It's incredibly good news because that's the basis of your adventure.

is to find those things because in point of fact, there are things out there.

You just don't know them yet.

Who knows what you've been looking for?

Maybe you've been looking for what I like.

Why is that wrong?

There's nothing wrong, but it's not going to be the secret to finding your meaning.

You know, what I enjoy is a different pillar of happiness.

A lot of people will say, if I figure out what I enjoy, then I'll find my meaning.

No, those are different, it's different.

You're over on that branch of the tree, you're trying to get around this branch of the tree, different questions.

Actually, there's a three-part plan, you want to hear the three-part plan to actually start figuring out the answers to these questions?

You don't have to answer the questions directly.

But number one is start thinking to yourself, what do I think is right and wrong, what are my moral principles, what are my moral non-negotiables?

That's the moral basis of living, it's the foundation of actually figuring out the answers to your questions.

I ask my students to take out a piece of paper and start writing things down that they think.

Here are the things that I actually think are right and wrong, here are the basis of the way that I want to live.

Now, this is a very Jung-ion idea.

Carl Jung said that the basis of happiness is figuring out what you believe and living according to it.

That the basis of unhappiness is living not in accord with your own morals.

Write down your moral philosophy, I don't care how dumb it is.

Write down your moral philosophy and say, make a plan to start living according to it.

That's the base of the pyramid.

The second part is contemplation, you need more contemplation so that you can experience transcendence.

This is why everybody wants to do mindfulness meditation.

That's all that is, is basically is sitting still without your phone and focusing on being alive.

My colleague, Ellen Langer, she wrote a book called Mindfulness.

She says that mindfulness is best practiced if you're sitting on the train by putting away your phone, putting your hands in your lap and looking out the window.

Start with five minutes of just simple contemplation of life.

You need to stop distracting yourself and systematically stop distracting yourself.

Because in your default mode network, you'll actually start to think about things that actually matter.

Including the things that are in the fundamental moral basis that you've that you've started to formulate.

You'll start being on like, you know, there's certain things I miss about that, maybe there's something in there that I didn't understand before.

So openness to that, I'm not saying for sure, but I'm saying just be open to it.

And then the very top is wisdom.

And that requires reading, the accumulation of knowledge.

Not everybody's a big reader and there's so many different ways to get good information at this point.

Podcasts, for example.

But the whole point is reading or acquiring information in the wisdom tradition.

Read the Stoic philosophers, read the Nicomachean ethics of Aristotle.

Read the Bhagavad Gita, read the Quran, read the Bible.

Read, read, read and start with 15 minutes a day of that kind of reading, which you can go years saying I wish I read it and you don't, right?

I mean it's crazy.

We'll spend all this time scrolling Instagram when we can spend just 15 minutes a day.

reading the meditations of Marcus Aurelius.

And and the letters of Seneca and they're incredibly enriching, right?

It's like, wow, boom.

Starting at 15 minutes a day.

So, do the work, what do I believe, spend some time in contemplation and do the reading, your life's about to change.