Name: The Economics of Sex
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[Marriage rates in the U.S. have hit an historic low.]

[Annual revenue of the online dating industry is at an all-time high⏤$1.049 Billion.]

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Ever wonder if romantic relationships are getting increasingly more difficult to navigate these days?

Why fewer couples are getting married and later than ever before?

Time for a crash course on the Economics of Sex.

Let’s think about sex as an exchange, where each person gives the other person something of themselves.

It might appear at face value that they are giving the same thing: intimate access to each other’s bodies,

but there’s more going on here than meets the eye.

Men and women both enjoy sex; we all know that.

But what’s interesting is how the data tells us that men and women experience sex differently.

On average, men have a higher sex drive than women.

Blame it on testosterone, call it whatever you want.

But on average, men initiate sex more than women, they're more sexually permissive than women,

and they connect sex to romance less often than women.

Nobody’s saying this is the way it ought to be; it’s just the way it is.

Women, on the other hand, are likely to have sex for reasons beyond just simple pleasure.

Her motivations for sex often include expressing and receiving love, strengthening commitment, affirming desirability, and relationship security.

So, in an exchange relationship where men want sex more often than women do, who decides when it will happen?

She does, of course; sex is her resource.

Sex in consensual relationships will happen when women want it to.

So, how do women decide to begin a sexual relationship?

- Pricing. Women have something of value that men want.  - Badly, something men are actually willing to sacrifice for.

It might cost him nothing but a few drinks and compliments, or a month of dates and respectful attention,

or all the way up to a lifetime promise to share all of his affections, wealth, and earnings with her exclusively.

The "price" varies widely, but if women are the gatekeepers, why don’t very many women "charge more", so to speak?

Because pricing is not entirely up to women.

The "market value" of sex is part of a social system of exchange, an "economy" if you will,

where men and women learn from each other (and from others) what they ought to expect from each other sexually.

So, sex is not entirely a private matter between two consenting adults.

- Think of it as basic...  - Supply and demand.

When supplies are high, prices drop, since people won’t pay more for something that’s easy to find.

But if it’s hard to find, people will pay a premium.

Men know that sex is cheap these days, if they know where to look.

So, how did we get here? How did the market value of sex decline so drastically?

Economists often speak of "technological shocks" that dramatically alter markets.

Pesticides revolutionized agriculture, enabling its mass production on a level unparalleled in the history of human civilization.

Lawns became greener, produce became better and widely available with a marvelous variety.

Here’s another example: Artificial hormonal contraception or the pill, allowed men and women to have sex while avoiding pregnancy.

This was a technological shock that forever altered the mating market, by profoundly lowering the cost of sex.

It didn’t change overnight, but the effects have been, one might say, revolutionary.

Before contraception, sex before marriage took place during the search for a mate, someone to marry.

Sex didn’t necessarily mean marriage, but serious commitment was commonly a requirement for sex.

Don’t believe people who say your great-grandparents were secretly as casual about sex as your friends are. They weren’t.

Because to mess around with sex eventually meant, well, becoming parents.

It turns out that they had unforeseen effects that are wreaking havoc on the environment and weakening the natural ecological systems that we depend on.

Scientists believe that because of pesticides, the bee population is dropping at an alarming rate.

One-third of all the food we eat depends on those bees for pollination.

It is now feared that the overuse of pesticides is throwing ecology as we know it into disarray.  

While the original purpose of the pill was to prevent pregnancy, the data reveals an unanticipated side-effect: the pill threw the mating market into disarray.

Having sex and thinking about marriage have now become two quite different things.

- One corner where people are largely interested in sex.  - And one corner where people are largely pursuing marriage.

- And there are more men looking for sex than women.  - And more women looking to marry than men.

The language of online dating reinforces the reality of this split mating market.

Men are more apt to write that they’re "looking for fun," while women tend to signal very different things,

saying things like "only serious inquiries, please" or "not into games".

So this split mating market poses a particular problem for women.

They certainly call the shots when it comes to short-term sexual relationships because men outnumber them.

This enables women to be more selective in the short-term.

But the reverse is true when they decide they want to settle down.

- We often hear about "men’s lack of commitment".  - But the blunt reality is an economic one:

Women vastly outnumber men in the "marriage market", which means men can be picky and can insist on extensive sexual experience before committing.

Men are in a position to maximize their rewards while investing fewer resources.

- Why do men do this?  - 'Cause they can. Here’s the thing:

In the past, it really wasn’t the patriarchy that policed women’s relational interests. It was women.

But, this agreement, this unspoken pact to set a high market value of sex, has all but vanished.

But in a brave new world where having sex no longer means babies and marriage has become optional,

the solidarity women once felt toward each other in the mating market has dissolved.

Women no longer have each other’s backs; on the contrary, they’re now each other’s competition.

And when women compete for men, they tend to do so by appealing to what men want.

  Here’s where women are wrong about men:

Men are not actually afraid of commitment at all.

- While women are the gatekeepers when it comes to sex.  - The deal is that men are in the driver's seat in the marriage market.

They can navigate it exactly how they want to.

And unlike women’s fertility, men’s virility doesn’t expire by 40, or 45, or 50, or even 60. So what’s the rush?

So, it should come as no surprise that the average age of first marriage in the United States continues to rise,

and that the share of Americans between the ages of 25 and 34 years old who are married is continuing to drop.

While there are certainly factors that contribute to each of those trends, the gender imbalance in a split mating market is a big one.

- Talk about a profound irony!  - By nearly every measure, young men are failing to adapt to contemporary life.

When attractive women will still go to bed with you, life for young men, even those who are floundering, just ain’t so bad.

In reality, men tend to behave as well or as poorly as the women in their lives permit.

Economists say that collusion, women working together, would be the most rational way to elevate the "market value" of sex.

But there is little evidence of this happening among women today.

If women were squarely in charge of how their relationships transpired and demanded a "higher market price" for the exchange of sex, so to speak,

we’d be seeing, on average, more impressive wooing efforts, greater male investment, longer relationships, fewer premarital partners, shorter cohabitations, and more marrying going on.

For a woman to know what she wants in a relationship and to signal it clearly, especially if it’s different than what most men want, this is her power in the economy.

But none of these things seem to be occurring ⏤ not now, at least.

Today, the economics of contemporary sexual relationships clearly favor men and what they want, even while what they are offering in the exchange has diminished.

And it’s all thanks to supply, demand, and the long reach of a remarkable little pill.

Brought to you by the Austin Institute for the Study of Family and Culture.