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  • Today I have just one request.

  • Please don't tell me I'm normal.

  • Now I'd like to introduce you to my brothers.

  • Remi is 22,

  • tall and very handsome.

  • He's speechless, but he communicates joy

  • in a way that some of the best orators cannot.

  • Remi knows what love is.

  • He shares it unconditionally and he shares it regardless.

  • He's not greedy. He doesn't see skin color.

  • He doesn't care about religious differences, and get this:

  • He has never told a lie.

  • When he sings songs from our childhood,

  • attempting words that not even I could remember,

  • he reminds me of one thing:

  • how little we know about the mind, and how wonderful

  • the unknown must be.

  • Samuel is 16. He's tall. He's very handsome.

  • He has the most impeccable memory.

  • He has a selective one, though.

  • He doesn't remember if he stole my chocolate bar,

  • but he remembers the year of release for every song on my iPod,

  • conversations we had when he was four,

  • weeing on my arm on the first ever episode of Teletubbies,

  • and Lady Gaga's birthday.

  • Don't they sound incredible?

  • But most people don't agree.

  • And in fact, because their minds don't fit

  • into society's version of normal,

  • they're often bypassed and misunderstood.

  • But what lifted my heart and strengthened my soul

  • was that even though this was the case,

  • although they were not seen as ordinary,

  • this could only mean one thing:

  • that they were extraordinary --

  • autistic and extraordinary.

  • Now, for you who may be less familiar with the term "autism,"

  • it's a complex brain disorder that affects social communication,

  • learning and sometimes physical skills.

  • It manifests in each individual differently,

  • hence why Remi is so different from Sam.

  • And across the world, every 20 minutes, one new person

  • is diagnosed with autism, and although it's one of

  • the fastest-growing developmental disorders in the world,

  • there is no known cause or cure.

  • And I cannot remember the first moment I encountered autism,

  • but I cannot recall a day without it.

  • I was just three years old when my brother came along,

  • and I was so excited that

  • I had a new being in my life.

  • And after a few months went by,

  • I realized that he was different.

  • He screamed a lot.

  • He didn't want to play like the other babies did,

  • and in fact, he didn't seem

  • very interested in me whatsoever.

  • Remi lived and reigned in his own world, with his own rules,

  • and he found pleasure in the smallest things,

  • like lining up cars around the room

  • and staring at the washing machine

  • and eating anything that came in between.

  • And as he grew older, he grew more different,

  • and the differences became more obvious.

  • Yet beyond the tantrums and the frustration

  • and the never-ending hyperactivity

  • was something really unique:

  • a pure and innocent nature, a boy who saw the world

  • without prejudice, a human who had never lied.

  • Extraordinary.

  • Now, I cannot deny that there have been

  • some challenging moments in my family,

  • moments where I've wished that they were just like me.

  • But I cast my mind back to the things that they've taught me

  • about individuality and communication and love,

  • and I realize that these are things that

  • I wouldn't want to change with normality.

  • Normality overlooks the beauty that differences give us,

  • and the fact that we are different doesn't mean that one of us is wrong.

  • It just means that there's a different kind of right.

  • And if I could communicate just one thing to Remi

  • and to Sam

  • and to you,

  • it would be that you don't have to be normal.

  • You can be extraordinary.

  • Because autistic or not,

  • the differences that we have --

  • We've got a gift! Everyone's got a gift inside of us,

  • and in all honesty, the pursuit of normality

  • is the ultimate sacrifice of potential.

  • The chance for greatness, for progress and for change

  • dies the moment we try to be like someone else.

  • Please -- don't tell me I'm normal.

  • Thank you. (Applause)

  • (Applause)

Today I have just one request.

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