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  • Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

  • and a life that you love so much that youre gonna do a dance with it. Yes. Today’s question

  • comes from Miss Christine and she writes:

  • Hi Marie, I would love you to A this Q. How do you deal with criticism when youre

  • putting yourself out there all the time? I know everyone’s entitled to their own opinions,

  • but when you get someone that is very critical and it feels like theyre trying to define

  • you by their own beliefs rather than the message youre trying to get across or who you are

  • or what you represent, how do you not let it affect you in a negative way? Even more

  • so when these are people that are close to you. I have a really difficult time with this.

  • Thank you. Christine.”

  • You know, Christine, most people have a tough time being criticized, so it’s very normal

  • that it doesn't feel so good. And youre right, I’ve been putting myself out there

  • for years so I do have some experience on this topic and, of course, you made it very

  • clear that you would like to know how I personally deal with it. So here we go.

  • Number one, youve gotta realize that criticism comes with creativity. It was Aristotle who

  • said, “If you want to avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.” So if

  • youre gonna do anything in life youve got to realize that this is part of the game.

  • I don't want you to resist that face, just embrace it.

  • Number two, not all criticism is bad. Constructive criticism can really help you grow. So I don't

  • want you to be so sensitive that you dismiss it all.

  • Here’s the thing though, the people that know you and love you and support you, they

  • will offer constructive criticism most often in private. I mean, that’s what my friends

  • do for me and I try and do the same for them. Now, as for the clown holes who offer you

  • criticism and they don't even know you, you wanna be strong enough to be able to skim

  • any morsel off the top that could possibly be useful to you.

  • Now, as for these kind of clown holes who don't even know me who publicly criticize

  • me online, I honestly kinda feel bad for them. I’m never sure what theyre actually trying

  • to gain from it. It’s clear they have little to no emotional intelligence and way too much

  • time on their hands. Plus 99% of the time these people are not creating anything positive

  • for themselves or others, so it’s not like I really respect their opinion anyway. But

  • my most important strategy is this:

  • Number three is don't give away your power. So anytime some nasty criticism or BS comes

  • your way you have to say this. “You cannot take me down. I will not give you that power.”

  • I want you to make that your new mantra in life. Youve gotta realize that people can

  • say whatever they want, but you do not have to take it in and you don't have to let it

  • ruin your day. Your time on this earth is so precious and it’s really, really important

  • that you protect your soul.

  • Number four is take a stand for kindness. So I have a secret imaginary organization

  • that not many people know about until it’s too late. It’s called MF’s Ministry of

  • Kindness and the basic tenet isbe kind or leave.” So if someone is unkind they

  • get a letter from my organization that says this:

  • Dear Ms. Clownhole, MF’s Ministry of Kindness invites you not to stay.”

  • Or if I think they’d respond better to something a little less formal, I send them this video

  • message from my friend Eddie.

  • Here’s the deal, Christine, do not let anybody come into your house and basically squat down

  • and take a hot, steamy dump on your living room floor. Do not tolerate people being mean

  • or cruel to you, your friends, your family, your team, anybody in your world. So how do

  • you do this? You delete people, you disengage, you block them, you unsubscribe them.

  • Number five, and this is really probably my favorite, you need to have a good laugh. So

  • one of my favorite things in the world is what Jimmy Kimmel does where he has his mean

  • celebrity tweets where celebrities read out loud the awful things that people write directly

  • to them. Take a look at Ethan Hawke.

  • Now, you can see the full video below. It is hilarious. The best thing is how all these

  • celebs deal with it. They just read it out loud, they share it with us, they laugh about

  • it, which is the perfect way to remove the sting. And to prove it to you I’m gonna

  • join in and read some criticism that people like to share with me.

  • So here’s a comment from one of our subscribers, Karen, who actually signed up to hear from

  • me. She writes, “I find you obnoxious and your style is deceiving. Karen.” You know,

  • she’s right. Don't trust this skirt.

  • And here’s another love note. “Does anyone know how much of Marie’s hair is false?

  • I’d guess that mane she tosses over her shoulders is 70% extensions.” And then someone

  • responded saying, “Ding ding ding! I’d go with around 80% actually. I’ve always

  • found her gobs of fake hair very distracting. And I’ve been surprised to see her being

  • praised for her great hair when it’s obviously almost entirely extensions. Her natural hair,

  • it’s just the layers around her face. I’ve never seen it longer than past her shoulders.

  • Her natural hair is not that thick at all.” Ow, Greg. “She covers it up with teasing

  • her hair so to make her hair look fuller. This is obvious even in the pics without extensions.”

  • Greg, I know. I know. Now they know it’s not fake. Sorry to burst your bubble, but

  • this is the hair that I was born with.

  • Pretty awesome, right? Now, I know when sometimes somebody says something really mean or cruel

  • to you it can stay in your head for a while. So if you just can’t laugh it off or brush

  • it off I want you to remember this Tweetable.

  • If mean words keep popping up in your mind, don't let them drop down and poison your soul.”

  • One last thing. We did another awesome episode on criticism, it’s right here, so if you

  • want more just go and check that out. So, Christine, that was my A to your Q. I hope

  • it helps. Now I would love to hear from you. How do you deal with criticism in your life?

  • Have you got any really priceless tweets or comments or shares that make you laugh now?

  • If you want to, put them in the comments below.

  • Now, as always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com,

  • so go there and leave a comment now.

  • Did you like this video? I certainly did. It was one of my favorites. If you did, subscribe

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  • Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world needs that special

  • gift that only you have. Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time

  • on MarieTV.

Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

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