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Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

and a life that you love. And it's Q&A Tuesday , one of my favorite days of the week , because

there’s Q’s and there are A’s. And today’s Q comes from Miss Claire and Claire writes:

“Dear Marie, love your show and your sound, human advice. I don't own a business or anything,

I’m only a recent creative writing graduate. I’ve always had piles of passion and drive,

but right now I’m working part time as a waitress and feeling very aimless. I love

where I’m working and where I’m at in my life, but how do I continue to feel fulfilled

and successful outside of what the rest of society deems ‘success’? I.E. big job,

big money. I don't need a lot, but I would like to feel fulfilled and accomplished in

some way. Thanks for all you do, Claire.”

Claire, amazing question. I wanna start off with the good stuff. You said I don't need

that much to be happy, I love where I’m working, and I love where I’m at in life.

Hallelujah! (Hallelujah~) That is a rare and beautiful thing, so congratulations.

Now let’s see if we can help you with the rest.

Number one, there is no such thing as “only.” So in your question you wrote I don't own

a business or anything, I’m only a creative writing graduate. It sounds like you’re

holding yourself as less. Here’s something that you need to get. Your work does not equal

your worth. Entrepreneurs are not better than non entrepreneurs. And working on Wall Street

isn’t better than working as a waitress. There’s no such thing as “only” in anything.

Our true worth doesn't come from the work we do, it comes from who we are as human beings.

Now, I know sometimes that’s easier said than done, but if you want to be in charge

of your happiness you need to remember that.

Number two is begin with the end in mind. So you said that you were feeling aimless

and this writing exercise, good for a creative writer, is really gonna help you figure out

where to set your sights. So it’s based on Stephen Covey’s idea of begin with the

end in mind. And when I say end I actually mean the end of your life. So imagine, it’s

years from now.

It’s your last day on earth and you’re thinking back on the journey. What kind of

memories do you want to have? What kind of adventures will you have taken? Are there

certain places you went, friends you made, and things you did with them?

So don't just think about this, actually write it down. I promise, you’re gonna uncover

some pretty awesome ideas that might just be worth aiming for.

Number three, flesh out the details. So you said that you wanna feel fulfilled and accomplished.

Well, what exactly does that mean to you? I’d love you to get specific. Does that

mean that you write every day? Does it mean that you publish a novel? Would you feel accomplished

if you just got up and put on some underwear? I certainly do. I want you to get clear and

specific and make sure that you include some things that you can do on a daily basis so

every day you get to feel fulfilled and accomplished.

Now, before we wrap this up I just want to comment about this whole idea of success.

You know, even society can’t clearly define it. For some people success means tons of

money and for other people it means doing what you love and some money. And for other

people success is all about being with your friends and your family. And still others

just wanna do whatever they need to do to have enough time to swim with the dolphins

and watch some zombie movies. No matter what it is, it’s important that you define success

for you and for me I happen to love Maya Angelou's version, which is this week’s tweetable.

“Success is liking who you are, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.”

So remember Claire, the only definition of success that matters is yours. So that was

my A to your Q, I hope you enjoyed it. Thanks so much for asking. And now I would love to

hear from you. What is your definition of success? Paint us a picture in the comments below.

Now, as always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at the wonderful land

of MarieForleo.com, so go there and leave a comment now.

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