That's why people smoke, even though they know they're going to get cancer, because it feels good.

I didn't wake up and think that I need to write something mean to someone.

Why?

Why didn't I do that?

Let me think.

It's because, well, one, I'm busy.

I'm happy.

That doesn't make me happy.

Doing that won't make me happy.

And I just don't see the need to do that.

So why did this person feel the need to do that?

So then I put myself in their shoes.

Well, clearly they gained something from this or else people don't do things.

And so they're gaining something from putting someone else down, which means they're not happy.

They're not in a happy place.

They're not accomplishing the goals they want to accomplish.

I think it's really important at a young age for kids to know that.

That when someone writes something on the Internet, they're not telling your story, they're telling theirs.

They're telling their story of unhappiness and not being where they want to be.

And I really believe that.

So there's many times where I read a hate comment and I go, oh, I'm going to roast you when I write something.

And I literally just delete it because I'm like, you have your own issue you're dealing with and I'm not going to...

It's going to be to no benefit to me to respond.

Anything we do, any action we make, I believe we have many layers as to why we made that decision.

At the top is like, oh, I made this decision.

What I tell everybody else of why I made that decision.

The second layer is what I tell myself.

So say if I took this glass and I broke this glass, what I tell everybody else is like, oh, it slipped.

The glass slipped.

Then what I tell myself when I dig a little deeper is, oh, I thought it would be funny.

So I like broke the glass.

But if I dig really, really deep into like, well, the real reason I smashed this glass, it would be because honestly, I think the segment I was doing really, really bad and I wanted distraction.

We lie to ourselves all the time about why we did something, why we said something.

Sometimes our instincts can kick in.

Like if you ask me an uncomfortable question, I'll respond right away because it's uncomfortable.

But what I'm saying to you is not true.

If I dig deeper, I understand why I acted that way.

It's really important.

You need to be in tune with yourself if you want to be successful.

I mean, the world, it gets really uncomfortable.

Success gets really uncomfortable sometimes.

It's a lot of stress, a lot of pressure.

If you're not truly in tune with your biggest teammate, which is yourself, there's no way you can succeed.

You need to know yourself really well.

So I encourage everyone to actually write down things like, I made this decision.

Why did I do that?

Write down all the reasons you did it and be real with yourself.

Say it out loud in an empty room where no one can hear you.

So there's no pressure.

Why did you say that?

Why did you do that?

If I'm having a bad day, this is something I've practiced for years.

I will talk to myself as well.

If I had a really bad meeting, I'll get into my car and I go, that sucked.

It's okay.

You know what?

We're going to do better next time.

And it's just about being your friend.

Just like how you would talk to another friend, you've got to talk to yourself the same way.

And it's a journey.

There's no easy solution.

There's no like, now I love myself.

It's a process.

It's a journey.

It's going to be hard, as all things are.

Even now, when I accomplish something, I don't care how many people come up to me and say, congratulations, you did really well.

This is a cool thing.

When I lie down at bed, I literally hug myself and I'm like, you did really good.

That was a really good thing you did today.

Even today, with all the people that are validating me, it still means something for me to tell myself, you did a really good job.