But now, everything constantly got more expensive. And it was all because of the government.

These uneducated pigs didn’t know how to control prices. When I was privileged to hear

this story, her complaining would last for hours.

And that is exactly what reactive people do. They always focus on the things they cannot

control. It’s not possible that a concept like inflation would exist. And if it did,

it’s impossible that they wouldn’t know about it!

On the other hand, proactive people realize that even if their complaining were completely

objective, it does not help them. So, they focus on what they can control. If a proactive

person owns a business where he sells a product, instead of focusing on how people these days

don’t appreciate good products and how the government has horrible regulations, he thinks,

“How can I improve my product, so my customers can’t live without it?”

Do you realize how much responsibility, how much dedication, how much hard work comes

along with asking that question? And what do you think our effort-minimizing brain is

going to pick as default? And that is exactly why most people focus on the things they cannot

control rather than focusing on the things that they can.

Therefore, habit number 1 is, be proactive.

Imagine you’re at a funeral, but this one’s different from all the funerals you have ever

been to. You’re standing over the casket and you see yourself. What do you have to

say about yourself? This is one of the most powerful questions you could ask.

Are you doing the things in your life which are aligned with what you want to be able

to say? Do you want to say that you were a good spouse? If that’s the case, how does

coming home and instantly being negative towards your spouse affect that? Do you want to be

remembered as a person who added value to society? If that’s the case, are you doing

the things that will allow you to say that, or are you scared of failure and choose comfortable

mediocrity?

Almost every one of us will have to readjust how we live when we ask this question.

Habit number 2 is: begin with the end in mind.

If I were to ask you, “What are the most important things to you?” The most common

answers I would get would be either your wellbeing or your relationships—your family, your

spouse, your children. You would never ever say, “Organizing papers or watching TV…”

But how many of us spend more time organizing papers and watching TV than planning our nutrition

and going to the gym, or cultivating a healthy family environment?

There’s a horrible disconnect between what we say and how we actually allocate our time.

Habit number 3 is: put first things first.

Imagine you’re an author, and I’m an author. We both write interesting books and we both

have access to an audience of about a 100,000 people. I read your book and I love it. So

I decide to share it with my audience. As a result, you now have 1,000s of people buying

your book and reading your ideas. You see this and think, “Who is this guy? Let me

look at his book.” You start reading my book and think I have ideas that are valuable.

So you decide to share it with your audience. As a result, I have 1,000s of people buying

my book and reading my ideas now.

Notice how different this is from my creating a little, creepy Amazon account, finding your

book and leaving a bad review, hoping that this will deter a few people from buying your

book which will in turn somehow get them to buy my book.

Habit number 4 is: think win-win. Stop thinking of everything as a zero-sum game. For you

to win, another person does not have to lose.

Something I want my viewers to do is to subscribe to my channel, but you will never hear me

say “Well, I worked really hard. I dedicated so many hours to this. Please subscribe.”

Who cares if I worked hard? Who cares if I’ve spent days creating this video? The real questions

are does it offer value to you? Why should you dedicate your precious time to subscribing

when you could be doing anything else you want?

Habit number 5 is something that I use literally every single day, with every interaction that

I have, and with every comment that I reply to, and it is this: seek first to understand,

then to be understood.

Imagine there are two people and a tree with five apples on it. They are both too short

to reach the apples, but if one of them sits on the other’s shoulders, he can reach all

five of the apples. This is called synergy. The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.

Now I’ll be the first one to admit that you can’t achieve this with everyone, but

you should always be striving for synergy. With every synergistic opportunity you create,

you can gather many more apples than you otherwise would by yourself.

Habit number 6 is: Synergize.

A man has been trying to cut down a tree for hours. After a while his neighbor can’t

take it anymore, goes over and says, “You know, if you sharpen the saw, you’ll be

able to cut it down faster.” And the man replies, “But, sharpening the saw is going

to take time.”

We laugh at this story yet we do the same thing all the time. We can’t find 45 minutes

a day, 4 times a week to go to the gym. Our health deteriorates to a point where we’re

physically incapable of being effective. We can’t read a book for 15 minutes a day and

mentally stimulate ourselves. We don’t build up our home environments, and we end

up with toxic families. We don’t cultivate friendships. These things take too much time!

And then we have the audacity to ask for little tips and tricks on how to be effective. It’s

like telling your engineer, “Don’t worry about the foundation, where can we get the

magic bricks that float in the air?”

Habit number 7 is: sharpen the saw.

And these are the 7 habits of highly effective people by Stephen Covey.