Oh, yes.

哦，是的。

You mean the one everyone called the pumpkin?

你是說那個大家都叫它南瓜的？

Yep.

是的。

I loved that jacket.

我喜歡那件夾克。

But after hearing all those comments, I stopped wearing it.

但聽到這些評論後，我就沒再戴了。

I felt so embarrassed, even though it made me happy.

我感到非常尷尬，儘管這讓我很開心。

I totally get it.

我完全理解。

Once I wanted to join the drama club, but I didn't because someone said, Gwen's too shy to act.

有一次，我想參加戲劇社，但我沒有參加，因為有人說，格溫太害羞了，不適合演戲。

I cared more about what they thought than what I wanted.

我更在乎他們的想法，而不是我想要什麼。

Why do we do that?

我們為什麼要這樣做？

Why do we let other people's opinions hold us back?

為什麼我們會被別人的意見所束縛？

That's exactly what we're talking about today.

這正是我們今天要討論的。

How to stop caring so much about what other people think about us.

如何不再那麼在意別人對我們的看法。

Welcome to Podcast and Chill on the Learning English Podcast Channel.

歡迎收聽學習英語播客頻道的 Podcast and Chill。

I'm Gwen.

我叫格溫

And I'm Leo.

我是里歐

Today, we'll share why we care so much, what it costs us, and how to let go of those fears.

今天，我們將與大家分享為什麼我們會如此在乎，在乎的代價是什麼，以及如何放下這些恐懼。

If you're tired of living for others, keep listening.

如果你厭倦了為他人而活，請繼續傾聽。

Let us help you take the first step to living freely, without fear of what others think.

讓我們幫助您邁出自由生活的第一步，不再懼怕他人的看法。

Oh, and here's a little reminder for our listeners.

對了，還有一點要提醒聽眾朋友。

In today's episode, we've prepared a free PDF with tips and to help you on your journey.

在今天的節目中，我們為您準備了一份免費的 PDF 文件，其中包含一些小貼士，希望對您的旅程有所幫助。

Make sure to check it out in the description box or the comment section.

請務必在描述框或評論區查看。

Now, let's get into it.

現在，讓我們開始吧。

So why do we care so much about what others think?

那麼，我們為什麼如此在意別人的看法呢？

First, let's start with this.

首先，讓我們從這裡開始。

It's normal.

這很正常。

It's part of being human.

這是人類的一部分。

According to researchers, thousands of years ago, humans have lived in groups.

據研究人員稱，幾千年前，人類就已經過著群居生活。

Back then, being accepted by the group meant safety.

那時，被集體接納意味著安全。

If the group didn't like you, it could mean danger or even survival.

如果這群人不喜歡你，就可能意味著危險甚至生存。

So, we learn to care about how others see us.

是以，我們要學會在意別人對我們的看法。

We don't need others' approval to survive anymore, yet we still crave it.

我們不再需要別人的認可來生存，但我們仍然渴望得到別人的認可。

But now, let's think about today.

但現在，讓我們想想今天。

Life is very different.

生活截然不同。

We don't need to fight for survival like before, but we still care about opinions.

我們不需要像以前那樣為生存而戰，但我們仍然關心意見。

What is the reason behind that, Leo?

這背後的原因是什麼，利奧？

In today's world, we have more pressure.

在當今世界，我們的壓力更大了。

I feel like society always tells us to act a certain way.

我覺得社會總是告訴我們要以某種方式行事。

Culture gives us rules about how to look, speak, and live.

文化為我們提供瞭如何看、如何說、如何生活的規則。

And then, there's social media.

還有社交媒體。

Think about social media for a moment.

想想社交媒體吧。

Every time you post a picture or write a comment, you wait for likes or comments.

每次發佈圖片或撰寫評論時，您都在等待點贊或評論。

You want people to approve of you, it's like a scoreboard for your life.

你希望別人認可你，這就像是你人生的記分牌。

If people don't respond, you feel bad, like you're not good enough.

如果別人不迴應，你就會感覺不好，覺得自己不夠好。

This can be so exhausting, right?

這會讓人筋疲力盡，對吧？

Always thinking, what will they say?

總是在想，他們會怎麼說？

Or, will they like this?

或者，他們會喜歡這個嗎？

Yep, and caring too much has a price.

是的，關心太多是要付出代價的。

What's the cost of caring too much, Leo?

太在乎的代價是什麼，里歐？

First, it takes away your freedom.

首先，它剝奪了你的自由。

You end up doing things just to please others.

你最終做的事情只是為了取悅他人。

Yes, like wearing clothes you don't like or saying yes to things you don't want to do.

是的，比如穿你不喜歡的衣服，或者答應你不想做的事情。

Second, it makes you insecure.

其次，它會讓你缺乏安全感。

If someone doesn't like you, you start doubting yourself.

如果有人不喜歡你，你就會開始懷疑自己。

Am I not good enough?

我不夠好嗎？

That's so harmful.

這太有害了。

And third, it stops you from trying new things.

第三，它會阻止你嘗試新事物。

You think, what if people laugh at me?

你會想，如果別人嘲笑我怎麼辦？

Imagine how many dreams stay dreams because of fear.

試想一下，有多少夢想因為恐懼而無法實現。

It's sad but true.

這很悲哀，但卻是事實。

But here's something important.

但有一點很重要。

Everyone has their own opinions.

每個人都有自己的觀點。

That's right.

這就對了。

What one person loves, another person dislikes, and that's okay.

一個人喜歡的東西，另一個人不喜歡，沒關係。

Some people love spicy food, others hate it.

有些人喜歡吃辣，有些人則討厭吃辣。

Does that make spicy food bad?

那辛辣食物就不好了嗎？

No, it's just a preference.

不，這只是一種偏好。

It's the same with people.

人也是一樣。

Someone may not like you, but that doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. Their opinion is about them, not you.

有人可能不喜歡你，但這並不意味著你有什麼問題。 他們的看法是他們自己的事，與你無關。

So what should we do, Leo?

那我們該怎麼辦，里歐？

We have to remind ourselves.

我們必須提醒自己

Others' opinions do not decide our worth.

別人的意見並不能決定我們的價值。

And focus on what really matters.

專注於真正重要的事情。

Your own happiness and the people who truly care about you.

你自己的幸福和真正關心你的人。

Right, because at the end of the day, the most important opinion is yours.

沒錯，因為歸根結底，你的意見才是最重要的。

Well said, Gwen.

說得好，格溫。

I think that if we let go of worrying about others, we can live freely and confidently.

我認為，只要我們放下對他人的擔憂，就能自由而自信地生活。

And isn't that what we all want?

這不正是我們大家所希望的嗎？

To live without fear and be ourselves.

無憂無慮地生活，做我們自己。

Absolutely.

當然。

It's time to stop giving away our power to other people's opinions.

是時候停止將我們的權力拱手讓給他人的意見了。

Let's choose to care less about judgment and more about what makes us happy.

讓我們選擇少一點評判，多一點快樂。

Your worth isn't in someone else's thoughts.

你的價值不在於別人的想法。

It's in how you see yourself.

這在於你如何看待自己。

All right, now let's bring out some useful phrases in today's episode for our listeners.

好了，現在讓我們在今天的節目中為聽眾帶來一些有用的短語。

Fit in, to feel accepted or part of a group.

融入，感覺被接納或成為群體的一員。

Example, Sarah changed her hairstyle because she wanted to fit in with her new friends.

例如，莎拉改變了髮型，因為她想融入她的新朋友。

Left out, feeling excluded or ignored.

被冷落，感到被排斥或被忽視。

Example, when no one invited her to the party, she felt left out.

例如，當沒有人邀請她參加聚會時，她覺得自己被冷落了。

Crave, to have a strong desire for something.

渴望，對某種事物有強烈的慾望。

Example, after a long day, I crave peace and quiet.

例如，經過漫長的一天，我渴望寧靜。

Measure our value, to decide how important or worthy our value is.

衡量我們的價值，決定我們的價值有多重要或多有價值。

Example, your job title doesn't measure your value as a person.

例如，你的職稱並不能衡量你作為一個人的價值。

Give away our power, to let others control your feelings or decisions.

放棄我們的權力，讓他人控制你的感受或決定。

Example, don't give away your power by letting negative comments ruin your day.

例如，不要讓負面評論毀了你的一天，從而失去你的力量。

Hey Gwen, can I ask you a question?

嘿，格溫，我能問你個問題嗎？

Sure, go ahead.

當然，請便。

Whose opinions really matter to you?

誰的意見對你真正重要？

For me, it's the people who truly care about me.

對我來說，這就是真正關心我的人。

My close friends, my family, the ones who love and support me no matter what.

我的密友，我的家人，那些無論如何都愛我、支持我的人。

Exactly.

沒錯。

But sometimes it feels like we give too much importance to what strangers or people who don't really know us think.

但有時我們會覺得，我們太看重陌生人或不瞭解我們的人的想法了。

So true, and honestly, it's exhausting.

說得太對了，說實話，這讓人精疲力竭。

Why should someone who barely knows me have so much control over my emotions?

為什麼一個幾乎不瞭解我的人可以如此控制我的情緒？

That's a great point.

說得好

Imagine if we focused only on the opinions of those who understand us, who actually want the best for us.

試想一下，如果我們只關注那些理解我們、真正為我們著想的人的意見，我們會怎樣？

Don't you think we'd feel lighter, happier?

你不覺得我們會感覺更輕鬆、更快樂嗎？

Absolutely, it's like a weight would be lifted.

當然，這就像卸下了重擔。

And you know what?

你知道嗎？

Most people aren't even paying that much attention to us anyway.

反正大多數人也沒那麼關注我們。

That's just accurate.

真是準確無誤。

People are usually busy thinking about themselves, not us.

人們通常忙於考慮自己，而不是我們。

So instead of worrying about what others think, why not shift the focus?

是以，與其擔心別人的看法，為什麼不轉移焦點呢？

Ask yourself, how can I help someone today?

問問自己，今天我能如何幫助別人？

How can I bring value to others?

我怎樣才能為他人帶來價值？

I love that.

我喜歡這樣。

When we focus on being kind or helpful, we stop worrying so much about how we look or what people might think.

當我們專注於做一個善良或樂於助人的人時，我們就不會再過多地擔心自己的外表或別人可能會怎麼想。

It's a win-win.

這是雙贏之舉。

Exactly.

沒錯。

And do you know what helps even more?

你知道什麼更有幫助嗎？

Building confidence in yourself. Confidence doesn't come from what others think of you.

建立對自己的信心。 自信不是來自別人對你的看法。

It comes from understanding and accepting who you are.

它來自於對自己的理解和接受。

Yes, and there are simple ways to build that confidence.

是的，有一些簡單的方法可以建立這種自信。

Write down your small wins every day.

每天寫下你的小勝利。

For example, keep a journal.

例如，寫日記。

It's amazing to look back and see how much you've done.

回顧過去，你所做的一切令人驚歎。

That's a great tip.

這是一個很好的建議。

Another thing that works is taking time to do things you love.

另一個有效的方法是花時間做自己喜歡的事情。

It reminds you that your happiness doesn't depend on others' approval.

它提醒你，你的幸福並不取決於他人的認可。

Totally agree.

完全同意。

And you know what else helps?

你知道還有什麼幫助嗎？

Hmm, it's setting boundaries.

嗯，是設定界限。

If someone makes unreasonable demands, it's okay to say no.

如果有人提出不合理的要求，拒絕也沒關係。

Yeah, saying no doesn't make you mean or selfish.

是啊，說 "不 "並不代表你刻薄或自私。

It just means you respect your time and energy.

這隻意味著你尊重自己的時間和精力。

Another great step is focusing on actions, not thoughts.

另一個重要步驟是注重行動，而不是思想。

Do what you enjoy and don't let worries about others' opinions stop you.

做自己喜歡的事，不要因為擔心別人的看法而停下腳步。

And remind yourself, I can't please everyone, and that's okay, because it really is okay.

提醒自己，我無法取悅所有人，沒關係，因為這真的沒關係。

At the end of the day, we can't control what others think, but we can control how we respond.

說到底，我們無法控制別人的想法，但我們可以控制自己的反應。

Living your own way is the greatest gift you can give yourself.

以自己的方式生活是你能給予自己的最大禮物。

So here's a challenge for everyone listening.

是以，我想向在座的各位提出一個挑戰。

Today, take a small step.

今天，邁出一小步。

Do something you enjoy without worrying about anyone's opinion.

做一些自己喜歡的事情，而不必在意別人的看法。

Maybe it's dancing in your room, wearing that outfit you love, or saying no to something you don't want to do.

也許是在房間裡跳舞，也許是穿上你喜歡的衣服，也許是對你不想做的事情說 "不"。

Yes, and remember, every step truly counts.

是的，請記住，每一步都很重要。

You deserve to live a life that makes you happy.

你應該過上讓自己快樂的生活。

All right, now, let's bring out some useful phrases in today's episode for our listeners.

好了，現在，讓我們在今天的節目中為聽眾帶來一些有用的短語。

Give importance to, to think something or someone is important.

重視，認為某事或某人很重要。

Example, it's easy to give importance to what strangers think, but it's better to focus on those who love you.

例如，重視陌生人的看法很容易，但最好還是把注意力放在愛你的人身上。

Shift the focus to change your attention from one thing to another.

轉移焦點，將注意力從一件事轉移到另一件事上。

Example, instead of worrying about others' opinions, shift the focus to how you can help someone.

例如，與其擔心別人的看法，不如把注意力轉移到如何幫助別人上。

Unreasonable demands, demands that are too difficult, unfair, or impossible to do.

不合理的要求，即過於困難、不公平或不可能做到的要求。

Example, my boss told me to finish eight hours of work in two hours.

例如，我的老闆讓我在兩小時內完成八小時的工作。

That's an unreasonable demand.

這是一個不合理的要求。

Set boundaries, to create clear rules about what you will or will not accept.

設定界限，制定明確的規則，說明你願意或不願意接受什麼。

Example, if someone makes unreasonable demands, it's okay to set boundaries and say no.

例如，如果有人提出不合理的要求，可以設置界限並說 "不"。

Take time, to use time to do something without rushing.

慢慢來，不急不躁地用時間去做一件事。

Example, taking time to do things you love reminds you that happiness doesn't depend on others' approval.

例如，花時間做自己喜歡的事情，可以提醒自己幸福並不取決於他人的認可。

Now let's move on to some questions to help you understand today's topic.

現在，讓我們通過一些問題來幫助大家理解今天的主題。

Question one, why do humans care so much about what others think?

問題一，人類為什麼如此在意別人的看法？

Humans are social beings and want to feel like they belong.

人類是社會性動物，希望有歸屬感。

Long ago, being liked meant survival.

很久以前，被人喜歡就意味著生存。

Even now, we still want approval, but we don't need it to survive anymore.

即使現在，我們仍然希望得到認可，但我們不再需要它來生存。

Question two, what are the costs of caring too much about others' opinions?

問題二，過於在意別人的意見會付出什麼代價？

First, it takes away your freedom because you try to please others.

首先，它剝奪了你的自由，因為你試圖取悅他人。

Second, it makes you insecure and doubt yourself.

其次，它會讓你缺乏安全感，懷疑自己。

Third, it stops you from trying new things because you fear being judged.

第三，它會阻止你嘗試新事物，因為你害怕被評判。

Question three, why should we focus on the opinions of people who truly care about us?

問題三，我們為什麼要關注真正關心我們的人的意見？

It's important because these people love and support us no matter what.

這很重要，因為無論如何，這些人都愛我們、支持我們。

They want the best for you, so their opinions are the ones that matter the most.

他們希望為您提供最好的服務，是以他們的意見最重要。

Focusing on them makes you feel lighter and happier.

關注它們會讓你感覺更輕鬆、更快樂。

Question four, what are some ways to build confidence in yourself?

問題四，有哪些方法可以建立對自己的信心？

You can build confidence by writing down your small wins in a journal, practicing positive self-talk, and doing things you love.

你可以通過在日記中寫下自己的小勝利、練習積極的自我對話以及做自己喜歡的事情來建立自信。

These actions help remind you that your happiness doesn't depend on others' Dear listeners, what do you think?

這些行動有助於提醒你，你的幸福並不取決於他人 親愛的聽眾們，你們怎麼看？

We'd love to hear your thoughts on these questions, so feel free to share them with us in the comments.

我們想聽聽您對這些問題的看法，歡迎在評論中與我們分享。

And that's it for today's episode of Podcast and Chill.

今天的 "播客與放鬆 "節目到此結束。

Thank you so much for listening.

感謝您的收聽。

We love you, we believe in you, and we'll see you in the next episode of Podcast and Chill.

我們愛你們，我們相信你們，我們將在下一期的 "播客與寒暄 "節目中再見。

Keep being kind to yourself, live your way, and take care.

善待自己，按自己的方式生活，保重身體。

Thank you for listening to this episode of Podcast and Chill.

感謝您收聽本期 "播客與放鬆 "節目。