I'm your host Rob Dial.

Today, I'm going to be teaching you six different steps to taking back control of your life.

And so I have, you know, I have about 500 and something thousand people that follow me on Instagram and I get a lot of messages from people.

And a lot of times it's, hey Rob, I want to change my life.

What should I do?

And sometimes it's, hey, I'm in an absolute desperate place.

Please tell me what I can do to change my life.

And so whatever situation that you're in, you're probably listening to this podcast because there's a part of you that knows that you want to grow.

You want to change.

You want to become better.

And you know that there is another level of yourself that is out there for you to grow and improve upon and become that version of yourself.

And so no matter where you are in your life, whether you are just at I'm going to give you six steps that you can use and just try and just see how it works.

And really, this is my tip for you.

If you really want to make a massive change in your life, I want you to disappear for three months.

Let me explain what I mean by that.

When I said disappear for three months, I mean, anything that is outside of things that are absolutely 100% necessary and things that you have to do disappear from them.

And so, you know, if you are a single person and you've got a job and you've got nothing else, then literally disappear and see nobody outside of the people that you absolutely need to see for three months.

You can do anything for three months.

It's not a huge deal.

Just try it on.

See how it works for you.

Now, if you've got a family and you've got children, I'm not saying go rent an Airbnb and be away from your kids for the next three months.

What I'm saying is outside of your duties and your obligations, disappear.

So disappear to everybody except for your spouse and your children or whatever it is that you happen to have to do.

You know, so it's like you could tell your friends like, hey, I'm disappearing for three months.

I'm really going to work on myself.

I'm really trying to improve myself.

I just want you to be able to respect that.

I'll call you in 90 days.

How does that sound?

I'm going to go over six different steps of what I think that you should do every single day without, there's no way, there's nothing else that you're doing besides this outside of this.

You're disappearing.

You're putting this down.

You're doing these six things and you're figuring out exactly what it is that you want to do in order to reset your life.

It's kind of like, you know, the other day I was, I was on my TV and I have the YouTube app on my TV and I was watching YouTube and there was some sort of glitch in the channel.

Didn't work.

I tried to turn my TV off.

It didn't work.

So the only way to actually fix the problem was to do a hard reset, to unplug my TV, keep it unplugged for 20 seconds, plug it back in.

Hard reset started working again.

Some people listening to this podcast, you just need a hard reset on your life.

So that after 90 days you come out of your, uh, your cave after 90 days, your hibernation, and you're a different version of yourself.

People think it takes a long time to change your life.

It doesn't, it really doesn't.

It just takes hard fucking dedication, which most people are not willing to do.

So let's dive into it.

The first thing I want you to do every single day is meditate.

What does that look like to you?

Well, it could be 10 minutes per day.

It could be 20 minutes per day.

For me personally, I like to do at least 20 minutes per day.

And the way that I think about it is I know that for me, for most people, it's pretty much proven at this point that you, when you wake up in the morning, your brain, your subconscious is the most influenceable.

I don't know if influenceable is a word, but if it is, I just made, if it's not, I just made it up.

It is the most influenceable, uh, within the first 15, 20 minutes of waking up.

That is when your brain is still in theta state.

And so what I like to do literally every single morning is what my morning looks like.

I wake up, go to the bathroom, I brush my teeth, I get a glass of water.

I sit on my couch.

I put on YouTube and on YouTube, I look up 20 minute, um, meditation music.

So there's no guided meditation for me.

I just like the meditation music.

I sit on my couch, my wife, my dog.

We meditate for 20 minutes every single morning.

First thing in the morning after going to bathroom, brushing teeth, drinking water.

I recommend that you do it first thing in the morning without fail for the next 90 days in a row, hard reset on your fears, your worries, your beliefs and hard reset on the story that's happening in your, in your head and starting to become more of a more calm and center person.

I like to look at meditation like lifting weights.

You know, when you go into the gym, you can lift a little bit, right?

But as you keep going and you keep going a little bit more, a little bit more, a little bit more, a little bit more, the more that you lift heavier and the more consistent that you are, right?

So it might be 10 minutes today.

You do 10 minutes a day for the next week.

Then it might be 15 minutes for the next week.

Then it might be 20 minutes for the next week.

It might be 30 minutes for the next week.

You know, there's a point in time about five years ago and I was meditating for an hour every single morning.

And I'm like, shit, I need to get back to that.

I was really good at that point and went from 10 minutes of 15 to 20, 25, 30, 35, 40.

And I got a little bit more, a little bit more, a little bit more.

I'm at 20 now.

I'm not mad about it, but I could go a little bit longer as well.

And so that's the first thing I want you to do.

Hard reset.

First thing in the morning, meditate.

Second thing, make it a non-negotiable.

And these are, these six things should be non-negotiable if you really want a hard reset.

Second thing is you need to work out or get some form of movement every single day.

You have this amazing machine, this amazing system, this amazing body that you're born with.

And it reminds me of whenever I think about how people treat their bodies, when I look out into society, and I've definitely been one of these people that did this before, is there's a line that Jimmy Buffett has that I remember from when I was a kid, because my parents were really big Jimmy Buffett fans.

And he says, I treat my body like a temple.

You treat yours like a tent.

Most people treat their body like a tent.

Like they don't, they don't treat it to the level that they should.

When you treat it like a temple, it's like you, if you've walked into a temple before, like a really nice one, they're clean.

They're perfect.

They're serene.

They're amazing.

Like think of your body that way, move it in some sort of way.

Your body was made to move, treat this thing the way it was retreated.

Even if you're really overweight, move, because as you start moving, it becomes easier to move.

Go for a walk, do some stretching, do some air squats, do some yoga, go into a gym, lift some heavy weights, do whatever it is that you need to do to get your physical body moving.

I said this a couple episodes ago, but I like to view the body as like a separate being outside of me.

If I had a dog that was a puppy, it would be terrible to take that puppy and put it in a cage and keep it in mostly a cage its entire life.

Wouldn't it?

Because the puppy wants to move, it wants to run, it wants to experience the world.

That's what your body wants to do as well.

But how often do we just sit all day long?

Right?

So get your body moving in some sort of way every single day, whatever that looks like to you, you can decide, but it's a non-negotiable.

Number three.

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Figure out a specific lifestyle diet that you want to do and stick to it.

I don't care what it is.

It doesn't matter to me.

If you want to be vegan, be vegan, vegetarian, vegetarian.

If you want to be carnivore, be carnivore.

If you want to do the whole 30 and you could just turn into a whole 90, go for it.

Remove all the processed foods, remove all the seed oils, drink good water, right?

Just stick to some sort of diet that works for you.

Right?

What intuitively feels right?

Some people, vegan feels intuitively right.

Some people, carnivore feels intuitively right.

Some people, omnivore feels right.

I don't really care what it is that you do.

I'm not here to preach one over the other one.

I know it works best for me, but my body is different than yours.

My body is different than every other person in the world.

Your body is different as well.

What works best for you?

Start eating intuitively, have less sugar, have a lot less, we'll definitely get a lot less seed oils, but have a lot less processed foods.

If it came from a box, try not to eat it, but stick to some sort of diet for the next 90 days.

Not because of the, it's definitely the consistency in the mindset shifts when you have a diet for sure, but the better you take care of your body, the better everything else becomes.

So that's number three.

Number four, sorry, everybody remove alcohol just for the next three months.

You can do it.

I promise you, you can do it.

Think about the last time most of you are, it's probably like when you're like 17 years old, the last time where you went three months without drinking a sip of alcohol, really a crutch more than anything else for people.

Most of the time we're trying to numb ourselves.

We're trying to disconnect from the world.

So can I'm going to work out every single day.

I'm going to make sure that I eat the right way.

And I'm going to make sure I'm not going to have alcohol because alcohol stays in your system for up to 80 hours.

That's three days, which means if you drink on a Sunday, before you go to work, you're just going to have a couple of glasses of wine.

That couple of glasses of wine could stay in your system.

Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, that's over three days.

Just think about that.

You're not really fully up and optimized for three days.

It's taking out the game.

I don't want to be the best version of myself.

If I'm going to put myself into my life, into my podcast, into my business, I don't want 70% of myself to be showing up because I was drinking too much or because I had a couple of glasses of wine or because I wasn't eating the way that I should have.

I want a hundred percent of myself.

I want a hundred percent of my body, of my brain power, of my energy to go in to whatever it is I'm trying to do.

That's the way that you really start to move the needle in your life.

You can do it.

Just remove alcohol.

That's number four.

Number five is to journal, to figure yourself out, to start to figure yourself out because we all have stories and narratives and traumas and identities and personalities running around inside of our head.

We do.

We all have, they're all going all over the place.

We're not really even sure what's going on in there.

We think we are and then what I always hear from people every time I tell them to journal so often is, I thought I knew myself until I started journaling.

You really don't know yourself until you journal.

Put all of your thoughts and your feelings down on paper.

Become curious about yourself.

When you start really sitting down, just become curious like, what am I thinking?

What am I thinking about?

Why am I thinking?

How's my relationship with my mother?

How's my relationship with my father?

Do I resent anybody?

Am I holding on to any anger?

Am I holding on to any resentment?

Am I holding on to sadness?

Just start asking yourself questions.

Just become curious.

Imagine that you're a detective and you're showing up for a case and you're trying to figure out this person that you are.

What's the detective going to do?

Question, question, question, question, question.

You sit down with a journal and you start asking yourself random questions and then come up with the answers of them.

Ask yourself questions.

Come up with the answer of them.

Man, I was really pissed off yesterday.

Why did what she said to me get me so pissed off?

Oh man, because it reminded me of this thing that happened when I was younger when I was bullied as a little boy.

And even though it wasn't her fault, she triggered this one thing in me.