pieces that I thought were so unique and cool just because I thought they were unique and cool.

And then I kind of became a trendsetter among my friends because they're like, oh, your fashion's so cool because you're so willing to try new things and just wear whatever the heck you want.

So dress for yourself.

Three, set boundaries.

Don't be a yes man.

People feel like they can push yes men around and that's not very attractive.

So if you actually don't want to go to that party everyone else is going to, then reject them.

Have strength and conviction in your own decisions and what you want to do.

Making choices for yourself means that you have confidence behind your own judgment.

You are your own person that won't just conform to everyone else and you're not just living on autopilot.

You know FOMO, fear of missing out?

Well, replace that with JOMO, the joy of missing out.

In high school, I might miss football games because I wanted to study for my chemistry test.

And guess what?

Sticking by my own priorities not only got me better grades and better results but people will also know that you're the kind of person that stands by what you say.

Four, there's a reason why confidence can literally transform a person's attractiveness regardless of what clothes they're wearing regardless of what they look like and regardless of what makeup they have on.

I used to purposefully act more shy and unconfident because I thought that if I acted too confident then people would be like, who are you?

Like you have no reason to be confident and they would look down on me.

I believe that if people thought I was awkward and shy then being awkward and shy would affirm them and I would have nothing to lose.

I was becoming the person that I feared I was perceived as.

But those were the low points of my life where I was the biggest people pleaser ever.

So this goes back to what I said earlier about valuing yourself and why confidence is so important because how can you get people to value you if you don't even value yourself?

I talked about how to gain confidence in my confidence video.

Like one of the things is to improve your skills and competence because then you have a reason to be confident.

So when I realized the value I can bring to the table gradually that self-esteem grew and the way that I smiled even changed.

Like my smile became bigger, more natural, began to light up my whole face rather than just being this grin shape.

Real attractiveness is like an aura.

You can't explain it because you can have the exact same smile from A to B but the whole vibe is just different when you have confidence in one picture and not in another.

This leads into the twist.

You ready?

Remember how I said at the beginning of the video that I wanted to be perceived as smart, interesting, and attractive by my peers?

Well, the real glow up comes from within.

You need to work on the things that make you believe that you are smart, interesting, and attractive.

Act in alignment with those things.

If you want to be a straight-A student, already believe that you are a straight-A student and do the actions that person would do.

Like I said earlier, if you want to have high self-esteem, give yourself a reason to have high self-esteem.

Act like you're trying to compliment yourself.

Look at yourself in the mirror and be like, You're great because you X, Y, Z.

Be able to give yourself reasons and cheer yourself on like you're your biggest fan.

If you can't give yourself reasons for why you're so great, then that's the first issue to fix.

You cannot ask for other people to find you worthy.

You have to see your own worth first.

You have to believe in it and not let it be shaken because there are mean, insecure girls in this world.

There are people who you might feel will gossip behind your back and think lowly of you, but you have to stand by yourself.

Remember that your perception of yourself is more important than anyone else's.

Finally, have patience.

A glow-up does not happen overnight.

I know glow-up in seven days sounds so enticing like those YouTube videos, but that's a lie.

That's just clickbait.

It's alluring, it's enticing, but that isn't even possible for a physical glow-up, let alone a mental glow-up in seven days.

Know that you're amazing and you don't need a glow-up.

Glow-up sometimes implies that we're not good enough already, but the way to think about it is that you simply want to bring out the best within yourself, the best potential that you already have.

Wow, the lighting has changed so much already.

The weather is getting warmer.

Yay, I'm so happy.

Now my pits are out in the open.

Okay, well, anyway, let me know what else you'd like me to cover.

I know that there are hundreds of different factors that go into glowing up like skincare and clothing.

That would be something new I discuss, so let me know if you like my take on those.