There is a code among brothers, among men that must be followed.

兄弟間、男人間應該要遵守的有個不成文規定。

I've been getting some emails along the lines of this:

我最近收到了一些電子郵件，內容是：

"Hey Jade, I like...I like this girl but she's my best friends ex-girlfriend. Should I go out with her? Do you think he is gonna get mad?"

「嗨 Jade，我喜歡上了一個女生，但她是我摯友的前女友。我應該要跟她約會嗎？你覺得我朋友會生氣嗎？」

"Hey, there's this girl that my brother likes, but she's not really into him, but she's into me.

「嘿！我兄弟很喜歡一個女孩，但那個女孩不喜歡我兄弟；她喜歡的是我。

Should I date her? Do you think my brother is gonna mind?"

我應該要跟她約會嗎？你覺得我兄弟會生氣嗎？」

What are you asking me for? Alright. Go ask your friend!

你為什麼要問我？去問你的兄弟啊！

What is this sneaky stuff man?

這種偷偷摸摸的事情是男人會做的事嗎？

Brothers always come before the girls. Alright?

兄弟一向都比女孩重要，好嗎？

If you're ever gonna date a girl who your bro is interested in, you'd better damn well go and look him straight in the eye.

如果你想要跟一個女孩約會，而你兄弟對這個女孩有興趣，你最好好好處理，直視你兄弟的眼睛。

Man to man, and ask his permission if he's okay with it.

男人對男人，問他可不可以接受這樣的事。

And if he's not cool with it, and boom, you gotta cut that girl off.

如果他不太能接受，那你們就應該跟那個女孩切割關係。

Boom! She's off limits.

她應該被列為黑名單。

If you‘re gonna sacrifice your... your best friend or your brother, someone close to you just to get a girl, then you are not being a true man, alright?

如果你得犧牲你最好的朋友或是你的兄弟，那個和你最親近的人，就只為了要得到一個女孩，那麼你不是一個真男人，好嗎？

A man is someone who puts his brother's first, so I just wanted to share that with you, this is very important.

真男人是會把他的兄弟擺在第一的。我想要跟你們分享這個原則，這點非常重要。

Always put your brothers first.

一定要把你的兄弟擺在第一。

If you ever have any situation, where you're gonna upset your friend for the sake of getting a girl—

如果你有可能在任何場合中，就只為了把到一個妹而讓朋友不爽－

If you're doing anything deceptive or manipulative or you're lying or hiding something from your friend

如果你得做些偷雞摸狗的事，或是你說謊、隱藏一些事物不讓你朋友知道

cause you think you're gonna... it's gonna hurt his feelings cause he likes that girl then you're not being his true friend.

因為你覺得你有可能會... 因此傷害到他的感受，因為他也喜歡那個女生，那麼你不配當一個好朋友。

Alright? So be a true friend, a good person, be transparent and honest with your friends and always put your friends first, alright?

好嗎？當一個真誠的好朋友，一個好人。坦蕩且誠實地面對你的朋友，並總是把你的朋友放在第一位，好嗎？

Because your... your friends your brothers are the ones who give you strength the ones who are gonna be there when no else is.

因為你的朋友跟兄弟才是在眾叛親離時，真正會在你身邊給你力量的人。

They're... they are the ones that encourage... encourage you or lift you up.

他們能讓鼓勵你，讓你振作。

And after years and years and years, they're the ones you gonna call.

在年復一年的相處之後，他們就是你在碰到麻煩時會打電話求救的對象。

They're gonna be there whenever you need them.

而只要你需要，無論何時他們都會挺身幫忙。

I have a very close band of brothers, a really close... you know, I don't even call them my friends, I call them my bros.

我有一群非常要好的兄弟，關係非常的緊密... 我甚至不叫他們朋友，我稱他們為我的兄弟。

Because I can call them up and ask them for anything and if they are able to do it, at the drop of a hat, they will be: "Jade, I got your back." And vice versa, I'm there for them.

因為我能請求他們幫忙任何事情，而如果他們可以幫的話，絕對會義不容辭幫助我。相反地，他們有需要時，我也會在他們身邊。

That's what you need to develop as a man and if you don't have that, I greatly encourage you to develop that area of your life.

那是你身為男人應該要發展的羈絆，如果你還沒有這樣的羈絆，我強烈鼓勵你應該要好好在人生中發展出這樣的關係。

Don't be one of those guys that just has a girlfriend or fiancée or wife and that doesn't even if even have like any guy friends

不要當那種只有女朋友、未婚妻或老婆的人，而沒有真正的兄弟朋友。

Alright? As a man you need to surround yourself with other men because they... will solidify your foundation.

好嗎？身為一個男人你應該要常常跟其他男人相處在一起，去強化你的人格基礎。

They will give you support and they always have your back.

他們會給你支持、在你背後支持你。

Alright? So very very important message.

好嗎？這是非常重要的訊息。

Don't ever stab anyone of your friends in the back, it's never ever worth it. Alright? It's never worth it. That's the message for today.

不要在你任何一位朋友的背後傷害他們，這完全不值得，這是今天要傳遞給你們的訊息。

You haven't got my website yet? Go there download my book. Subscribe, like, comment and I'll see you in another video. Peace.

還沒去過我的網站嗎？去那邊下載我的書，還有記得訂閱、點讚、評論，我們下部影片見！掰囉。