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  • okay so

  • as Dennis said, I just uh...

  • interrupted meditation retreat down at our retreat centre, Jhana Grove

  • and to come and give this talk this evening

  • uh... the retreat finishes tomorrow evening

  • so obviously my mind has been full of talks on meditation and

  • so I thought I'd drag one of those talks out

  • and recycle it today. recycling is all the rage

  • uh... but not just to recycle it because it's an interesting aspect of how

  • not just to meditate

  • but just how to let go of difficulties in your life. This is the talk on the four

  • ways of letting go

  • and this is straight from the Buddha's teaching of how the first teaching of the Buddha

  • It's part of that teaching

  • but also it's the case that number one, no matter whether you meditate or you don't meditate

  • whether your a Buddhist, a christian, a muslim, a hindu or whatever

  • each one of us has from time to time to learn how to let go

  • because sometimes that not being able to let go, carrying around

  • the bad memories of the past, the bad feelings of the present, the fears of the future

  • not being able to let them go

  • causes us so much pain and suffering and not just us pain and suffering

  • it causes all the people who have to put up with us

  • a lot a pain and suffering. So the very least for the compassion of your family

  • and the people you work with

  • please train your mind to be able to let go, to be peaceful and happy

  • and so that's one of the reasons that I decided to be happy

  • out of compassion for all the people who have to put up with me

  • that's a very good reason

  • so

  • you learn

  • something in buddhism called how to let go

  • and by learning how to let go, it doesn't mean you let go all the time and become

  • a monk or a nun,even if you do become a monk or a nun, you still have to work hard

  • you have to keep your responsibilities

  • you can't just let go all

  • the time, but it's a very beautiful

  • part of your repertoire, that you know at any time, in any situation you've got

  • something to do which most of the other people can't do

  • you just let things go

  • and let things be

  • simple things

  • it always surprises me

  • why it is?

  • that someone hurts you

  • they cheat you

  • they let you down

  • they say terrible things about you

  • big time

  • what can't you just let it go?

  • because if you don't let it go, that person

  • continues to hurt you

  • continues to harm you

  • it's a really weird thing isn't it?

  • they've hurt you once

  • because you attach to it and carry it around

  • they hurt you again

  • and again

  • and again and again

  • every time you think of it

  • they're hurting you one more time

  • when you look at it that way, it's totally unreasonable, illogical

  • one of most foolish thing you could ever do

  • is to get angry at someone who hurt you

  • 'cause when they hurt you

  • and you get angry

  • they're hurting you twice over

  • so some hurts you

  • can't do anything about it, let it go

  • it's gone

  • you let it go and they can only ever hurt you

  • once

  • and then you let it go, so easy

  • to do

  • when you realize, how you let these things go?

  • not only of that

  • sometimes we have all these fears of the future. I don't know some of you

  • probably

  • if you haven't yet one day you're going to doctor and say you've got breast

  • cancer

  • you've got prostate cancer

  • you've got a lung cancer

  • you've got some sort of cancer

  • there's a whole variety of cancers now, just like whole variety of music when I was young

  • you can only get one brand

  • so this is the choice you have these days

  • when you have any of these

  • diseases

  • what do you do

  • you worry yourself sick

  • you're already sick enough

  • and now you worry yourself sick even further. This is a totally daft and stupid thing to do. So

  • why can't you

  • let go of the future

  • enjoy this moment

  • and as I said I actually never said that this evening. Strange I used to say

  • this every week

  • in meditation

  • where is your future made?

  • when is the only time you can do anything about your future?

  • right now

  • this is the place

  • your future, peace, health and happiness is being constructed

  • so every time you worry about your future. uuuh what's going to happen to me?

  • i'm going to die

  • ur actually neglecting the place you could do something

  • which is right now?

  • so if you can just make peace, be kind, be gentle. If you can just let go of the future and the past?

  • and just be now

  • your gonna be a very healthy, happy, successful person

  • and people sort of, do bad things to you. Just let it go

  • why should I allow those people to control my happiness?

  • or it's one of my favorite sayings goes

  • you know you get these calendars used to get a calendar. we've run out of them

  • every year the buddhist society, makes a calendar

  • and they try and put some of Ajahn Brahm's sayings on that calendar

  • and the one saying I like the most which never gets on that calendar

  • is

  • this one

  • why seek for revenge

  • because you know that karma will get the bastards anyway

  • I don't know why that never gets on that calendar

  • it's a good one isn't it, you don't have to do anything karma will sort it out

  • leave it alone, you let it go

  • trouble is we all know it's reasonable thing to let it go. it makes a lot of

  • sense

  • but you

  • can't do it

  • which is why, we teach the four ways of letting go?

  • instead of saying let go, how do you let go? tell me how to let go.

  • and now the Buddha

  • is going to tell you. how to let go, with the four ways of letting go

  • the first way of letting go

  • it was starting off with

  • an old experience with my teacher Ajahn Chah, a long time ago

  • he was real walking back from alms round and a great teacher, they always find an

  • opportunity

  • to sort of

  • you know give you some teaching

  • but not these teachings with so many words and big concepts

  • just simple down to earth teachings which once you hear you think

  • correctly, that's really good

  • and you remember it

  • and it changes much of your life

  • what he did on this occasion walking back. He picked up this stick. There's forest all over

  • the place

  • picked up a stick. Turned around and says

  • Brahmavamso, is this heavy?

  • is this heavy?

  • not now

  • I'm very careful. I didn't throw that too far. I wonder what's gonna bust

  • it's only heavy

  • when you hold it

  • but if you let it go

  • it's got no weight at all.

  • profound

  • simple

  • and unforgettable

  • so what heavy things have you got in your life right now?

  • job, cancer

  • relationship problems

  • money problems

  • is that heavy?

  • it's only heavy when you hold it

  • so why on earth can't we let it go? why can't we thrown it away?

  • at the retreat

  • i told all those people

  • who are still worried about their family

  • worried about their job

  • to actually to get a stick

  • in the forest, in jhana grove

  • and either get a pen or carve

  • my family on the stick

  • look at that stick. that's my family

  • and thrown it as far as you possibly can.

  • so your free for nine days.

  • and you can change that if you put my job

  • you can put, you know my husband, my wife

  • my kids

  • my life, throw it away

  • because what that does

  • it gives you

  • an understanding, the first way of letting go is chucking things out

  • because you live such complicated lives

  • you have so many things in your basket

  • and that means

  • you can not travel lightly

  • on the journey of life. imagine

  • a big back pack, you see all these backpackers in perth

  • I used to go backpacking, my backpack was really small these days they have huge

  • backpacks

  • just wonder what they got in, in there. what do you actually need it in there?

  • probably got their computer

  • they didn't have computers in those days, just go to a box as a phone, if you wanna read that.

  • have your own phone but you were very light

  • in those days

  • they get big backpacks

  • imagine you've got a big backpack on

  • and it's really heavy. It's full of all these not just

  • clothes but rocks

  • heavy granite rocks and you

  • walk through life with this and you just don't know how to take it off and put it

  • down

  • your gonna get very tired

  • your gonna get very sick

  • your gonna have no happiness, at all and your gonna be so grumpy cuz every

  • moment of your life, your exhausted

  • do you feel exhausted?

  • in your mind

  • why?

  • because you've been carrying too many things

  • in the backpack

  • around your mind

  • so we actually look in that back pack. what can I throw away?

  • this is the first way of letting go.

  • see what you can? jetison see what you can throw away?

  • it's amazing you can throw away many many more things

  • then you could imagine

  • and

  • nothing goes wrong

  • if you throw away all this concern about your future and past

  • actually nothing goes wrong

  • that's the first big stone to

  • get it out of your backpack and throw away

  • it don't know about your history

  • has it been a good history

  • or bad history

  • I haven't got a clue, cause I threw my stone a long time ago

  • so you're free of your past

  • The past is a prison

  • It's a cell with an open door

  • you can walk out at any time you like

  • but a lot of times

  • just like people who have been in prison a long time

  • they'r just a bit afraid of leaving

  • they've been used to that prison cell

  • so much so

  • it's hard

  • to walk out

  • but once they have the courage to let go of the past

  • just like the prisoner walking out for the first time. freedom!!!

  • ahhh!!

  • I feel so good and so happy

  • this big burden

  • this big pain, this big rock

  • I've let go of

  • isn't that

  • wonderful

  • so see if you can look, at your past

  • even get a stick in the forest

  • write my past on it

  • and throw it as far, or even better get a rock

  • spray-paint past on it and throw it in the river

  • and let it sink

  • with no trace left behind

  • and then

  • imagine how free you feel

  • you can do this, you can let go of these things

  • but when we don't have the courage to let go, the first way of letting go

  • with throwing things away

  • is have some convince you, it can be done

  • and it's good to do

  • a lot of times we think we shouldn't

  • a lot of times we think we can learn from the past, you don't learn from the past, you actually

  • get a lot of pain from the past. you learn much more from letting go of the past

  • than you do from keeping the past

  • so you just allow it to disappear and

  • as for the future what might happen next

  • at the retreat people were telling me

  • about twenty twelve

  • when the world is going to end. The tectonic plates are gonna shift

  • there's gonna be tsunami's. there's gonna be earth quakes

  • so forget about having a mortgage you don't have to pay off for another two years

  • ofcourse it's not gonna end in two years time or whatever it is

  • you don't think about that. In fact I saw in indonesia people were talking about

  • even in indonesia

  • in the Islands over there

  • and I said look I volunteer my monastery in the whole Buddhist society of western australia

  • with all it's assets against your house

  • I'll bet

  • If the world ends you get our monastery

  • and the buddhist society of western australia's assets

  • it doesn't end we get your house

  • no one took me up on it

  • ofcourse you don't , that's not much of a deal

  • but

  • people are so afraid of the future

  • and one thing I can guarantee you about your future

  • you know I can read futures

  • just like Ajahn Chah used to do

  • i can predict

  • and i predict the future of australia

  • and i tell you i won't be wrong

  • the future of australia

  • is uncertain

  • now that's, not just a joke

  • that actually shows you, that you cannot know what's going to happen next

  • anytime in your life

  • you just know, you don't know what's going to happen. Your life has been so

  • surprising is goin in directions you could never predicted each one of you

  • And that's just the uncertainty of our life, so let go of the future. Throw it away

  • so what we're doing

  • is we're letting go by throwing things out. see what we can jettison, see what we

  • don't really need on our journey

  • and then next thing you can do is

  • throw away this

  • complaining mind

  • look

  • dogs are barking again

  • how many times do they bark

  • should we do something about these dogs

  • you can't

  • that's what dogs do

  • they bark

  • that's their nature

  • so throw away all this complaining

  • I'm finished now, you can stop barking dogs

  • same as your husband

  • sometimes you want to throw your husband away

  • that's what husbands are like that's what they do, that's what wives do, that's what

  • kids do

  • i was on this air craft many aircraft flying all over indonesia

  • and they always have these kids

  • BAH BAH BAH, all the time in the aircraft

  • sometimes I think, come in open the door and throw them out, but I can't do that

  • cause I'm a compassionate monk

  • but instead of throwing the baby out. what you do is you throw your complaining

  • out the window. stop complaining let go of that

  • so i look at my mind you got this what we call fault finding , complaining mind

  • you know what that type of mind is

  • that fault finding, complaining mind can drive you nuts

  • there's always something wrong

  • buddhist society

  • there's always something wrong with this place

  • like today we didn't have the right tea

  • and that's just not good enough

  • if it's not the right tea nice week Dennis Shepard, president I'm not coming ever

  • again

  • no of course you don't think like that because that's just the complaining

  • negative mind

  • and it doesn't get you anywhere, even if you do get the right tea someone

  • will drink it, before I get to it, so who cares

  • so the point is

  • just let go of your complaining mind

  • throw it out, has that ever got you anywhere

  • and you look at that complaining mind and it just drives you nuts and makes you a really

  • terrible person to live with so that's nothing new or you can see i don't

  • want this

  • literally

  • throw it away

  • it's as easy to do as that

  • just letting go of the negativity

  • letting go of all this stupid thinking we do

  • not only the negative thinking, but even some of the positive thinking

  • cause we think far too much

  • and that stops us getting any peace in life. whenever you're thinking about life

  • you can't enjoy life

  • your just listening to the commentary

  • you're reading a book about life

  • the thoughts and ideas in your mind

  • your not really

  • enjoying the real thing

  • that's why there's this old simile it's not a meditation story

  • of lao tzu

  • every evening he would go on a walk

  • and he'd choose one of his disciples

  • only one could go on the wak with a great master

  • there was a golden rule

  • if you were to go on a walk with a great Taoist master

  • you have to be quiet

  • you weren't allowed to speak, not even one word

  • one day this young man was going on a walk with this master

  • and they got to a region of mountains at sunset and they got one of the amazing gorgeous

  • sunsets

  • and the young man couldn't help himself to say

  • Wow! what a beautiful sunset

  • he broke the rule

  • Lao Tzu turned around went back to monastery

  • would never allow that young man to go on a walk ever again

  • the young man's friend pleaded for him, said look there's only one sentence

  • give him a break, cut him some slack

  • what's the big deal anyway of keeping silent

  • and that's when the master said this very profound

  • explanation

  • he said

  • when that young man

  • said

  • what a beautiful sunset

  • he wasn't watching the sunset anymore

  • he was only watching the words

  • he wasn't watching the sunset

  • he was only watching the words

  • now that's actually very deep

  • every time you think

  • what a beautiful sunset, your not watching anymore

  • your watching the words

  • and so much of us

  • we just watch words, that's all our life is just words

  • it's divorce from real life

  • we don't feel, we don't see, we don't hear

  • we just live

  • in what we think we hear

  • what we think we see

  • what we think we know

  • there's a great thing to be able to throw out all that thinking

  • and you get a peaceful life atlast

  • you don't have to do this all the time

  • just every now and again

  • learn how to, throw it out

  • l told a story a long time ago

  • about my mother's mantle shelf

  • and she's an english woman she's well she's in a home now ,she's very old but

  • in her house

  • like many english people's house they had a fireplace and above the fireplace they have a

  • mantle shelf

  • and on that mantle shelf they keep the nicknacks, the mementos, the photographs

  • and all the things which

  • which bring back happy memories

  • and so that one day

  • I had just been in australia for a few years and I went to visit my mother and so

  • I brought her a gift and what sort of gift do you bring

  • someone gave me a stuffed kangaroo

  • you know a little fluffy toy, really cute

  • so I brought that back and gave it to my mother and she liked it very much and she put it

  • on her mantel shelf

  • next time I went over there someone managed to get me a

  • koala

  • and so I took that back and she said that I was so beautiful everytime I see this. I can

  • remember you in australia

  • so she put it on her mantle shelf next to the kangaroo

  • the next time I managed to get a kookaburra, the time afterwards a Platypus

  • and the fifth time I went, I managed to get a Wombat

  • the trouble was the Wombat was so big, she tried to put it on the mantel shelf

  • and all the other ones fell off

  • and she spent about an hour trying to balance it on her shelf

  • and everything else fell off

  • i said why don't you thrown those other things away

  • she said noooo, these are nice

  • they remind you of me, there's so much rubbish on that shelf

  • and I said mother

  • this is like the person they get one more thing in their head they have nervous

  • breakdown, your mantle shelf's having a nervous breakdown

  • that's what happens we collect so many thoughts and so much stuff

  • so if that was my mantle shelf

  • everytime. if I got a kangaroo, I just put that on everything else will be clear

  • the next time someone gave me something else I throw that one away and get

  • something new

  • so one thing at a time

  • in your head

  • and then your mantel shelf

  • inside your brain

  • never ever

  • has a nervous breakdown

  • that's what I always do. all these jobs which I'm supossed to do

  • and I had just been on these teaching tour of indonesia all over the place

  • and I was also spiritual director of the Buddhist society of western australia and abbot, bodhinyana

  • monastery. look after the nun's monastery at dhammasara. spiritual adviser of

  • the Buddhist society

  • south australia's spiritual advisor, patron of whatever's Buddhist society of victoria

  • the director of Wat Buddha Dhamma in Sydney, spiritual patron of Bodhi Kusuma

  • meditation center, director of Brahm education centre in Singapore

  • spiritual patron of Buddhist fellowship in singapore. What else am I doing

  • Vice Chairman of the Australian Sangha Association

  • few other things, I've missed out a few, what is it? I forget now

  • anyway I got all these jobs

  • but only do one at a time

  • so when I'm sort of

  • here in this building

  • I just put

  • Buddhist society of Western Australia on my mantle shelf

  • That's all I am

  • and as soon as I leave, I throw that away

  • and then I'm just teacher at Jhana Grove meditation retreat centre

  • and that's the only thing on my mantle shelf

  • as soon as I leave

  • that and go back to Bodhinayana Monastery, I throw that away and now I'm abbot of Bodhinyana

  • Monastery

  • I just put one thing on my mantle shelf at a time

  • that's why you're sane and peaceful and happy

  • so

  • throw things away

  • and only keep one thing

  • the present moment, what's happening now

  • that becomes, the first way letting go

  • learning

  • to throw things out

  • and stop keeping so much

  • especially you don't keep the past or the future

  • second way of letting go

  • Is just

  • learning what freedom truely is

  • and this particular story is an anecdote

  • where one of our monks

  • when i was too busy doing all these other things. we used to go teaching in prisons

  • but another monk started teaching in prison

  • when he started teaching in prison

  • It was the katrina prison

  • and one of the top security jails

  • after a while the monks, the prisoners

  • there. they came to stay back a bit longer. we want to sort of talk to you, just find

  • out about you

  • So we stayed back a little bit longer they gave him a cup of tea, some chocolate

  • now if you give a monk a cup of tea and chocolate, they'r gonna stay forever

  • so we stayed behind for a bit of tea and chocolate and

  • they started asking questions about life in

  • a buddhist monastery in the west or what do you guys too

  • you've ever wondered what we do you in our monastery, so we said

  • and so he said okay, the day in the life of monk in the monastery, we get up at 4 O clock in the morning

  • and just to that the prisoners were aghast

  • 4 O CLOCK IN THE MORNING

  • even in prison, you don't have to getup at that time

  • and the monk

  • he did actually make a

  • qualification, he said actually

  • it's voluntary

  • it's optional, getting up at four o'clock in the morning, which is true

  • it's optional, you can always get up earlier, if you want to

  • that's the option

  • and then what do you do

  • and we told them, we meditate

  • sit for, can't you just like watch the end of the late night movie

  • said you don't have TV, you don't have TV's in the monastery. we have TV's in our cells

  • in prison

  • it's terrible

  • so what you do then, you have your breakfast, we do have our breakfast at the

  • monastery. we usually have just one cup of cereal in it and that's about it

  • or you know someone like Sun 2 tea, you know it has it's noodles

  • but it's only one cup. that's all

  • they said "Wow! you know in Kagerina Jail. You can have beacon, we have pan cakes

  • we can have cereal, you have everything there, you can have whatever you want

  • and said "Why don't you do that in the monastery. No No, we just have a bit of cereal

  • and that's it

  • and then what do you do in the morning

  • and then we work hard

  • at bodhinyana monastery

  • we do this amazing chores, you know building

  • and even it do that, and if you go down the retreat centre

  • we're doing this ramp and i was spending two days cutting the bricks, it was huge angle

  • grinder really heavy work, get myself all dusty

  • and I like some joining in when there is only concrete, tell the story once

  • with doing concrete work, when you do concrete work even as a monk, you get it all splashed

  • all over you. so you know just boys being boys. I'm still a boy

  • you know still just maybe a bit old to be a boy, but I still like getting myself all dirty

  • so I get all this concrete on top of me

  • as i was walking back to my hut to have a shower, you pass, a srilankan woman

  • and she was in this really expensive sari, she was visiting the monastery

  • she came up to me and i'll never forget this, she said

  • uh... have come to see the abbot Ajahn Brahm

  • and I thought very quickly and I said um madam if you go to the hall over there

  • He'll probably be there in about fifteen minutes

  • that was enough time for me to go to my room, get a shower and get changed into some

  • clean robes and so i went up to the hall, there she waiting

  • and said, Oh! I'm Ajahn Brahm you know she never recognize me

  • that's how dirty

  • I was

  • and I gave her a nice talk, you know about the monastery and about Buddhism

  • what we're doing here and she was really impressed so just before she left

  • she said

  • you know you've got a really good monastery, your a really good monk

  • but if you don't mind me saying this.

  • I saw this really dirty monk when I came here

  • and I think you should do something about that and I said I'll talk to him later, mam

  • which i did

  • that's actually how hard we work and then the prisoner's hear this

  • again they were really surprised

  • cause yeah, in prison you have to do jobs, but they take it real easy in those

  • jails in australia they'll never get us to work that hard

  • I said then you have your lunch

  • yeah, we have our lunch, we have, you know, you've been some many have been to our monastery

  • we eat it out of a bowl, everything goes in

  • one bowl

  • sometimes it's true you do get curry on spaghetti

  • no sorry I got that wrong you got custard on spaghetti. that's right

  • you ever had custard on spaghetti

  • why do you say yuck for, you've never eaten it

  • but actually you're right, it is gross

  • so they have custard on spaghetti. how about icecream on curry?

  • chocolate icecream

  • ya that's also yucky

  • cause you know, you put it in your bowl

  • and for me because i'm a senior monk I put it in the bowl myself and i give it

  • to somebody to take up,cause that's their duty and by the time they don't really care

  • for they just shake it all over the place

  • now I put it in the right positions when I start, by the time it gets up there it's all

  • over the place but that's all right

  • and that was saying even in prison even in, when you go to

  • solitary, you get a tray

  • the custard is here, the spaghetti is over there. separate compartments, don't have

  • compartments in your bowl, have a look at our bowl we don't have separate compartments. it goes all over the place.

  • this is, it's disgusting

  • so what you do in the afternoons, said we meditate

  • can't you sort of play some music, or sort of play a game of footie or

  • something. No, we're not allowed to play footie

  • we just meditate all afternoon. Don't you get bored

  • what your supposed to do, your supposed to hangout for dinner. Dinner?

  • we don't have dinner in our monasteries we just eat in the morning time, there's no dinner

  • he said well even in prison they give you something to eat in the evening and you

  • have snacks throughtout the day, whenever you want

  • so what do you do in the evening then

  • you know you can

  • play cards

  • play monopoly or something pass the time

  • he said no, we can't do that, don't tell us they said

  • you meditate dont't you. yeah of course we do. Oh God!

  • that must be terrible. Then what time do you go to bed?

  • our monk said Bed? Bed?

  • we don't have beds

  • I sleep on the floor

  • I'm absolutely disgusted

  • even in prison they put you in the little cot with the mattress on top, not in our

  • monastery I sleep on the floor

  • anyway

  • the prisoners were actually really surprised

  • they really surprised, but not only surprised they felt sorry for this monk who had been

  • visiting them

  • and this is true story one of them was so upset that this man who they got to

  • like

  • was living in such a hard situation

  • one of them blurted out

  • that's terrible in your monastery

  • why don't you come in here and stay with us instead?

  • and they had a point

  • it is actually much more comfortable

  • in any prison in western australia than in Bodhinyana Monastery, or even in Dhammasara

  • Nun's monastery

  • so why is it

  • that people are trying to get out of jail

  • than people trying to break into our monastery, to stay there

  • waiting lists

  • and that got me thinking, what's the difference between our monastery and the prison

  • prison is actually more comfortable

  • monasteries much more harsher

  • what's the difference

  • the only difference is in a monastery

  • people want to be there

  • in a prison

  • doesn't matter how comfortable it is

  • people don't want to be here

  • that's the only difference

  • from that he worked out

  • there are many prisons in life

  • I saw the many prisons I've made for myself

  • the many prisons that other people continue make for themselves

  • any place you don't want to be

  • that's your prison

  • if you don't like this talk and think when's it gonna end

  • this hall is your prison, you don't wanna be here

  • if you're in a relationship which you don't like

  • your relationship is your prison

  • you don't wanna be there

  • if your in a job

  • which is not giving you any satisfaction

  • another prison for you

  • even a body which is sick

  • you don't wanna be here

  • your body is now a prison

  • any place you don't wanna be is a prison

  • however it's very easy way to escape from those prisons you make in life

  • you don't need to change your husband, your wife

  • you don't need to even change your job

  • you don't even need to get better with your sickness

  • all you need to do is to change your attitude

  • and want to be here

  • and you want to be here, your free

  • doesn't matter sort of how

  • painful, uncomfortable it is

  • as long as you want to be here

  • then you are free

  • that's called contentment

  • that's the second way of letting go

  • want to be here

  • whatever here happens to be

  • and that's one of the most powerful attitudes

  • especially when you're meditating

  • and also other times in your life

  • when your meditating doesn't matter what you're experiencing

  • you can be dull, sleepy, restless, thinking all sorts of weird things in your head

  • but if you want to be here

  • you feel peace and freedom

  • if you wanna be somewhere else

  • you'll always feel this tension and suffering

  • the great trick is, you don't need to change anything

  • except your attitude

  • and want to be here

  • not only when you meditate, there are many other times in your know life

  • so you're stuck in a traffic jam

  • you got no choice

  • it's not gonna move faster because you get angry

  • so when you're stuck in a traffic jam

  • want to be there

  • if you want to be here

  • it causes you no stress at all

  • you feel perfectly free and at ease and peace

  • in the traffic jams of your life

  • when you want to go somewhere and you can't

  • the only thing that stresses

  • I want to be somewhere else

  • I don't wanna be

  • just like in a prison

  • if you want to be here, your free

  • there comes a time

  • when you're dying

  • your sick and in pain

  • I've seen so many people struggle at that time

  • And it's so sad and desperate to see

  • so unless you

  • in your last moments of life

  • just all the struggle is not going to get you anywhere

  • there's no escape, your dying

  • so don't make a prison of your body at the very end

  • instead want to be there

  • if you want to be there

  • your totally free

  • that's the second way of letting go

  • want to be here

  • the other, third way of letting go, this

  • all comes from

  • The Dhammacakkapavatana Sutta , The third

  • noble truth

  • the Buddha said letting go of craving leads to enlightenment

  • now what he mentioned to the ways to let go. The third way of letting go

  • it's called giving

  • no ordinary giving

  • but giving

  • expecting nothing back in return

  • in this hall here

  • just in this hall is being built for a long time

  • there's no sign

  • saying who gave this

  • there's no names of the donors in this place, even in our retreat center which

  • cost over five million

  • many people donated many many small sums and big sums

  • who's not even one sign in that retreat centre

  • opposite our monastery

  • of who gave what

  • there's a reason for that

  • because we encourage

  • giving expecting nothing back in return

  • if you give donation and expect to have your name

  • inscribed over the entrance of that hall,

  • which you donated

  • that's not called giving

  • that's called

  • buying advertizing rights

  • selling your name

  • that's not real giving

  • so for us

  • the way Buddha described it, it's giving expecting nothing back in return

  • so what does that mean your letting go

  • when you get married and have a relationship

  • are you giving

  • or are you expecting something back in return

  • are you really letting go

  • too often we expect things back in return

  • and that causes a huge amount of suffering in life

  • and our expectations never get realized

  • you'll find that much of your life

  • is expectations being frustrated, being thwarted

  • all the things that were promised to you when you were young, which are expected from life

  • how many of them have you

  • reached and got

  • mostly

  • very few

  • when you get married

  • when you get your job

  • when you get out in the workplace when you go traveling, you have so many

  • expectations

  • and the more expectations you have

  • the less you can enjoy

  • the trip which is your relationship or your life

  • if you can go into your relationship

  • giving expecting nothing at that see what happens

  • you'll get a huge amount of fulfilment

  • even when you meditate

  • those people who meditate expected to get something

  • they're the ones who cause all the problems

  • if you want to get enlightened, if you want to get peace or if you want to get rid of

  • your cancer there if you're doing it to expect some thing

  • there'll never be any peace for you

  • that's why again quoting Ajahn Chah he used to say

  • you meditate not to get something

  • not to attain things

  • you meditate to let go

  • it is an act of giving

  • expecting nothing

  • back in return

  • of emptying of letting go

  • it's a beautiful way of living life

  • whenever I've given any talks I don't expect anything back in return

  • and usually I don't get anything

  • you know this evening not the right cup of tea, I don't expect anyway

  • who cares

  • so whenever you

  • do anything, you don't expect anything back

  • sometimes people get quiet surprised at that

  • there was somebody rang me up once from here

  • it was a, it's a

  • Polish Lady actually I remember her

  • and she rang me up and said, are you giving a talk tonight

  • I said yeah I'm given a talk tonight here in this center

  • they said how much you have to pay to get in

  • I said nothing you don't have to pay anything to get in, you all know that

  • and she stopped awhile and she said

  • you don't understand me

  • how much money do you have to pay to get through the door?

  • i said madam you don't have to give any money to go through the door. you just

  • come in and listen if you don't like it you go out again

  • and then she paused again

  • said, LISTEN

  • how much dollar and cents do i have to cough up to come listen to your talk?

  • I said madam you don't have to coughup anything

  • you don't have to pay any money to go in

  • you don't have to pay any money to go out

  • we don't give you sort of brochures and propaganda

  • you know which would ask you money afterwards, it's totally for free, just

  • come in and listen and you go out again afterwards

  • and then she paused I was remember that pause

  • because I knew that she was really surprised

  • and then she asked with utmost sincerity

  • what do you guys get out of this then?

  • she couldn't believe

  • they can do something expecting nothing back in return

  • you just give

  • that becomes such a beautiful way

  • of living a life

  • to to give expecting absolutely nothing back in return

  • why because it's just a joy to give

  • I think I mentioned a few weeks ago here

  • every morning

  • when I'm having my breakfast the cat comes up

  • to steal my milk

  • so you know usually I've got enough but sometimes i'd go without

  • atleast, I have half instead of the whole

  • which i usually have

  • so the cat

  • so i give to the cat

  • do I get anything back in return for the cat

  • no, lifts it's, sniffs and goes away

  • never says, thank you, not even a meaw from the cat

  • you know what cats are like

  • so proud

  • but anyway

  • who cares whether the cat sort of lets me pat it or stroke it whatever, I don't care

  • I just love giving

  • so actually you do give expecting nothing back in return. you give to your cats and dogs

  • and other people

  • sometimes mothers give to their kids

  • they just want to give

  • and not thinking of getting anything back in return

  • that's a beautiful way of letting go

  • so why don't you give to life

  • give all your kindness, your love

  • your energy to life

  • expecting nothing back in return

  • and then you know what letting go is and

  • what the spiritual life is all about

  • it's not what I'm getting out of this

  • it's what I can give

  • and ofcourse I've given my whole life to this

  • that's why i'm so rich

  • not materially

  • but with happiness and health and peace

  • that becomes the third way of letting go

  • giving, giving to your partner

  • not expecting anything back in return

  • giving to life not expecting anything back in return

  • giving all your energy to this moment

  • expecting nothing back

  • it's called the third way

  • of letting go

  • just no expectations

  • we have no expectations life becomes so interesting

  • your not demanding anything just life gives you so much

  • it usually gives you what you least expect

  • we have much more fun that way

  • you don't anticipate things

  • all the gifts of life come as a great surprise

  • I never expected that

  • isn't that wonderful

  • life becomes far more enjoyable that way

  • and the fourth way of letting go

  • is called having the teflon mind

  • where nothing sticks to it

  • so you have this beautiful experience now don't try and take notes

  • trying to memorize what's being said so you can make sure you

  • your at this way in the future so you can be a better human being, you don't need to

  • try to remember these things, these things will stick in your mind anyway

  • so don't try and collect things, allow things to stick to you

  • you have this beautiful moment

  • enjoy it now knowing it's gonna go

  • so you can be free for the next moment to come

  • then let that go too

  • and all the happiness

  • and the unhappiness of life

  • never stick to you

  • which means that you can always be free for the next moment

  • not allowing the last moment to influence this one

  • you just flow through life

  • and again collecting

  • no mementos

  • expecting

  • nothing for the future

  • someone says something wrong to you

  • it just goes right through you

  • as i say, why we have two ears?

  • if you look very carefully, one says in

  • the other one says out

  • so that way we don't need to keep anything

  • that way

  • all of the, even the happy moments, we can let those go to, because we care for if you

  • keep the happy moments

  • that gives you so much expectations, so much comparisons

  • it's means you can't enjoy the next moment

  • how to let go of all the moments happy and sad moments

  • of the past

  • so you got this mind, this body, this life to which nothing sticks

  • which means you can always enjoy

  • whatever's happening next

  • not allowing the past

  • to stop you being free in the present

  • and that especially goes

  • with all your knowledge and understanding

  • sometimes when we learned something

  • it sticks to us

  • and it makes us

  • so if you don't mind me saying conceited

  • then we cannot face

  • the reality of the present moment

  • people with too much knowledge

  • can never understand the truth of now

  • that's why I gave one of my other favorite sayings

  • is never allow knowledge

  • to stand in the way of truth

  • never allow knowledge to stand in the way of truth. knowledge is all that you've

  • learned or you expect to be

  • which means when you expect something to be when you know what it's all about

  • it means then that blocks you from seeing the truth and the

  • uniqueness of what's happening right now

  • and too many people, even know too much about buddhism and

  • so they can never understand it

  • they've never understand the truth to this moment

  • what's actually happening right now

  • they can never be at peace with this moment. they could never be free

  • they could never have real happiness no matter what happens to them in their

  • life

  • Why?

  • because they always allow

  • their knowledge

  • to stand in the way

  • of truth

  • so remember all the knowledge are just the sign posts

  • it's just the directions

  • it's not the real thing

  • and the last simile

  • an old simile but a great one

  • to understand what I mean by not allowing knowledge to stand in a way of truth

  • There was once a professor or philosophy here in Perth

  • the experiences important which we are now going to see

  • with the simile

  • of the professor and

  • experiences past it's when it's interpreted

  • from the knowledge of your past

  • in other words you take the experience and you compare it with something else

  • which means it becomes limited by the past

  • to learn the words actually stand in the way of truth

  • that's why that in meditation we learn how to be absolutely quiet

  • to feel and to know

  • that becomes the truth

  • in the same way that the student of Lao Tzu

  • could actually see

  • didn't see the sunset

  • only saw the words

  • and that great Taoist master made a very good comment

  • that

  • it is

  • the person

  • if they wanna see the sunset

  • they gotta put aside all the words

  • descriptions

  • the words actually block the experience

  • that's it.

  • okay back to the professor

  • there is a professor

  • who

  • philosophy in the university

  • whenever you mention professor of philosophy in Buddhism they always get

  • a bad rap

  • so if there are any professor's over here, I do apologize

  • It's just our tradition

  • but

  • this professor of philosophy

  • He

  • found out there was a new five star restaurant opening in perth

  • and he wanted to go there, to test out the food, so he made an appointment, he rang up

  • there was a two month waiting list, that's how popular the restaurant was

  • and so

  • two month waiting list

  • he decided to book his placer anyway

  • and when he booked his placer

  • two months later

  • he rocked up at the restaurant

  • and of course they want to see his ID, to make sure he'd really booked a place

  • and so

  • they checked his ID and yes he was booked in

  • so he went into the use, the maitre d .took him to his

  • table, he sat down at the table and this waiter came, you know these really well dressed waiters

  • and gave him the menu

  • and this menu was in

  • thick parchment

  • and the menu was written in gold letters and caligraphy

  • even the menu was a work of art as you would expect in an expensive restaurant

  • this is no fish and clip shop. this is a top class five-star restaurant, so

  • he looked at the menu

  • and then he ate the menu

  • and then he paid and left

  • cause the professor had no idea of the difference between the menu and the food

  • you get it

  • too often

  • the menu

  • this one's knowledge

  • and the food, what you eat

  • is the experience

  • which is why I said never allow

  • knowledge to stand in the way of truth

  • so we let go

  • of all of that

  • cause too many people say but the Buddha said

  • but Jesus said

  • but the experts say

  • but the government says, so whatever

  • so what

  • it's interesting

  • you know maybe sort of pointing you in the right direction

  • that's what they said but what did they mean, where were they pointing to

  • and that's the experience which you have

  • so by

  • having a teflon mind

  • you become this beautiful free mind

  • which can actually see things

  • as they are

  • rather than see things

  • as your told, that they are

  • so learn how to be free

  • is all the ways of letting go

  • little things

  • I was telling people at the retreat that some, I told the story, the example of this

  • in the nine years that i was living in northeast thailand

  • this was someplace where western culture had not reached

  • the

  • countries surrounding thailand have been colonized

  • but thailand had escaped and whatever westerners went into thailand, they were

  • all in bangkok some in Cheng Mia, but the part of thailand, I was in

  • no westerners had been there, and

  • this is not exaggeration I went to some villages in that place

  • and i was the first westener the villagers had seen and i remember one occasion

  • going on alms round in the morning

  • and i was the first white men they'd seen in the village, and so they were putting food

  • in the bowl, And it's a big bowl and but they were looking at me

  • and though all the food was falling outside, the dogs were eating it all. thank you

  • very much

  • because I was the first westerner they saw, but

  • because of that

  • it was like an indegenous culture which had not been tainted by the west

  • and it was fascinating to observe that from inside because I was a monk

  • as a monk you weren't some sort of visitor, you had a place in that social hierarchy

  • you were in the middle of that social hierarchy, you were not an outsider

  • so you were treated like a thai

  • you're expected to behave like a thai

  • and soon you became like a thai and saw it with thai eyes

  • and one of the things, you saw were totally unexpected

  • what I was saying at the retreat was

  • in those nine years, the monastery I was staying most of the time

  • was a cremation ground

  • so

  • all the villagers in the local area use that place

  • for the funerals

  • so we do

  • the funeral, we see all the villagers they come

  • and they come and they bring their dead, we do all the chanting and the services we see them that

  • afternoon and that evening the next day

  • and there's something very strange

  • there was no grief

  • it is

  • didn't cry, not just cry, they weren't even sad

  • when somebody died

  • and this was not suppressing their grief because you saw them every day

  • they just, wasn't there

  • it was the culture

  • in which grief was absent

  • and that really shocked me and I was there nine years

  • so this was not just, a short visit

  • and I thought that was impossible

  • because my learning had said

  • that when you lose someone you love you have to have grief

  • the truth of the matter

  • there was no grief there

  • can see

  • and sometimes people say that's impossible

  • it was there, can you see how people?

  • they can't see the truth because of their learning

  • never allow your learning

  • to block the truth

  • so lot of times

  • we have to let go, even our learning

  • and our assumptions

  • in order to see the truth

  • and that's having what I call this teflon mind

  • otherwise you'd have all these assumption of, who your husband is?

  • who your enemies are and who your friends are?

  • what life is all about?

  • and that will block you seeing

  • what's really out there

  • and life is totally surprising atleast as far as I'm concerned what I've seen in my

  • life

  • even like indonesia, my trip to indonesia

  • that's where all the muslim terrorists are, you know all the barley bombers, they came from over there

  • but I had such a wonderful time with the muslims

  • they came to all my talks

  • we had photos together, got

  • interviewed and photographed in the muslim newspapers

  • even one muslim family they came

  • to the airport, they just caught me in time

  • said Oh! Ajahn Brahm Ajahn Brahm you must sign our book, this is the best book, we've ever had

  • so this whole muslim family in the veils and everything

  • me in the middle

  • with the book

  • having last photograph taken together

  • isn't that wonderful, when people of different religions

  • can have so much fun together

  • did you expect that

  • that was truth

  • sold lot of the times when we think, ahh! muslims they don't like Buddhists

  • that's actually what stops us seeing the truth

  • so remember, just have a teflon mind, don't allow these things to stick

  • cause they''ll stop you

  • from experience the truth, so these are four ways of letting go

  • and those four ways again are just

  • throwing things away

  • i'm not talking about throwing your material possessions away but throwing those

  • mental stuff, which you keep, the past and the future. Worried about the future and

  • all this other stuff which you worry about. Throw it out

  • and be simple and be free have few possessions. Don't carry so many rocks in

  • the backpack, on top of your mind

  • and number two

  • is

  • learning how to be

  • content

  • it's wonderful having a mobile phones isn't that wonderful so

  • be contend that it's ringing

  • cause it's gonna ring anyway, you can't do anything about it

  • so be happy to be here

  • and it's very nice music. thank you so much

  • it's very rare that monks hear music you know, because we'r not allowed to hear music

  • so it's very wonderful to hear this. thank you so much. so be content and happy

  • no matter what's happening

  • number three

  • is actually, whatever you do just give expecting nothing back in return

  • so I don't expect thanks, so I don't expect anything back. so whether you like this talk

  • that's your problem, I've just given my talk, I've done my duty

  • and that's it, so I don't expect anything back in return

  • I just give cause i love giving

  • I love teaching

  • I love serving

  • I love being kind

  • And seeing what you need next, so that's my joy, so thank you for giving

  • me the chance to teach

  • that's all i need

  • nothing be back in return

  • most beautiful cause then your free, with no expectations

  • and last of all, have a teflon mind, which nothing sticks, so don't keep things

  • especially your thoughts

  • even your knowledge

  • so you can be free

  • and then you understand what letting go is, If you can do that from time to time

  • in your life, you find that most of the problems of life

  • you can overcome

  • there's a time when you work hard

  • when you carry things

  • you do your duties and jobs

  • there has to be the time when you put things down and let go

  • the problem is as westerners

  • living in the western world, or as asians living in the western world

  • we all know about doing things

  • we'r very good at that

  • or we don't know

  • is how to put things down

  • let go

  • and rest

  • so that's how to let go

  • the four ways of letting go

  • thank you for listening

  • Thank ou, you know I never expected that

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