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  • How you guys doin? Good, good good good good.

  • Well guys, I was born this way, and there's no medical reason why that happened.

  • My brother and my sister were born with arms and legs

  • And sometimes in life, things happen that don't make sense.

  • My doctors never thought that I'd be able to walk, and today, I'm walking.

  • I'm from Australia, anybody want to one day go to Australia?

  • It's such a cool place. I now live in LA; I'm a Southern California boy

  • So I only live about four hours from here.

  • And today I'm going to tell you, man -- I love freaking people out.

  • One day I'm in a car, I'm in the front seat -- I'm not driving of course. Can you imagine

  • if I'm driving a car? They reckon they can put a joystick --

  • that thing that controlls my wheelchair -- we can put that in a car.

  • Like how fully sick is that? Imagine if I get pulled over by the cops?

  • Can I have your drivers license please? Yeah, but, it's over there; you're going to have to get it.

  • Imagine if I'm in big trouble! Put your hands up! Uhhhh..

  • Get out of your car! Uhhhhh...

  • So I'm in the front passenger's seat, we're at the traffic lights, and this car comes

  • up next to us and this girl's looking at me. And I'm looking at her, she's looking at me,

  • I'm looking at her, she's looking at me, I'm looking at her.

  • All she sees is my head, right? She has no idea that I have no arms and no legs.

  • So I'm thinking, cool.

  • I'm gonna freak you out. So I get the seatbelt in my mouth, and I loosen

  • it like this, so that I can freely move. And she's looking at me like 'why you eatin' your seatbelt?'

  • So I pull it, the belt is loose, I can move.

  • Now she's looking at me, full 100% attention and focus.

  • And just imagine all you see is my head, alright? You might want to put up your hand to your

  • face to cutoff the rest of my body. So you can really see the effect, so...

  • That's it, exactly. Here we go, ready? I just did this.

  • And her face, man. She was like... She nearly ran the red light, man.

  • It was so good. My parents always said, Nick, you don't know

  • what you can achieve until you try it. The doctors looked at me and said, he's not

  • going to walk, he's not going to go to school, he's not going to do anything in his life.

  • And then my parents; they just loved me like crazy, and said you've got to try.

  • Try this, try that, try this, try that, and I'm thinking sometimes, Mom and Dad, you're

  • crazy, I have no arms and no legs... How would I ever be able to do this or do that?

  • But they encouraged me, and they loved me.

  • And as human beings, we're waitin for stuff like that, we all want love.

  • Everybody say it -- loooooove. Very good.

  • We all want love. I went to school, and I wanted to be cool, you know. You go to school

  • and you want to be accepted. So, you see these guys, and you're like,

  • aw man, you know? Everyone swears, like every third sentence.

  • F this, and F that, and F'n this, and F F, like, what, they think they're cool, you know.

  • And so I'm thinking, maybe I need to be like them to be cool.

  • And then you compare each other with how we look and I wish I was smarter, I wish I was

  • taller, I wish I was shorter, I wish I was more popular, I wish I did this, I wish I

  • didn't have that. I wish my life was different.

  • That was me when I was about 8 years old; I looked at myself, and I looked at everybody

  • else, and everyone else had more than me. And I'm asking, why?

  • Why me? Have you ever asked the why me questions, but get nowhere?

  • If I had no answers from the doctors, and if I had no answers from my parents,

  • I still have a choice, every day in my life, to keep going or give up.

  • You see this book up here? This is my favorite book in the whole wide world.

  • This is my favorite book, the bible. And here I am

  • And here I am, and for me, that's my full potential in all that I can be here on earth.

  • And so encouragement takes me closer to all that I can be, and discouragement takes me away.

  • You see, it only takes three seconds for someone

  • to tease me when I was at school, and just say ewwwww, you're ugly.

  • Ewww, you can't do this and you can't do that. Some of you are thinking, like, man, seriously?

  • You had kids picking on you? How heartless are those kids?

  • Picking on me with no limbs? You would probably say, well, I'm not that bad.

  • I wouldn't pick on a kid with no limbs. But why would you pick on anyone? Well, because

  • it's fun, it's just culture. OK, we'll get to that.

  • But for me, facing all that stuff? I'm getting these seeds, everyone say seeds, S-E-E-D-S, seeds.

  • Have you seen the pictures of the sequoia

  • reds up here in California? These huge trees. Like some of the the trunks

  • could be nearly as big as this room. I've seen those photos where they've actually

  • dug out a tunnel in a trunk of a tree -- you can drive a full-size SUV right through it.

  • That all started with a little seed. If you leave a seed of lies in your heart

  • and in your mind, and you don't know the truth? If you don't know the truth, you will die with the lie

  • I started dying, because I started believing what I was told.

  • I want you to know the three things I needed

  • to come to in my life is the truth of my values, the truth of my purpose, and the truth of my destiny.

  • I want you to know something. In our mind, we put ourselves down all the time.

  • I want to ask you today, do you think I'm cool enough to be your friend?

  • But I don't swear, I don't use the F-bomb, am I still cool enough to be your friend?

  • But I don't tease people, am I still cool enough to be your friend?

  • But I have no arms and no legs. Seriously.

  • You would be my friend, even though I have no arms, no legs.

  • So you're telling me it actually doesn't matter, right?

  • If it actually doesn't matter, for how we

  • look, then why do we tease one another for how we look if it actually doesn't matter.

  • Why is it that we look ourselves in the mirror, and we say, well, we're having fun! Oh yeah, man

  • it's just part of culture, man. There were twelve people one day teased me.

  • Taking me away from my hope. 12, 11, 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.

  • Don't worry, I won't fall off, cause if I did, I'd break my arm.

  • But twelve people teased me one day. And I can put a pretty brave face on.

  • But cry on the inside. For real. Oh, it doesn't hurt! Yeah, it hurts.

  • There was this one bully, I became his target for three weeks.

  • And every time I'd go by him -- I was 13, he was 17.

  • I was in my chair. I'm only 4'9" in my other chair, my old chair. He's like 6' something,

  • so he's huge, right? So I'm looking up at him, and every time I'd

  • go by him, he's like, "Hey, there's Nick! He has no..."

  • And you can imagine what he said. And I'm like, what's his problem, man?

  • So I would try to avoid him, and I was so embarassed, because he would say it really

  • loud and everybody would be looking and some would be laughing.

  • I'm like, what is this guy's problem, man? So one day, after three weeks, I went up to him

  • And I said, hey.

  • He's like, hey. And I said, could you please stop it?

  • He said, stop what? I said stop teasing me. He said, what are you talking about?

  • I said every time I walk by you say that stuff.

  • He's like, what stuff? He didn't know how to take me on.

  • So I'm looking up at him and said, no man. Everytime I walk by, you say exactly this,

  • and I want you to stop. I forgive you, but stop it.

  • He's like, aw, it's not hurting you. Now, I could have said, no, or I could have said yeah.

  • It takes a level of humility to actually say,

  • um, actually, I don't like that. It's killing me.

  • And I said, ah, yeah, it's hurting me. He said, alright, I'm sorry man. I was just,

  • you know, playing around. I said give me a hug, he said, what?

  • I said, give me a hug. He's like, alright... So I gave him a hug. I'm a hugging machine.

  • We made the Guinness Book of World Records: 1,749 hugs in one year. We did it last year

  • -- my arms fell off, alright? The scary thing about hugging so many people

  • is that anyone can just pick me up and take me home.

  • Like, what am I going to do, like, *POMF*, hit them or something?

  • Pretty mean head-butt, right? I want you to know that you might be playing around.

  • I can pretty much say that 98% of you have

  • teased someone in your life. I tried to commit suicide because of people

  • who thought they were having fun Not knowing the hell that I was going through.

  • The people you're teasing -- what if the person you're teasing is the person who's thinking

  • of committing suicide. What if the person you're teasing is the one

  • who's tried to commit suicide, who hates their life because of you?

  • You don't know if the person you are teasing is the son or daughter of a drunk at home

  • getting abused. And all they need is someone like you to keep

  • on pushing them this way. We need hope, so find something else to do.

  • Find positive things in your own life I don't care about how you look, I will never

  • ever ever tease you. I will never tease you! I could tease you,

  • I could be tough. People thinking that bullying is tough?

  • It ain't tough! My wheelchair? This is tough. This thing, man

  • I'll tell you something -- you ready? This wheelchair.

  • This thing's so tough. When my friend built this for me, he said, you're gonna love it.

  • I said what, does it go fast? He said no, but it's tough.

  • And I said, well, what do you mean? He said, you'll find out.

  • The torque in these motors, at the bottom at the back.

  • This thing. If someone's holding it. I'm telling you, it can go 90 degrees.

  • I went 80 degrees up, alright? Someone's holding me to make sure I don't tip back.

  • My wife, she loves shopping with me, cause she just jumps on the back, and we go shopping.

  • She just shops and shops, beacuse she doesn't drop, right? We just go and do it; it's fun.

  • Now what I tried one day to do -- you'll never believe me, maybe you will, just know that

  • every word that comes out of my mouth is not an exaggeration.

  • One day, I needed to move a car. So I got my wife to put my car, my '66 Chevelle,

  • in neutral. It's a two and a half ton car, and I backed

  • it back with this thing. Two and a half...just this. Just like this,

  • like nothing. This thing is tough. Guess what? The definition of tough means it's strong.

  • To show your strength, you need to do something that's difficult

  • I would sound so stupid if I said hey guys,

  • I got a matchbox car one day, and I got some fishing line, and I towed that matchbox car

  • all around all day. How tough is my BMW? That's stupid.

  • That's the same thing with bullying. You think you're tough? You're trying to show

  • your strength? That's not your strength.

  • Let me come back in ten years and let me get your three..anyone have a three year old nephew?

  • Anyone have a three year old nephew? Cool. Put your hands down.

  • I will get any one of your three year old nephews, bring them tomorrow night at where

  • I'm speaking, and we're going to put them up on stage, and let me show you how tough I am.

  • We'll get your three year old nephew, and

  • we'll put him up here, on the table, and let me tease him. Let me show you how tough I am.

  • That's what you are!

  • I could pick on you, you biggest bullies. I could pick on anything you like.

  • Any singer, any music that you like. I could tease you, I could tease your family,

  • I could tease your friends, I could tease about the movies you think are really cool

  • I could tease anything about you. I could tease you about your nose, your eyes,

  • your teeth, your chin, your hair, your ears, your elbows, your knees, your whatever, man!

  • I can tease you about anything. It ain't hard, just like you can tease me.

  • You want to know what tough is? Go to the people you tease, and say sorry.

  • You want to know what tough is, go up to the people who still tease you, and say, hey.

  • Stop it, I forgive you, but please stop it. That's tough.

  • I want you to know something, the truth of who you are. I don't care what job you get.

  • I don't care. I don't care how smart you are, everyone. I don't care.

  • I don't care, I love you and I believe in you.

  • I don't care if you end up being a janitor in this school, I'll tell you why -- because

  • the janitor in my high school inspired me to be a speaker.

  • He changed my life. He said, you should be a speaker, you know, and I said, you're crazy!

  • He said no really, you need to be a speaker;

  • I said, stop it man. Four months later, he twisted my arm, and

  • I said yes. I spoke in front of ten people, then another

  • ten, then another ten, then I found myself in front of 300 sophomore students.

  • And three minutes into my speech, half the girls were crying, and one girl in the middle

  • of the room started weeping. She put up her hand and said "I'm so sorry, can I come up

  • there and give you a hug." And in front of everybody, she came up and

  • she hugged me, and she cried on my shoulder, and she whispered in this ear. Thank you,

  • thank you, thank you, no one's ever told me that they love me. No one's ever told

  • me that I'm beautiful the way that I am. It was because my parents told me that I was

  • beautiful that I am still here. Some of you don't have those parents, and that's why I'm here.

  • I love you and you're beautiful just the way you are. Never, ever give up.

  • How many schools do you think that I spoke to actually stopped bullying altogether? OK?

  • Whoever said one, you are correct. One school out of 600, I got a letter from the headmaster,

  • and he said Nick, you forever changed our school, blah blah blah. We haven't seen

  • any bullies pick on anybody for eight months straight. We don't know what happened, but

  • in the best words that I can describe, there's just a new thought in the air that it just

  • ain't cool anymore. It just ain't cool. I want to ask you. What are you going to do?

  • Are you going to continue on? At the risk of knowing that in each section, this section,

  • right here, five people already tried to commit suicide. That section there? Five people.

  • When you extrapolate it out? What if the person you're teasing is one of those

  • and you have no idea. Would you find something else to do?

  • So, the change is up to you. If you want to see more love in your school, be love.

  • If 50% of the school come together and say you know what, it just ain't cool anymore

  • the people who think it's still cool, every time they look down upon you, I want you to

  • look up. I want you to imagine my face looking at you. Cause I'm telling you, everyone

  • you're teasing is my brother and my sister. And you're my brother, and you're my sister.

  • And I'm asking you to stop.

  • Love yourself a bit more, love each other a lot more.

How you guys doin? Good, good good good good.

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