Subtitles section Play video Print subtitles Yes, whatever is the main task at hand, that's what you are supposed to be aware of. Next question. Please ask retreatants to look out for one another if there's a missing person, if they suspect he's missing, please let us know. Two retreatants were lost in the forest this afternoon. Fortunately, a neighbour drove them back to Jhana Grove. [laughter] Really? Who was lost in the forest? You can't get lost, there's a big fence around here. You walked through the fence. Now this is the reason why we have like precepts, like a fence. [laughter] If you go over that fence and break your precepts, if you do naughty things, how far did you get, how far? Cos the only property out there, is a prison and if you walk into there [laughter] you'll be stuck there for years. [laughter] (Voice from background : It's quite far) Okay, now listen, there is a fence around here, so don't go through it. You know why we put a fence there? So you don't go through it.[laughter] So stay within the fence and you can't get lost. Okay. Oh dearie me [laughter] Does an Arahant ever get angry or become irritated? No! [laughter] Now that's one way you can tell if someone's enlightened or not. They get irritated or angry, of course they're not enlightened. Then you all know that, of course, okay, is that story, happens through meditation? About the monk who went onto the island to live alone, to become a fully enlightened monk. He asked his abbot, he said, "Look you got many monks here. Out, far is an island in the middle of the lake where no one ever goes, perfect for solitude. I'll build a simple hut and all I ask, all I ask, is once a week, get one of the attendants to row across to the island to leave me supplies for the week. Just simple things, rice and a few vegetables. And he can go back afterwards, so I can live in solitude." And the abbot said, "Okay." So for three years, that monk lived in perfect solitude. Just once a week, the attendant would come to make sure he was okay and have enough things to eat, and any other sort of medicines or stuff he needed. And so after 3 years in perfect seclusion, he decided he was enlightened, an Arahant, perfectly free of all anger and all wants. So he thought "what should I do next? How do you let people know that you're enlightened?" So the next time the attendant came over in a boat, he asked the attendant, "Can I please have some parchment, a pen and some ink. I want to write some calligraphy", because in the Chinese tradition, the way that you write those characters, is a sign of how advanced you are. And what you say can raise your attainments. So one week later, the parchment, the ink and the quill pen came and then, as the attendant went away, the monk sat in deep meditation, preparing himself to write the words of an enlightened being. When he came out of meditation, he picked up the pen and dipped it in ink and wrote with exquisite strokes. The diligent monk, alone for 3 years is no longer moved by the 4 worldly winds, which in Buddhism means, you've cracked, you're an enlightened person. And he let the parchment dry and he waited, waited for the attendant to come the next week. When the attendant came, he had the scroll neatly rolled up, tied by a little ribbon and said, "Give this to your abbot." And then he relaxed because he imagined once the abbot saw the calligraphy and the message, the claim to enlightenment, imagine what would happen next? Maybe become an abbot of an important monastery somewhere, maybe that scroll be hung up for monks in the future to be inspired by it. And the days went by and the attendant came back and gave what looked like his old scroll back to him. He wondered, "Did you give it to the abbot?" "Yes, this is what the abbot gave you back." So with excitement, he opened up that scroll. It was his scroll with his calligraphy on it. But on top of the first line, 'The diligent monk', the abbot had written in red ball point pen, 'Fart'.[laughs] What? The next line, 'is longer moved'. No, 'The diligent monk alone for 3 three years', there was another 'fart', this time in capital letters. And the next one, 'The diligent monk is no longer moved', there was a 'fart' with an exclamation mark on it. And the last line, 'by the four worldly winds', a big 'fart', capital letters, exclamation marks and underlined. And that monk was so upset. This was a calligraphy of an Arahant and it's been spoilt by this, you know these people do graffiti all over the world, by the stupid incompetent abbot. He spoiled this. He doesn't know enlightenment when it is in front of his fat nose. He was so upset and called the attendant, "Take me back." And so the attendant had to row him back to the monastery. And he stormed into the abbot's office, he slammed the parchment on the table, "Look at this, what have you done to my beautiful parchment!" And the abbot was calm and he slowly unrolled the parchment, stood up and read it out to the monk. "The diligent monk, alone for 3 years is no longer moved by the four worldly winds. Yet, monk, four little farts have blown you clean across the lake." [laughter] That's only little winds. [laughter] And the monk realised, "Oh god, I'm not enlightened after all" [laughter] and went back and meditated some more. And that is a traditional way we try and find out if someone's enlightened. If someone comes up and says, they are fully enlightened. I'll tell them it's impossible for females to become enlightened.[laughter] They go, "What?! What do you mean?!" Sorry, you're not enlightened, you failed the test. [laughs] We'll do anything to try and upset them. That's the best way you can find out whether you're enlightened or not. So they get angry, if they don't doesn't mean enlightened. If they do get angry, they're certainly not. Venerable sir, please read the questions slowly [laughter]. Your angmo English is hard to catch by the China man, hehe. [laughter] I will read the question slowly if you write them slowly. [laughter] How can you read something like this slowly? It is so small, you got a .. Dear Ajahn, thank you for being so inspiring. Just want to share this, I took a nature walk today and then I realised that I'd wandered off too far. Oh, no. I finally spotted Jhana Grove to my very, very far right, looking rather small. There was no track leading through the trees and thick brambles. I just went in the general direction, parting and parting away with many tall brambles without being able to see further ahead, but finally did come to a clearing but still with no view of Jhana Grove. I walked in the general direction I remembered and lo behold I found the Buddha, a lovely statue in a quiet sitting place. That's the secret Buddha Garden. So it's not that far, it is within the fence.[laughter] So don't go too far. [laughter] So I thought to myself, if you are on the right path you can't really get lost. [laughter] Exactly. Now remember in that book, "The Art of Disappearing", have you read that book? In the preface, I told you to get lost. But I didn't mean in the forest. [laughter] Dear Ajahn Brahm, what is nama rupa? What about the 5 elements, earth, wind, etc? How is the nama rupa and the 5 elements linked to meditation? Thank you Ajahn Brahm. Nama rupa is just one way of looking at the objects of consciousness. In particular regarding the 5 skandhas which make up the body and the mind. The first skandha is the body rupa, it's called. And then the other 4 skandhas has got to do with mind. Things like vedana that's the feeling of happiness or pain associated with each one of the 6 senses. And there's perception, there is what we call ?? formations which include thoughts and will and that's nama. And the consciousness is the fifth. So consciousness and nama rupa, the Buddha said, those 2 lean against each like 2 sheaves of reeds, using agricultural simile. So when you got 2 sheaves of reeds leaning together, that's consciousness and nama rupa. ,You take one of those away, the other one falls over. So basically, you can't have consciousness without something to be conscious of. And when you start to be conscious of, there's no consciousness. That's nama rupa and the, and the, consciousness. And the 5 elements, usually it's usually the 4 elements, you can always add few other elements onto it if you like, earth, wind, fire and water. That was just the old way they understood, know, rupa, body, stuff. Now, that's that past that's used by the 4 elements, because now if you've ever done science, there're quarks, there's Higgs Boson, there's all sorts of stuff out there. And Higgs Boson, is that earth, fire, water or air? It's none of those. So you can use the earth, fire, water and whatever else is, but you don't really need to these days, just you know, stuff. Dear Ajahn, I have had a few experience when I'm feeling quite still and very contented with my breath, when I feel tear drops forming at the corner of my eyes. Can you please help me understand this? If you feel tear drops, if it's happy, it's supposed to happen. It's a form of piti, joy. So you cry from joy. You could be crying because you're sitting so long in here[laughter] and your legs hurt like hell. You could be crying because of the old jokes, oh, not that one again. [laughter] You could be crying because of the bad chanting. [laughs] Whatever it is, but anyway, if it happens, let it happen. Cry, it's good for you. Dear Ajahn, sometimes when we wake up from sleep, the mind is awake but the body is not. I can't feel the body, is it similar to jhana? [laughs] No, no, you can't get jhana that easy. So, yeah, your body is quiet and relaxed and your mind is waking up but when it's jhana, it's incredible bliss. Bliss better than sex, so when you wake up, is that better than sex? [laughter] If it is, you're weird. So incredible happiness and bliss in jhanas. Dear Ajahn, sometimes when I get into deep meditation, very still and blissful, Good, I thought I saw the nimittas but I realised that the stream of light seem to be coming from outside. I felt my eyes not totally shut. Why is that so? Look, it's very hard for you to see light streaming in from outside inside this hall. You have to be looking up for a start and the right place if there's any sun coming up here. So if it's in this hall, that was a nimitta, nothing else. I notice some tradition taught meditation with the eyes open, looking downward. What's your view on that, wouldn't it be more difficult to focus on the breath? Exactly. So the whole idea is allowing the 5 senses to disappear. The easiest way is to close your eyes. I mentioned yesterday or day before, about, in Zen retreats, you look at the wall with your eyes opened but still that's another way. It's not as good as closing your eyes. In some tradition,they ask you to keep your eyes open just so you don't fall asleep. But you still fall asleep anyway, [laughs] it's a waste of time. [laughs]So please close your eyes. In most traditions, they always have the eyes closed. Someone's drawn a cartoon. I see, it's on the other side, they just traced it, oh. I thought I progressed in my meditation today because for the first time I couldn't feel my hands. But why is it that I could still feel my legs, it's just that my hands were numb? You're getting there, start with your hands, then you get your legs, eventually then your mouth, and you shh, not talk any more. [laughter] So it's starting, very good. When, while meditating it felt like the room was lighted as if someone lit up the room. It was for a very moment and then the light faded quickly. It happened twice in the last 3 days. What could that be or maybe someone has switched on the lights? Very unlikely, there, these are the first bits, nimitta comes up, now, it's like, like a sheet of light, everything is bright and then,eventually, it focusses on just one nice bright spot. That's good, it's working, that's what's supposed to happen. It's like your eyes are closed and you should know, if you want to open one eye, it's totally dark. Or as Claire does, I gave her the Singapore Airlines, um, eye shades, and if you have any doubts, put those eye shades on, and then you'll know for absolute certainty that this is not light from outside, it has to be a nimitta. I got a few more of those if anyone needs them. Dear Ajahn, after 3 days I still cannot sit still, what should I do? Go home. [laughter] No, don't go home. If Dania's not here, but what, we can, if you can't sit still, we'll get some string and tie you up [laughter] which is the chair so you got no choice, sit still.[laughs] Don't try to sit still. You can sit still when you are not trying when it just happens naturally. When you're watching a movie, can you sit still? So why can't you sit still when you are meditating? So, what you can do is, all these different types of meditation, what's happening is your thoughts is usually driving you to be restless. So just be, make peace, be kind and be gentle, follow all the advice, so don't try and fight this but say, "Welcome, restlessness" like the monster who came into the emperor's palace. Little by little over the next couple of days, you'll find you'll calm down and you'll be able to sit still for longer and longer and longer. You don't need to sit still all day but just maybe half an hour a day or couple of half hour sessions. Don't push it too much and gradually get into stillness. Dear Ajahn, body scan meditation, can I request a favour from you just to guide us through for a body scan meditation please, thank you. Sometimes, people ask the guided meditations but it is difficult to do in this context when you've got interviews to do and other stuff going on. Because in the mornings, we have our chanting and other stuff and some people like to sit quietly. So if you want to do a body scan meditation, a guided one, I'm sure that somebody's got sort of an Iphone you can put a sort of, an ear adapter in and get it downloaded so you can hear it yourself. It's okay to sit here just listening to a guided meditation through an ear phone. So that's the best way of doing it. If you haven't got a recording of the body scan meditation, I'm sure that Dania can get one for you. Sorry? [voice from background] on youtube, yeah. so you can sort of download that and you all got your gizmos here and get sort of a, little earphone, they can plug it in there and have your own. Dear Ajahn, I am not sure whether I have intestinal problems or maybe it is the amount of cheese I'm eating. But for the last couple of days I've been farting a lot. [laughter] If you're farting a lot, please sit at the back, [laughter] so there's no one behind you. [laughter] It's fine when I'm alone in my cottage, I just let it go. However the problem arises when I'm meditating in the hall, do I just let it go and fart away or do I have to suck it back in? [laughter] Does the ?? apply to farting as coughing? Thank you. [laughter] Get a plug [laughter]. No, it's natural that people pass wind. So just sit in the back there somewhere so that you know, there's no one right behind you and that way I'll find out who the ones are. [laughter] Jerry [laughter]. No it's just part of nature, so a lot of time people don't notice it after a couple of seconds, it's just part of life. Is the greater letting go the letting go of self? Is underlying all our grasping and love, happiness, excess pleasure, etc the grasping of a self? Yeah, but who grasps the self. So, sometimes it's very hard to let go of the self. It's like eating your own head. How can you eat your own head? That was the simile from Charles Dickens in Oliver Twist. Now to eat your own head is impossible to do. The same way of letting go of yourself is impossible to do because you do it. So what happens is your idea of self fades away, you don't let it go, you don't do anything, cos all doing creates more self. These are some deeper teachings here, that if you strive in meditation, you are actually reinforcing and strengthening your idea of self. That's where the sense of self comes from, all of your achievements, all your trying, all of the great things you've done, that makes who you are. Which is why when we struggle and strive and try to make things happen, we are going against the stream of dhamma, you're making a bigger self. But when you let go, when you just make peace, be kind, be gentle, and not even trying to attain things, just being here. If jhana comes, it comes, if it doesn't, it's all the same to me. I'm just sitting under the mango tree perfectly still. If that's how you meditate, your sense of self gets less and less and less. It'll vanish. That was the whole reason we wrote the book "Art of Letting Go" oh, "Art of Disappearing". Sorry. Just basically you disappear, that's how you let go of self. It disappears, it vanishes. And any of you who know the Pali, sometimes the translations which people have done, need to be adjusted to see the full picture. They have this word which you might read many times 'Viraga'. It's the whole thing of you get insight, you see things as they truly are, from stillness you see things as they truly are then you get this dispassion, and then 'viraga', things fade away, and then nirodha, they cease. And sometimes the word viraga is sometimes called dispassion but it has another meaning, fading away, which is the right meaning because it's the way that you fade, you disappear. In the same way that you experience your hands disappear, they just fade away, not just one point and suddenly they're gone, just, they fade, it's a process, they're not there any more. In deep meditation you fade away, you are not there any more. That's how you realise non-self, you don't let it go, you don't put it down, just holding it and just, it's gone, it disappears. That's why stillness is so important. Stillness is the cause of things vanishing. When you're still you don't do anything and you vanish. It was, I saw this when I was a student in Cambridge in about 1970. This was English graffiti in Cambridge University. When they had graffiti in those days, it actually meant something and it was usually very wise. And this I saw with my own eyes on the wall of the Philosophy Department in Cambridge. The first line was "To do is to be" Rene Descertes, the French philosopher. It was then, "I think therefore I am", he also refined that "To do is to be" and underneath that was written "To be is to do" Jean-Paul Sartre, the French existential philosopher, that's what being was. So the first one is, "To do is to be" by Rene Descertes, the second one was turning it around "To be is to do" by Jean-Paul Sartre and that was summed up, so brilliantly by the modern American philosopher, "Do be do be do" Frank Sinatra [laughter] That's a brilliance [laughs] but the first part of that was actually showing that your existence, who you think you are is so caught up with what you do. Now, you're a doctor, and say, that's who I am, it's not who you are, that's just what you do. You see that's who we think we are. I'm a monk, cos I monk around [laughs] that's what I do. So you can actually see that when you do things, that's who you are. So what happens when you don't do anything, when you are still? You actually vanish, your identity disappears which is one of the reasons why it's a really tough thing to do nothing. It's like you're vanishing, like you don't exist any more, you are disappearing, that's what's supposed to happen. It's difficult but it's great fun. Because it's so happy when you're not around. [laughs] Dear Ajahn, I notice the constriction in my throat during meditation at times. Perhaps it's some sort of energy blockage. Is such a phenomenon indicative of anything in particular? Just probably you've got a sore throat like many people have. Take a lozenge. [laughs] There's nothing indicative when you've got a constriction in your throat. This is pollen season now in this part of the world, so it's a lot of hay fever and maybe and sometimes people don't have hay fever anywhere else in the world but they get it when they come here. Be careful it may be just an irritation in the respiratory system. And just take some hot water, just relax rest, it usually goes away. That's nothing to do with meditation. Dear Ajahn, when the breath is more refined, the body may need to swallow saliva, how to prevent it? Thank you Ajahn. Just swallow and don't make a big problem of it. Because sometimes, you think, should I swallow should I not swallow, then it just goes on forever. [laughs] And now,can feel your saliva now? I can feel mine. As soon as you start talking about it, then it becomes a problem. Do you have problems do you wake up in the middle of the night when you swallow saliva? No, just swallow it, an automatic process, it doesn't bother anybody. So the point is, just don't make it a big problem, and it's natural and it won't disturb your meditation at all. If that doesn't work, we can send Dania in to get one of these things from the dentist, [laughter] which will suck saliva out so you can meditate without any problems at all.[laughter] So if you're really having trouble, we'll get one of those for you. [laughter] Next question. The Buddha taught that we let go of our senses. Does that mean persons who are hearing impaired, visually impaired or mute have a higher chance of gaining enlightenment or even faster, going into jhanas? That's actually a really, really good question. As many people know, say if you are blind, you are visually impaired, your other senses become incredibly refined. So when one sense has gone, that part of the brain is taking up with the other senses. Yeah, maybe you may have problem with seeing things but you can hear, you're so incredibly sensitive. Or you know, if you are, if you are deaf, sometimes your hands are just so sensitive, you can actually feel everything with your body. So basically there is no advantage or disadvantage, know, if one of your senses is impaired. You don't gain anything, you don't lose anything, so it's all the same, no matter you've only got 4 senses. Many of the tree trunks in the bush along the walk to Bodhiyana Monastery are blackened. When did the bushfire pass through? Oh, actually this time last year, it was very dry and there was an arsonist in the area who's just going around lighting fires, about 13 or 14 in this area, never caught. So we don't know exactly who it was. But they're only small fires, so they didn't do too much damage, in the sense it actually helps the bush here because if you did a little bushfire, burn this time last year, it means there's not so much fuel, safer. So, we didn't really mind so much. It's part of living in the Australian forest, so sometimes things burn. So this time of the year, because it's a very wet year and you've seen some of the rain in the first few days, it's really, really safe right now. I seem to have an internal time keeper in meditation. I seem to always be prompted to end it at 30 minutes. Why is it and how can I deal with it? It's true you do have internal clocks and that's why that you can actually say to yourself "I will meditate for 1 hour" and if you really listen to what you say and mean it, that's how long you will meditate for. For those who've never tried this before, I invite you to try this tonight. Don't know what time you want to wake up tomorrow morning, probably 5 to 7, oh no, no, 6.40, sorry.[laughs] Say you want to wake up at 6.40 to have a breakfast, you can set your alarm to 6.45, just to make you feel safe and not afraid and then when you go to sleep, just tell yourself "I will wake up at 6.40. I will wake up at 6.40. I will wake up at 6.40" You say that to yourself 3 times clearly and listen with as much mindfulness as you can and you set your alarm to 6.45 just in case. And you'll find you'll wake in the morning, you don't know what time it is, the alarm hasn't gone off and you look at your clock, it'll be one or two minutes either side of 6.40. It's amazing just how your body clock can wake you up when you tell it to. And of course, you know, you want to get the morning chanting for a change, just say, "I will wake up at a quarter to 6, I will wake up at a quarter to 6, I will wake up at quarter to six" to get ready for the chanting at 6. And you'll be surprised you'll just wake up without an alarm. So please try that because it just shows us how this body clock works. And all you need to do is to make the suggestion, listen to it and it works. So for those of you doing, this person, 30 minutes, and that's all you can do, programme your body clock, this is just a habit, that's all you have. Just tell yourself when you sit down, you close your eyes, you get yourself reasonable relaxed and you tell yourself, "I will meditate for 40 minutes. I will meditate for 40 minutes. I will meditate for 40 minutes." Tell that to yourself and usually you find that you'll go for 40 minutes. That's how you can condition your mind. You mentioned that thoughts coming up is discontent and unhappiness in meditation. Today I thought of friends and I was happy and grateful. What does that mean? Yeah, you can think of sex, you can think of your favourite movie, that will make you happy as well, so you don't have any other thoughts. That is not learning how to be still. So if you think of your friends and happy and grateful or you might think of, actually you might think of your favourite food, it makes you happy at first but very disappointed later. [laughs] So there's all sorts of ways of borrowing happiness, and this is really what we're doing. This is what the Buddha said that the sensory desire is just the borrowing happiness and you have to pay it back with interest afterwards. So any fantasy or stuff, yes it stops you being sleepy, but, you know you have to pay that back later on. So it's much better to try and be quiet. Yes you can think and be happy, but it's only borrowing happiness, so if you can be still and happy to be still, then that's the true happiness of the mind. When the breath is more refined, how to programme the knower stronger than the doer? When the breath is more refined, just let the breath be. So when the breath is very, very fine, is very, very soft, hopefully it will start to be a happy, beautiful breath. This is a usual way it occurs. The breath calms down and because you're not doing very much, the energy in your mind goes into knowing, is not wasted on doing. So the knowing, the mindfulness gets stronger, it gets empowered, it gets brilliant and with that comes a natural form of happiness. Have you ever been depressed? If you are depressed, nothing tastes nice. Doesn't matter how much effort the cook puts into your lunch, urgh, it doesn't taste nice, and the sun is just too hot, the rain is too wet, Ajahn Brahm talks the same old jokes, I'm fed up, the meditation cushion is too lumpy, the beds are just too cold or whatever. When you're depressed you can't enjoy anything. And the world is grey for you but it just means you got low energy. But when you build up energy in the mind, everything is delicious and beautiful. The rain is brilliant, the cold, aw, it's so wonderful, it's just so embracing and invigorating, the cold, Ajahn Brahm's jokes, oh, the golden oldies, [laughter] I remember the first time I heard that, and oh, and that was such beautiful memories, and everything is wonderful when you got lots of energy in the mind. So this is what usually happens when the knower becomes strong, it's just too happy which means you just can't do anything. You just, remember when you listen to great music or you listen to your movie, you don't do anything because you're satisfied with happiness. It is the happiness stops the doing and stops the thinking. Please cultivate the happiness in meditation and don't be depressed. That's why one of the greatest ways of overcoming depression is meditation. Why, why does that work? Because you're being still and peaceful, that means the energy is allowed to flow to where it really belongs, in the mind. You wake up and everything is bright and brilliant again. Dear Ajahn, is it craving if we respectfully request for hot Asian lunch? [laughs] These are Asian lunches, Cauc-Asian lunches.[laughter] You don't know what it was like to be, when my 9 years I was a monk in Thailand.[laughs] I never saw any Western food, never a slice of bread, never a chip, nothing. All I ever saw was Asian food. [laughter] You know what happened, it was actually after 7 years. After 7 years I went to England to visit my family. My mother said, "Oh, you've been in Thailand, I'll make you rice and curry." Oh, no,[laughter] that, that's so many years and this is absolutely true. When I went to UK after 7 years as a monk, only once did I get chips and that was from the Thai man. All of the other people thought, oh, you know, must like rice and curry. You lived there for so long. [laughter] And I was just dreaming of [laughs]. So remember it's just 4 elements that's all you're eating. [laughs] But we are actually trying. I did hear some of you wanting some Asian. But actually the cook is supposed to be from Singapore. I don't know why she's not making Singapore food. It must mean your karma is not ripe yet. [laughter] But at least you're getting a breakfast of congee every day, is there enough of that? Very good. [laughs] It'll come, you'll get an Asian lunch soon. You can understand how I felt. But itis true because sometimes you get used to certain type of food. But what about poor Priya, she's Sri Lankan. She doesn't get anything, I saw that English food or Caucasian food or Asian food but not Sri Lankan food, poor Priya [laughs]. But anyway, we're trying our very best, we're try and get some Asian food too. Meditation is good and we all know it but how do we keep the practice sustainable after we leave this wonderful place and return to the real world? You haven't left yet. [laughter] It's another week before you leave. [laughter] Stop being so far ahead of yourself. [laughter] You can ask that question on the last hour, last day. Thank you for your utmost patience and gentleness with us. Could you please advise us how to develop the genuine or something beautiful breath when it appears? You just let it be. Ah, on the back of T-shirts once it gets warm when people don't cover themselves up with all sorts of blankets and stuff, you will see the words "Make peace, be kind, be gentle." That's all you ever need to do at any stage of the meditation. Just make peace with the delightful breath or whatever else you you're experiencing. If you make peace with it rather than changing it, you're making peace which means peace is growing. You get more peace and more peace and more peace. And the meditation 's just peace upon peace upon peace. Many moments of making peace and you have the house of peace. Just like this hall, many, many bricks, all laid one by one by the builders. Now we have a hall of bricks, just like you have the house of peace, by laying one brick of peace after the other. That's how we make it. So you just make peace with whatever you experience. Be kind. Open the door of your heart to the delightful breath. This is good enough, what more do you want? Some people haven't even been able to watch the present moment. So, just, you are doing well. Enjoy and just be so gentle. I'm just going to go very, very slowly. This is good enough for me. So the opposite of gentle is be violent. Come on! Get on to the next stage, stop messing around! So please don't do that, just always make peace, be kind, be gentle. And that's advice for any stage of meditation and it works. A lay person while on her way to give food dana to an Arahant, she saw a hunger streaking and dying beggar. Who should she give the food to, the beggar or the Arahant? Who would you give it to? Put your hand up, who's for the beggar? Okay. Who's for the Arahant? Aw,poor Arahant. [laughter] Okay. [laughter] Because how do you it's the Arahant, that beggar could be the Arahant. Who knows? So when the Buddha said is, give where heart finds the greatest satisfaction. So a lot of you, doesn't matter about the Arahant, if you give where your heart finds satisfaction, because someone really needs it, that's a wonderful place to give. You get much more joy out of that. And sometimes you give to all these people and sometimes, I give that alms, I give to the beggar because I had that experience myself when I was in Thailand. [chuckle] We used to eat this terrible, terrible food. Asian food would have been nice. [laughter] It wasn't Asian food, it was just rice and frogs or beetles, you know, egg curry, no it was ant egg curry, red ant curry as well. We had red ant curry and anything which slithered on the ground, we ate, literally. And so, one day, having eaten this disgusting food, I was sitting in Ajahn Chah's monastery, about 50 monks there waiting for our daily meal of rice and rotten fish, you know how is it, disgusting stuff. I don't know how I actually ate that, in those days. But anyway, that's all you had so you ate it. And a car came and it was one of these pick up trucks with a train in the back, full of pots of food. It had come from the city, which meant this was nice, nice Asian food, stuff you could eat. And the man got out of the car, came into the dining hall and just asked "Is Ajahn Chah here?" He was actually out that day. He went to do a blessing at someone's house. So I said, "No, he's not here." So the man got back into his car and drove off away. [laughter]. That, I would never forget that forever. You can see the food, you can smell the food but it was driving away. [laughter] Instead we had rice and rotten fish again. [laughter] Why did he do that? Cos he thought, give it to an Arahant is where you get all of the good merit and give to beggars like me, that's how I felt, [laughs] was no merit. Of course you give it to the person who needs it. That's what I would do. Hope this is not a stupid question. There is no such thing as a stupid question. Sometimes if a person ask a question and it is wrongly put, you may feel stupid for a second but if you don't ask the question, you are stupid for the rest of your life. Remember that. People say that if you meditate, it is inevitable that you are able to see spirits whether you want to or not. Is it true? Unfortunately, it's not true. Many people meditate and they can't see any spirits at all. Venerable Sariputta was one of those, fully enlightened, very wise but he could not see any spirits. But if you do see spirits you are very lucky. Spirits are very, very helpful. They know lottery numbers [laughter], they know the stock market, they can help you when somebody, when there's going to be car crash, you can avoid the place. Oh, they're really, really very helpful. So don't be scared. [chuckle] That's why the story of the tsunami ghost. It's a long time since I told that story. This was, just after the boxing day tsunami, this was a Thai girl married to an Englishman, an angmo in the town of, where was it, Krabi, which was just maybe hundred kilometres outside of Phuket. And she woke up in the middle of the night, after a dream, where she dreamt of seeing this Caucasian girl with long blonde hair, but her clothes all ripped, gashed and bleeding. And the Caucasian girl came to her in a dream and said, "I'm dead. I am dead. Help me, I am dead." Do I sound like a ghost? [laughter] [Off the lights - voice from background] Off the, yeah, go on, turn off the lights, come on. [laughter] Very good. I'm dead, help me... and she said, "I was on Phi Phi Island when the big wave hit. I'm dead, my cell phone is at the bottom of the ocean. My mother is trying to call me right now. Help me. Please my body is now in the temple in Phuket where they are keeping many of the dead bodies. This is my name, this is the temple. Help me. I want a Buddhist funeral. Cremate me but don't let my mother know or come. So don't let my mother come until after the cremation. I don't want my mother to see me like this, and tell my mother, here is the number." And after giving a telephone number, is when the Thai girl woke up. It was one of those dreams which was so clear, she remembered everything. She woke up her husband, told him everything and her husband was quite shocked. Now, that number was a London telephone number. So he told his wife, "Give the number a call." She said, "No way, you call". So he had to call that number. Someone, it was the middle of the night in Thailand, late in the evening in London, a woman picked up that phone. It was the mother. She had a daughter with that name. And the mother said, "I knew that she was dead." She could feel it and she heard the news about the big tsunami. She knew her daughter was on Phi Phi Island. She said, "I knew. Thank you for telling me. go ahead." And so the next day they drove to Phuket, found the temple which the ghost had named, went inside and saw the body, exactly as she had seen in the dream. And because the Thai authorities were trying to get rid of the bodies as soon as possible, they gave permission to cremate that body. They cremated it and the next day, the mother arrived from Heathrow to pick up the ashes, thanking them for what they had done. And then they went back to Krabi. A couple of nights later, she had another dream. The English girl came to see her again. "Thank youu, thaank, youuu. Loook at me." [laughter] and she was just so perfectly dressed and groomed. I think the Thai girl said, just like she'd been to, like a salon and got her hair done, her skin was just radiant like she'd been to a spa and she's wearing this beautiful white dress. "Thank youu, so much for what you have done." She said, "I want to help you back." She gave or the ghost gave the girl, or maybe deva, more like a deva now, the deva gave the Thai girl another set of numbers which were not telephone numbers.[laughs] They were lottery numbers. She remembered them and wrote them down when she woke up. And she put a lot of money on that lottery number and it won and they made a fortune. Which is why whenever you see spirits you should never run away. [laughs] Not until you've asked them for numbers first.[laughter] That's a true story. So that sometimes, you should not be afraid of the ghost, they can help out. Turn on the lights so I can see the next question. Oh, upside down that's why I can't read it. Wow. Why do ghosts always come in the dark? And the answer is - they don't. Even in the middle of the day, ghosts come out. ]laughs] The thing is, in the middle of the day, you don't notice them. You think it's just an ordinary person sitting next to you [laughter]. Today 2 people disappeared into the forest. Are we sure the ones who came back are real? [laughter] Didn't I tell you when, sometimes ghosts you can't tell them apart. One of the most amazing stories in Australia, you don't need to turn the lights off, was the lady who married a ghost. It's a true story, well documented. Are you going to turn the lights off again? [laughter] Okay, yeah, okay. So this woman was about to get married. And in the Western tradition, as in a big church, girl wears white and the groom is there waiting in the church for her. But if the wedding, doesn't matter what time the wedding is, the bride must always arrive late. It's tradition. Just shows she's not so keen [laughter] otherwise husband will take advantage of you. So even the wedding I did the other day, it's supposed to be at 3.15 and she didn't arrive till about 3.30, so made me late. But the bride arrived late, 5 minutes late to find that the groom hadn't arrived yet. And she was really disappointed and also a bit concerned. Cos sometimes, you know, boys they get cold feet at the last moment. I don't want to get married. And so some of the times, you know, their friends tell them bad jokes about marriage like I told the other day. But, didn't I tell the joke about love is blind? I did that one. Okay what other jokes are there, about the man who said, I always wanted to marry Mrs. Right and I've finally found her, that's why I married the right woman. She's always right and I'm always wrong.[laughter] There's loads and loads of marriage jokes. So sometimes the guys get cold feet at the last moment. So she thought she was going to be stood up, the guy wasn't going to turn up. And as the minutes passed by, she was more and more worried. And there was sense of relief but also concern when she saw the groom, the guy she was about to marry, running down the street towards her. And because she was pleased to see him, but worried because he was bleeding and his suit was cut. And he told her the reason he was late, he was caught in a car accident. She took one look at him and said "I'm taking you to the hospital." "No, no, I'm okay. I want to go through this marriage. It's really important for me. I want to marry you." and said, " I feel okay." So she trusted him. He went into the men's room, cleaned himself up. And even though they started late, they went through the marriage. They were exchanging rings, making their vows, signing the register, kissing, you know the whole lot. And after doing all the signing, the kissing, exchanging rings, the bride and groom went in the car to the reception, the party they have afterwards. And as they wanted to have some together so they went in the car alone. And she drove because he was still a bit shaky. And everyone else followed after them on the way to the reception hall. People following found the car parked with the bride sobbing, hysterical and no sign of the groom, the new husband. When they calmed her down, they asked "where's he gone?" And she said, "I was driving the car. He was sitting next to me and suddenly he just disappeared from the passenger seat." He just vanished. They checked afterwards, that spot where he vanished was the spot where he had died an hour, two earlier in a fatal car crash. He died there. And he wanted to get married so much, he made himself as a ghost. He went to the marriage and she didn't know. Even when she kissed him, it was like kissing a real guy. He signed the register, everything. So be careful, [laughter] the next time you kiss someone, yeah. [laughter] He could be ghost. So they just don't come out at night. Sometimes you can marry one. So she is Mrs. Ghost now. [laughter] That's a true story, happened in Australia, it's weird but that's a true ghost story. And it's because of his craving and desire to go through the marriage, that created the solid body for him enough to go through that ceremony but only that much. Great story, isn't it? Dear Ajahn, I believe I got better at being at present moment awareness, although still interrupted by thoughts and inner chatter. I almost do not respond to them at all. However when I came out of meditation, the present moment are not very vivid in my memory. Is that normal? That's quite normal. Later on, the present moments, because you are not holding on to them, you're not making them so important, they don't really stay. What stays in your memory are very strong moments, trauma moments of pain and disappointment. Those are things which stay in your memory or very high bliss states,they are the things you remember because they are intense experiences. Dear Ajahn, would you please share with us what was Ajahn Chah's teachings which was misquoted. Ah I know what was one of them. I know about like jhanas, cos I think it was in Jack Kornfield's book. I remember once, he asked him about is jhana important. And he actually wrote in his book, you know, questions, Ajahn Chah said "Not really." And Ajahn Chah was always into jhanas. And some of the earliest talks he gave, he was always encouraging people to do that. So I know that was one quote that was misquoted. But I forget what that book was, which was badly translated. When we asked the translator, said, why did you translate it like this? And he actually said, "Because that's what I think Ajahn Chah really wanted to say." So you have to be very careful, whenever you are translating a book, you know, you have to know the person first of all, you are translating, so you know exactly what they mean when they say things. That's why that maybe you translate what I say, you have to be someone who's gone to retreats, someone who's lived me, so actually you know exactly what I mean, cos you've heard me say the stories so many times. Cos otherwise, you know, you're not really translating at all. You're actually saying you're interpreting what you think the person meant. Question 2, This is a modern world, would I be doing others keen to tell, would I be doing others keen to do full time injustice if I were ordained just for a short period. I'm a female, just for 1 to 2 years? It's might just do 1 to 2 years of ordaination. If you can get enlightened in 1 to 2 years, fine.[laughs] It's like saying I'm going to go to university for 3 weeks. Would the university let you in? Would you really learn very much, just going to university for 3 weeks? You got to go and do the whole course and why not? It's good being a nun. Although, you know, that's why we're doing a lot of work, trying to raise funds for the nuns monastery. Even the Buddha said that nuns come by things with difficulty. You just look in Asia, monks get lots of things. Women get very little. And you know why? Next time we chant metta sutta, listen to it. "Whatever living beings they may be or meeting nuns,[laughter] let none deceive another, let none, through anger or ill will which harm upon another",[laughter] that's why. [laughter] That's why. Anyway, question 3, since getting a visa is difficult and Dhammasara's a long waiting list, is there other monastery I could apply for practice? What is your recommendation? Thank you very much. Still, the moment for women is very difficult. We've got another monastery, nuns' monastery, Santi in Sydney, which we're repopulating again now. That went through a bit of difficulty, we're really trying to establish that as a bhikkuni monastery. So now the few nuns have gone back there now. But they had a nice nuns monastery in United States, but they didn't get much support at all. And actually the building's got so badly infected with mold. The health department told them to leave. So they spent the last rains retreat all over the place, they had to break the rains. And there's so many wealthy people in California who are supposed to be Buddhists. They don't help the nuns at all. So it's really weird in United States. So it's tough, that's why we're working hard to get places for nuns to live and Australia's a great place. We got the land, it's pretty easy to get. We got a good country here so, it's close to Asia. So you know eventually you'll be able to come here or maybe when you go, you're all so kind, you always give donations and you brought lots of books with you came here, so please take some land back with you. We've got lots of land here, so take a quarter acre back each [laughter] and then we can have a nuns monastery in Singapore. Wouldn't it be great? Dear, next question. Ups and downs of life, challenges, meditate, positive thinking to move on. How to end suffering? Should we still have children and let them suffer? It's a good question, should we have children? Is that appropriate thing to do in today's world? You got climate change, you got wars, is it good to have children and let them suffer? You can look upon it in one way, so there's enough people in this world. But you look at it another way, so you're giving the opportunity of a human birth to somebody, so they can actually get close to the dhamma and actually maybe, even become a great monk or a great nun and even help spread the teachings. So you can look at it both ways, sometimes it's good to have a child cos you've given the opportunity of a human life to somebody. You look at it another way, there's already enough children in the world. So, know, whichever way you want to do, it's, you can't really make a decision there. Dear Ajahn, what is the significance of the kathina to the lay person? It is usually traditionally, it was a way of showing gratitude to the monks who spent the whole rains retreat there and also because they've been meditating really hard or really deeply for 3 months, there was more chance of getting Arahants, once returners, non returners and the Sangha who's just finished the rains retreat, so more chance of getting the biggest bang for your bucks [laughs] when you give stuff. So that's what it usually came from. But these days it's just the opportunity, it's supposed to be a fund raiser to get the building stuff for the next year. So most of the buildings we get, you know, come from the kathina ceremony. So all the stuff which we're doing over the next year, that's one of the biggest fund raisers at the kathina. That's why we have a lot of people come here, they give a lot of donations and that's where we build the stuff for the next year. And that's also why, because, know, you guys always so generous, I want you to go and see where we spent the money. Cos, you know, sometimes, you know, you give, you know, you give like the angpows and donation but you don't know where it goes. Does it go in Ajahn Brahm's trust fund? Does it go to buy Rolex watches? Does he live in a penthouse? Which is why that, on Saturday afternoon, after lunch, you're all welcome to go and see where I live. And you are quite free to rummage around and see if you can find where I keep my Rolex watches. [laughter] Now, hiding from you cos I know you're being there. Where I live is where I live. And the anagarikas they've been in there many times, they see how I live and what I do. So it's not secret and you can actually go and see the other monks' huts as well. And that actually gives you inspiration because we don't spend much money on ourselves. A lot of the time, the money goes in these other things like the nuns' monastery, halls, meditation centres like this, that's where it all goes. So that you can get some confidence, that you know it's hard to make money. You work really hard, and you know, these monks come along and say, "Can you sort of help out in this project and that project?" It's really tough sometimes. You know, sending Lai Peng and she put this story on the website. Sometimes, I, did I tell that story about squeezing the lemon here? Yeah, the lemon challenge. That's why, I think I told it in Singapore with a different context. That's like, like in a bar in Singapore. The barman was a very tough guy, he was an ex-weight lifter, you know, representing Singapore in Olympic Games, really, really strong. You know, he retired and got a bar selling alcohol. And he had a challenge in his bar. If anybody, after he squeezed the lemon into a cocktail, if anyone could take that lemon and squeeze another 3 drops out, they will get a free drink or like a hundred dollars. And many people tried, you know these really big strong guys, they tried to actually, just squeeze another 3 drops out of that lemon. They could not do it at all. Then one day this small Singapore girl, really thin, came in and she said, "I want to try the lemon challenge." And they laughed at her. "You're just such a thin, petite, feminine girl. You can't squeeze any more drops out of this lemon!" She said, "Give me a try." And she took that lemon, squeezed not just 3 drops, 7 drops came out of that lemon. And everyone was so amazed, they gave her the prize. They said, "Who are you?" She said, "I work for Ajahn Brahm on this fund raising." [laughter] We squeeze and squeeze and squeeze.[laughter] Angie, okay. The last time I told that story, I said it was the tax inspectors from Singapore, squeezing extra out of you people. [laughter] Then I said, I've always ??? to that. But If it's a good cause, it's worth doing. And I want you to see the cause of it and also you get great joy out of this. So many of you here actually were the donors for this place. And many of you came up to me and said, "Oh, you're so generous and kind building this beautiful place for us. A nice hall and you got your own ensuites and beautiful surroundings. Thank you so much." Don't thank me. Thank many of the people from Singapore, Malaysia, Australia as well and other parts of the world who made this place happen. Thank yourselves. Well done. It's not just you who enjoy this place. Hundreds of people come here every year, thousands of people. So well done. So when actually you see what you contribute, it gives you so much happiness that you know that your 5 dollars here, 10 dollars there, it really works. Yes! And when you actually spend things on a good cause and you see it's results, that really, really makes you happy. So that's really important. Last one, no, last two. Meditate for all the goodness to lead a happier life and well being. How do monks spend long duration alone? It's really easy. I'm never alone. When I spent 6 months in solitude, I never saw another living being for 6 months. I never spoke to a human being for 6 months. But I wasn't alone. I was with me. [laughter] I'm with me all the time. And I never felt lonely because I'm my best friend. So when you're by yourself, if you like yourself, if you've got a good relationship with yourself, you'll never feel alone. You're with your best friend. That's why, you know, I've always done open the door of my heart to myself, giving myself a hug, looking at myself in the mirror and smiling. And then you find you have this beautiful relationship with yourself. Yeah, you're not the most perfect one, but you're good enough. You're not the most perfect girl, the most perfect boy but you are good enough. Good enough to love, respect and be a good friend to. When you're a good friend to yourself, when you're with people you're relaxed. When you're with yourself, you're also relaxed, which means solitude, being in a big crowd, both the same. Cos sometimes, I look at myself, how many people in this world has spent 6 months alone, in solitude? And how many people have sat in front of audience who's 5,000 and 10,000, all alone and entertain them for couple of hours? I do both. This is weird isn't it? You know, I'm an extrovert. When in front of you, I tell jokes, Sadhu!, Sadhu!! Sadhu!!, so you know, it's a bit of an extrovert. But when you're alone you're an introvert, you can do both with ease. that's the best thing to be able to do. Anyway, the last question. Venerable sir, actually I should actually mention how to address me appropriately, cos sometimes venerable sir, sometimes Ajahn Brahm, sometimes, you know, Bhante. The correct address for me, at this stage of my monastic life, is his roundness Ajahn Brahm [laughter]. So you say, your roundness, could you please answer this question? [laughter] Can't stop laughing myself. Do you think that stillness is the ultimate key that switches the mind consciousness out of samsara and the rest of the 7 factors are just the essential conditions to be ripe? Yes,actually that is a very profound, that's what the Buddha said. Samadhi maggo asamadhi comaggo. Samadhi, the stillness is the path, no stillness is not the path. Just before the Buddha sat under the Bodhi tree when he was really depressed cos nothing was working, he remembered the time, under, when he was a kid under the rose apple tree, he saw his father doing a ceremony, he got bored stiff, so he decided to meditate instead got into jhana. And remembering that time he said, "Is that the path to enlightenment, that jhana?" And he realised, actually said, "Yes, that's the path, that's deep stillness." Many times the Buddha said that. So yes, it is actually the essential part, the stillness is the path. And even you know that there is the decline of Buddhism. This is in the Kassapa Samyutta, the 5 reasons for the decline of Buddhism. And the first one is disrespect to the Buddha, second, disrespect to the Dhamma, disrespect to the Sangha, the fourth is disrespect to the training and the fifth, disrespect to Samadhi, the stillness. If you don't value the stillness, the Samadhi, basically the jhanas, Buddhism declines. Buddha, Dhamma, Sangha, the training and Samadhi, Kassapa Samyutta. This is means that the mango will not fall if the conditions are not ripe no matter how still we sit. No, no, if you sit very still, those are the conditions, the mango will fall. This also means that monk hood is only good bet of getting the conditions ripe. So for us lay people, meditation's only to provide a little side effect of a calm mind. That's not true cos sometimes it's amazing, you guys can meditate so still, people in this room, lay people have achieved jhanas. And you know, sometimes, it was about a year ago, it was so unexpected. It was a guy who came on one of our retreats. He had tattoos all over him, you know, sort of, really like one of these ochre Australians, one of the people you would never think belonged in a Buddhist temple but belonged in a pub. Just a whole look of him, said, "What are you doing here?" But when he came for the interviews, he started describing what he's experienced, I was amazed, I was stunned, this guy was getting jhanas. And I don't know what his background was but you know, I've been around a long time, I know when you so you try and fake it, then I know, it's not a jhana. This guy was the real thing and the most unexpected which is why that sometimes you see people wearing white clothes or shaven hair [laughter], and they look, oh these must be real thing. And you get some guy who dresses in just totally inappropriate stuff, they got tattoos and long hair and maybe piercings in their body and you think, what's this person doing here? And they go and meditate and they get it. You don't know, you can't tell. And lay people they do get jhanas. So you're not wasting your time here, otherwise I won't be teaching you. You know a long time ago, I was one of the first monks who started teaching jhanas and I got told off by some of the senior monks, for doing that. I still remember, one of the senior monks in England. In England when I was visiting Amaravati Monastery and I was just going to the reception area, he was just coming out and he took me aside and he looked around and said, [whispering] "Ajahn Brahm thank you for teaching jhanas" so that no one else would hear. It was almost like a controversial thing to do. But you know, I said, "Why? In the time of the Buddha, lay people got jhanas, so why not give them a try and it worked." Not all of you but some of you do. [laughs] And eventually you'll get there. If you don't even teach it, there's no way anyone get jhanas. If you teach it, eventually these things happen. So, it's brilliant and so I'm proud of you guys. That's why it's not a waste of time, keep on going. So anyway, I still meditate, next life I may be a monk, who knows, be prepared. Huh, huh [laughter] I'm not coming next life, I'm out of here. Enough is enough, is enough, [laughter] So, you can. And that's one of the amazing things, it doesn't matter if you are a lay man or a lay woman, old or young, it matters whether you put the causes in place. It's the brilliant teachings of the Buddha. It's only you've got the eightfold path, you do the eightfold path, doesn't matter even if you call yourself a Christian, you've got the eightfold path, you will eventually get to enlightenment. Of course you change your views on the path along the way but it's the causes give rise to effects. If you let go, follow the instructions eventually these jhanas appear. It's just there, because it's cause and effect. It's nothing to do with who you think you are. It's just cause and effect, that's all. Thats so inspiring for me. It's just like me teaching the monks over the road. So as long as you keep carrying on, practising this path, you'll get results, it always happens. You just got to keep along, keep on the path then you'll get to your destination. That's how much faith I've got in this path. So keep on going. You may not get jhanas on this retreat, but may be the next one or the one afterwards. You're always making progress, getting closer every time. So, carry on. It's the last question, just getting into it. Okay, wow, wow, it's really late, 9.30. I do apologise but don't worry, even though it's late that means breakfast is not so far away [laughter]. Sadhu, sadhu, sadhu.
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