Hey there, it’s Marie Forleo and you’re watching MarieTV, the most beautiful place

to be if you want a business and a life that you love. And today is one of the best days

of the week. It’s Tuesday. It’s Q&A Tuesday and that means Q’s and A’s and today’s

Q comes from Ajah and she writes:

“Hi Marie, how are you? I’m a 15 year old girl from Montreal, Canada. First I’d

like to say thank you for your videos; they really help me. Smiley face. Here’s my Q,

a lot of times I feel like I’m not needed and I’m useless and a mistake and an ugly

girl. I’m so alone and it feels like I’m drowning and cannot breathe. Is there a way

that you can help me and other kids out there who go through the same thing? Love, Ajah.”

Ajah, this is a really important question and before we get into the answer I wanna

tell you 5 things that I know about you as a human being just by reading your question.

Number one, you are so brave. You shared something publicly that’s clearly painful for you

right now. Number two, you are kind and you’re considerate. First of all, you asked how I’m

doing when you’re having a really rough time and you also included the phonetic pronunciation

of your name, which is unique, and you did that so I wouldn’t have to stumble figuring

out how to pronounce it. Number three, you are a really gifted communicator. You asked

your question so succinctly and out of all of the thousands of questions I get yours

was one of the first that I didn't have to shorten. You’re also a leader because you’re

asking this question not just for yourself but on behalf of all other kids that go through

this too. And finally, you are an action taker. You know, not everybody who feels the way

that you do would actually write the email and send it in to get help. So that’s something

you should really take pride in.

When I was a teenager, I often felt the same way that you do. I remember thinking that

my eyes were too far apart, that I had way too much arm hair, I had braces, I had glasses,

and I often hated the way that I looked. But I wanna tell you something that I wish someone

told me when I was your age. You know, we all have this voice in our head that says

mean things to us, but as Eckhart Tolle teaches us, you have a mind but you are not your mind.

In other words, that voice in your head that calls you ugly and useless, that voice is

not you Ajah, and it’s not true. Some people like to call that voice our ego, other people

call it our monkey mind. I like to think about it like a radio station that plays in all

of our heads in the background and that radio station is called W-KRAP FM.

Look Ajah, I know that we’re poking a little bit of fun here, but this is something that

I really want you to get. That voice doesn't know Jack. Seriously. Who you are is the awareness

beyond that voice. And one of the secrets to happiness in life is to train yourself

to recognize when you’re listening to that voice, it really is crap radio. And here’s

the thing, that voice seems to pop up for all of us throughout our entire life and the

real secret is to recognize when you’re listening to crap radio and then change the

station. These three tips will help.

Number one is meditate on the daily. I know we’ve talked about this before, but it is

so important. I’ve been meditating since I was 17 and it has completely changed my

life. Every single time that you meditate you strengthen your connection to your true

self, not to crap radio. And the other thing is, every time you meditate you strengthen

your ability to disengage from crap radio whenever it comes up. You know, you don't

need to do a ton. Again, I usually do 10 minutes a day, more if I have time. But if you wanna

check it out, there is boatloads of research that proves scientifically how beneficial

meditation is for your mind, your body, and your soul.

Number two is you can help someone. So one of the best ways to disengage from crap radio

is to actually engage with the world around you. So Asia, maybe you can help someone else

with their homework or give someone a genuine compliment. You know, if you enjoyed hearing

those five great things about you maybe you want to write down five great things about

somebody else onto a card and send it to them. I mean, who wouldn’t want to get that?

Number three is change the station, and I mean literally change the station. If you

find yourself listening to crap radio I want you to change the station and put on some

killer music and dance it out. In fact, I think we should do that right now.

But seriously Ajah, crank up those tunes and get moving. It’s really important that you

make the mind-body connection. Any time that you exercise, which, yes, includes dance,

you’re gonna release all of these endorphins that will completely change how you feel about

yourself and the world around you.

So as we wrap up I wanna leave you with one last idea that I want you to take into the

rest of your life and, yes, it’s a tweetable.

That mean voice in your head is not you and not true.

That was my A to your Q, please keep in touch with us and let us know how it goes. Now I

would love to hear from you. Did you ever feel like Ajah does? Or do you feel that way

now? How do you deal with crap radio? And, of course, if you have something special that

you wanna tell Ajah, please let her know in the comments below.

And for extra credit, you should copy and paste the prompt below so you can share 5

great things about somebody you know.

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