most basic ass question: “So uh...what...is it?”

Oh hi babes! Let’s talk about squirting! Before we jump in, I’m going to be using

“male" and "female” in this video for the sake of simplicity. Please understand that

not all men have penises, not all women have vaginas, and genitals come on a huge spectrum

- these are simply the common terms.

First of all, there’s a difference between squirting and female ejaculation. Female ejaculation

is a teaspoon or two….squirting is like...

Or maybe a cup, there's a range! The anatomy

is really important to understanding what’s going on here. The vulva (the outside) has

3 holes. There's the pee hole (the urethra), the vagina (star of the show, babies, penises,

whatever, lots of stuff comes in and out of there), and also the anus. The sensitive little

orgasm bump known as the clitoris sits at the top, above the urethra. Usually it’s

covered by a little hood, but when you get turned on, it peeks out to say "hey!" The

clitoris as you see it is really the tip of an enormous iceberg. The clitoral organ extends

inside the body and it wraps around the vagina and the pee tube. Scientists call this the

CLITORAL URETHRAL COMPLEX. But others call it the G-Spot...cause it’s easier to say...probably.

The clitoral urethral complex is where the vagina, the pee tube, and the internal clitoris

all meet. This is why G-Spot stimulation might feel good but also like “am I gonna pee

on you right now?”

The pee tube, which leads to the bladder, is surrounded by paraurethral glands. When

they’re stimulated, these glands can actually produce liquid! And that liquid comes out of 2 tiny ducts

on each side of the urethra. For some people, the glands are very well developed. Like,

those are some Skene's girl! For others, not so much - in fact, some people don’t even

have them. The fluid that's coming out of the glands is very similar to male ejaculate,

just without the sperm (because that would be...woah).

So what about squirting? Half cup? A full cup? 8 CUPS? That would be your whole day's

worth - impressive.

A new study looked at women who squirt and found that their bladder was filling up while

they were getting turned on, and after they came it was magically empty. Huh, wonder where

it went? The fluid’s composition is similar to pee. It's diluted and it has

some of that prostate fluid in it as well. It's easy to see why people confuse the two!

It's also to see why porn actresses would just drink 5 gallons of water before shooting

a squirting scene. Who can tell the difference?!

Speaking of porn - squirting is the 7th most searched term on a major porn site. What is

it about squirting that has us so fascinated? Obviously part of it is that it can feel really

good, and people just like things that feel good. Apparently. People may also enjoy the

physical, tangible evidence that their partner really liked that. Part of our fascination

is the fact that it’s an example of female sexual response looking a lot like male sexual

response. It’s so much more comfortable to familiar to us than this idea that someone

orgasms with their clitoris but you can’t see it and they might be able to fake it and

what?? This is one of the reasons why I think hyping female ejaculation up too much could

be a harmful distraction. Getting female bodies to duplicate the male sexual response cycle

shouldn't be a “cool sexual trick” we have to learn or are pressured to do. Not everyone

can do it! And not everyone experiences pleasure or orgasm this way.

That said, it’s not exactly UNCOMMON either. About 40% of women report this happening to

them in their lifetime and it usually comes out of nowhere. Woah! My body has never done

that before, what is going on?? People’s reactions to it really vary. Maybe you squirt

and it’s hot and exciting to you, maybe it’s embarrassing and keeps you from enjoying

yourself. Nobody wants to feel like they’re not normal right? But it is normal! So if

this is something your body does sometimes, there’s no reason to be ashamed. If your

worry is interfering with your sex life, talk to your partner about it, let them know what's

up and maybe lay out a towel or two so that you can let go and enjoy yourself.

We know this is a thing, some people do it, some people don't, no big deal either way.

I'll see ya next time!