Youhavetobecautiousinthatregard, butthat's a lesscommonproblemthannottakingonenough. A lotofthethingsthatpeopleregardastrapsareactuallythemeanstotheirlife. Oftenyoungpeopleareafraidofcommitment, forexample, inthecontextof a romanticrelationshipbecausetheyfeelthatthat's goingtointerferewiththeirpursuitofsomethingmorevaluable.
Butthat's justnotthecase. You'renotgoingtofindsomethingmorevaluableinyourlifethan a committedrelationshipwithsomeonethatyoulove, thatsustainsitselfacrosstime, andthatinalllikelihoodproduceschildren. That's life.
Andtheremaybepeopleforwhomavoidingthatisthebetterroute, butthosepeopleareveryrareandyouneed a realreasontoassumethatyou'reoneofthosepeople. Andhopefullyforyou, you'renot. Youknow, I'vehad a verygoodcareer, a verymeaningfulcareerinmultipledimensions, andit's stillbeenthecaseformethatthemostimportantpartofmylifehasbeenmyintimaterelationshipwithmywifeandmyfamily. Sodon't beafraidofthat, orbeafraidofit, butdon't letthatstopyoufrompursuingit.
Whatadvicedoyouhavefor a youngmaninhis 20s? Make a plan.
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