This was a Sunday and I looked at him at his eyes and I'm like, okay, this question really hits you.

And it was intentional because the last couple of months I've been watching, I watch all of them to see what's going on.

My daughter the other day, early in the morning, I'm doing my neck and she comes in and she's in basketball camp.

And I said, so babe, how was basketball camp yesterday?

Daddy, I didn't watch any movies, but I was just dribbling.

How come you didn't shoot any baskets?

And then she starts crying.

I said, what are you crying for?

You've never taught me how to shoot baskets.

You've only taught Tico and Dylan, but you haven't taught me.

That's why I never shoot.

I don't know if I can shoot or not.

Oh my God.

I'm like, give me a fricking break.

So I said, babe, let's go outside.

So I go outside and she starts shooting.

I said, you got one more, one more.

You got to shoot one more.

And then she makes four in a row.

Then she goes to the camp that day and she makes 30 shots that they come so bragging that you won't believe it.

I made 30 shots today.

It was so awesome.

And she's just bragging.

I'm so proud of it.

And I'm looking at myself as a dad.

I'm like, okay, each of these kids, I'm working in a different area.

One I've got to build a confidence.

The other one is this, but one of my kids, I get a sense he's drifting.

And what I mean by that is he's just kind of letting life go week by week by week.

And my wife and I were out of town our anniversary in three weeks, but we go early because our youngest daughter is born on our anniversary.

So this was only weekend for us to go away.

We'll go to this place and check on my sons in the morning, Sunday morning.

And my dad's going to church.

I said, so, hey, let me talk to my son.

And he says, oh, he's not with me.

I said, why not?

Are you going to church?

He says, I am.

I said, how come he's not with you?

He says he doesn't want to go.

I said, why not?

He says he doesn't feel like it.

I said, he doesn't what feel like it.

Huh?

I call him FaceTime.

I said, how come you're not in the car with Papa going to church?

That's because I didn't feel like it.

I said, feel like it.

He said, yes.

I said, you tell me you got big dreams just as I do.

I said, you think you're going to do something big with your life because you don't feel like it?

Feel like it?

Yes.

And I'm on the phone with him for 15 minutes.

I'm like, okay, I got to come home and have a conversation with this guy because two weeks prior to that, not even two weeks, a week prior to that Memorial Day, I take my kids to the cemetery for Lauderdale.

And we're going around dropping gifts to people that shopped.

And I'm surprising people that bought locally from us.

And we're at this Fort Lauderdale Cemetery Memorial Day because I want these guys to start being grateful for life and have some kind of a level of urgency in their lives.

And there's a video I, Mario was recording this.

I want you to watch this video.

We can watch it together to see what I'm telling my kids because I want them to be thinking about this.

Still, I haven't told you what that question is that completely leveled them, but it kind of goes from this video.

So let's watch this video here to get you kind of get an idea of what I'm trying to get my kids to be thinking about.

This is my 12 year old Patrick and my 10 year old Dylan.

Watch this.

What do you think we should all ask when it comes our time and it's our deathbed?

What do you think is the question we're going to be asking?

What do you think it is?

What question will you ask at that time?

Is it going to be how much iPad I played?

Is it going to be, what is it going to be?

Is it how many games I played?

What's the question you can ask?

You know, your time is up.

One, most important, am I going to go to heaven?

What else are you going to be asking?

Did I believe in God?

Same thing.

Did my life count?

Did I do what I do with the gifts that God gave me?

Did I waste my life or did I do something to make the next generation better?

You're going to be asking that question.

We have a small little slot of time to do something with our lives, but when it gets to that moment, you're going to be asking, was I someone that served others?

Did I make my God proud?

My family proud?

My country proud?

My heritage proud?

Those are the questions we're going to be asking because in no time, like this, this thing goes.

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We all look young like this, but this side doesn't lie, right?

You look at this side.

If you ever want to know how old somebody is, take their hands and look at it here.

You can guess their age because this never lies.

Wrinkles, right?

So I'm getting these kids to think about this and then I come home last night and I say, you and I got to have a meeting together, my oldest son.

He says, okay.

He's always ready.

Let's have the meeting.

I said, great.

So we go to the office and I said, can I ask you a question?

He said, what's that?

Here's the question that totally leveled him.

I said, what's the biggest victory you've ever had in your life?

And he says, oh wow, I don't think I've had one.

So how do you feel about that?

He says, not good.

And then he goes automatically and says, because my brothers had a lot of victories, my sisters had victories.

I said, I don't think your sister's had victories yet, but maybe your brother said it, but I'm not comparing.

I'm talking to you.

I said, how many victories do you think your dad had at 12 years old?

He says, is that a trick question?

I said, no, I'm just asking you straight up is how many victories you think I had at 12 years old?

She said, I don't know, daddy.

None.

I said, that's right.

I had no victories.

Nothing.

Never played organized anything.

I'm in Iran.

I'm in Germany, refugee camp.

I don't have great grades.

Nothing.

No one calls me a phenom or anything.

I've never won a medal, anything.

He says, wow.

That was the first time I had a victory in my life that actually others said, great job.

A victory.

What?

I was 18 and a half years old.

I graduated bootcamp in the army.

First time I ever had a victory.

I said, you're giving me the vibes of drifting in life the way I did until I joined the army.

He says, what do you mean?

I said, look, so make this chart and I just kind of write it out.

I said, let's just say life.

You have to have fun, work, service, family, you know, purpose, God, all this stuff I'm writing here.

He says, what if you have, your life is a nine in fun, but a three in work, but a three in being serious, but a six in family and a four in purpose.

Did you really live your life properly to, you know, live your purpose?

No.

I said, what if it's 10 work, 10 serious, one fun, four family and two purpose?

He says, yes.

I said, no.

Cause you have to also have fun.

He says, okay.

I get what you're saying.

So it has to be kind of like straight.

Everything has to be even.

I said, no, that's not it.

He says, then what is it?

I said, at different ages, you, some, something's going to be higher than other.

Right.

I said, you tell me you got big visions that I got big visions.

I said, then what are we doing?

I said, the way you're just going, you're just kind of drifting.

You're doing what your daddy did at 12 years old.

I said, I didn't have like family around me that could give me direction of books and all that.

I said, how come you don't ask me what stuff you want to learn?

I want to send you to this.

I want to say, you tell me what skills do you want to learn?

And then he says, okay, then let's put a plan together.

I said, great.

Tell me the plan.

What do you want to do?

He says, well, moving forward, I'm going to train seven days a week.

I said, how about I get you a trainer to work with?

No, no.

I don't want to train.

I already know my routine.

I say, you see, you're not asking for help.

He says, okay, I'll take a trainer.

How about two days a week?

I said, no problem.

Two days a week.

Someone's going to train with you.

I said, what skillsets do you want to learn?

He said, how about if I learn how to do this?

I said, great.

So I'm taking him to New York for one week film festival.

I'm going to go with him.

He says, great.

I said, what else?

What else?

Now he's getting excited about his life that he didn't have anything until 18 years old to celebrate with.

I'm a regular guy.

I was a drifter.

I went to jail.

Saturdays, NBA, basketball, RDY, never did homework.

Who gives a shit?

Just kind of like, boom, years went by.

Now some of you are watching this.

You're not 12 years old, you're 42 years old, you're 32 years old, you're 24 years old.

How about you?

How many years have you drifted?

How many months have you drifted?

Just goes by.

Why?

No, that's not right.

The purpose of life isn't fun as a number one.

Fun is a top 10 for me.

It's not a number one.

Now, I get it.

At different ages, maybe fun is going to be a number one.

It's not.

The longer I live and the more I'm experiencing life, the less fun is like a top five or top 10.

It's got to be a part of it because I want to enjoy my company with my kids, so we're always joking, laughing.