You saw her for the first time in the elevator of your apartment building.

You guys actually had a really nice conversation.

She's perfect. She's beautiful. She's your whole universe.

Food, water, shelter, and her.

After a few conversations, you've already fallen in love with her.

You start to feel like she's the one.

You've already imagined the fairy tale romance you'll both share for the rest of your lives.

When you go to sleep at night, you close your eyes and cuddle with your pillow, pretending like it's her.

Now you're dreaming, and she's in it. God she's beautiful.

She grabs your hand and looks at you in the eye and says "I love you".

Your heart melts. You go in for a kiss. Then you wake up.

Reality hits you. You catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror and are disgusted because deep down you know that your obsession with her is unhealthy.

You keep telling yourself that your puppy love is endearing.

Listen to me, it's not. It's toxic.

Why? Because you're not going to get this girl.

Maybe she has a boyfriend, maybe she has no idea you like her, maybe she put you in the friend zone.

None of these situations will end well for you.

Let's say she already has a boyfriend. You are the I'll-be-here-when-you-breakup guy.

You patiently wait for her to break up so that you can be there for the rebound.

You'll end up waiting for years until one day you log onto Facebook and see this.

So let's say you're not that guy, but if the girl you're in love with doesn't even know that you like her, then you're the I-can't-tell-her-how-I-feel guy.

You're so scared to ruin the friendship that you won't tell her you're attracted to her.

She has no clue you like her.

When you invite her over to Netflix and chill, you both literally watch Netflix and chill.

You know you should tell her how you feel, but instead you jerk off to the thought of being together every night.

Maybe you're not this guy either.

That means you are the friend-zoned guy.

You've tried asking her out, and maybe she's even agreed to go on a few dates with you.

But in the end, you got the "I don't wanna ruin our friendship" talk.

Now you're basically like her gay BFF, providing her emotional support when she complains about the guy she's dating.

You're hoping she'll come around and realize what a great guy you are, but she doesn't.

So what do you do in these situations? Well, you're going to stop.

Stop living under the delusion that she's the one. She's not the only girl for you.

She's not the only girl who will ever understand you.

Stop spending so much of your time on a girl that doesn't like you back.

With the time that you're wasting pining over this girl, you could be finding a girl that does like you back.

Stop feeding your obsessive behavior. Stop stalking her Instagram, her Facebook, her Snapchat.

In fact, don't ever look at them again.

So here's what you're going to do right after watching this video.

Step one: You're going to ask her out. If you've already asked her out and she wasn't interested, then skip to the next step.

Step two: If she isn't enthusiastic about the prospect of having romantic relations with you, then move the fuck on.

And do the following.

One: Talk to more girls.

Talk to the girls standing next to you in line. Talk to the girl at the metro stop. Talk to your cute co-worker.

Talk to as many girls as you can, because the more girls you talk to, the more likely you are to meet someone you mutually connect with.

Number two: Start working on your damn self.

You've spent most of your waking hours thinking about this girl.

And now that you have free time, go outside. Go traveling. Go to the gym. Get some hobby. Learn a new language. Go out with your friends.

Women like guys who lead interesting lives.

Invest in yourself and it'll pay off tenfold.

You'll be so glad you did.

I'm gonna tell you what I wish somebody had told me ten years ago.

You know that girl? The girl that you've decided is the one for you?

The girl you've already imagined a fairy tale romance with.

The one you fantasize about at night.

The girl you're sure is the only one for you.

Listen to me. You're wrong about her. You are wrong.

You're life is not a romantic comedy. She's not going to come around someday.

She's not going to leave her boyfriend.

She's not the only one out there.

You know who's actually the one for you? One of these girls you won't bother getting to know because you're too obsessed over a girl that doesn't like you back.

So stop making excuses and go meet more girls.

That's how you find the one.

No fucking excuses. Just go.