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You may think you have a pretty good handle on your bad habits, but what if I told you there's another unhealthy set of patterns in yourself that lurk in the shadows?
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Ones that disguise themselves as normal, everyday habits, silently sabotaging your progress, relationships, and overall well-being.
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Here are four unhealthy patterns that you probably don't realize you have.
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An unhealthy attachment to material possessions.
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It's easy to get caught up in the glamor of wealth and the attention you get from it.
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But an unhealthy attachment to these treasures can trap you in a cycle where your self-worth is dictated by what you own.
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Imagine someone who places immense importance on the car they drive, the clothes they wear, or the phone they have.
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They become obsessed with material possessions because they are symbols of success and validation in society.
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However, according to Vornin, a professional declutterer from The Plain Simple Life, relying solely on possessions to provide validation can lead to a constant need for more, where true fulfillment remains just out of reach.
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This obsession can strain your finances, sabotage relationships, personal growth, and the experiences that truly nourish your soul.
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It's crucial to recognize that material possessions are not a measure of your worth, but tools for enjoyment.
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Cherish the connections, the personal growth, and the experiences that money cannot buy.
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Unhealthy coping mechanisms.
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It's natural to seek comfort when you're stressed, but what if I told you that your seemingly innocent coping mechanism is actually unhealthy?
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Let's spill the beans on those multiple cups of coffee you drink every day.
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It's understandable that jolts of caffeine feels like a quick fix to get you through the day.
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It disguises itself as a source of comfort and energy, but it messes with your sleep patterns, leaving you even more exhausted in the long run.
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According to the National Library of Medicine, excessive amounts of coffee can fuel anxiety, make you restless, and increase blood pressure.
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So what's the healthy alternative?
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Regular physical exercise is a great way to boost energy levels and manage stress.
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Consider incorporating activities like walking or jogging into your routine.
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Instead of coffee, you could also try herbal teas.
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Green tea, roibos tea, or ginseng tea provide a natural energy boost and promote relaxation.
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Remember, moderation is key.
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Inability to handle positive emotions.
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Have you ever noticed yourself brushing off compliments or accomplishments?
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This tendency can actually hamper your wellbeing.
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According to Ruth Gochen, assistant professor of education in anesthesiology at Weill Cornell Medical College, as well as psychologist Mark Travers, one way this pattern manifests is through imposter syndrome.
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Despite overwhelming evidence of your competence, you may doubt your abilities, convinced that you are merely pretending to be successful.
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It's as if a relentless inner critic whispers in your ear, you don't actually deserve this.
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You may also downplay your skills, attributing your accomplishments solely to luck.
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You diminish your own efforts and deny yourself the credit you genuinely deserve.
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This cycle of self-doubt can limit your personal growth, hinder your relationships, and cultivate a sense of dissatisfaction or even emotional numbness over time.
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Allow yourself the genuine satisfaction that comes with success.
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Embrace compliments with gratitude, accepting them as affirmations of your worth.
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By doing so, you nourish your emotional wellbeing and create a positive ripple effect in your life.
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Remember, you are worthy of happiness, love, and success.
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Unexplained defensiveness.
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It's a natural instinct to protect yourself when you perceive a threat.
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However, when you feel constantly defensive, even in situations that don't warrant it, it may indicate an unhealthy pattern.
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Picture defensiveness as a protective armor that you wear, shielding you from potential harm.
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This armor can become heavy and burdensome, and you may find it difficult to remove.
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It makes you hypersensitive, even when faced with innocent remarks or constructive criticism.
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It can also make even the smallest comment feel like a personal attack.
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This defensiveness may stem from deep-rooted insecurities, unresolved emotional wounds, or fear of judgment and rejection.
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Unexplained defensiveness can become an unhealthy pattern if it hinders your ability to engage in open and authentic communication, preventing you from truly connecting with someone.
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This pattern can also affect your emotional wellbeing, as it may stem from unresolved traumas or deep-seated fears that need to be addressed.
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According to author Greg Lavoie, by being open to criticism and allowing yourself to be vulnerable, you can slowly remove that heavy armor of defensiveness and embrace real growth.
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Don't be afraid to reach out to a mental health professional if needed.
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Do you relate to any of these?
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Breaking out of unhealthy patterns is not always easy.
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It takes practice and courage, but it is worth it.
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Want to keep improving yourself?
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Check out our video on how to stop negative self-talk.
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Thanks for watching, Psych2Goers.
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Until next time.
