and life you love. Isn’t that beautiful? I think it’s amazing. Today is Q&A Tuesday

和生活。是不是很美啊？我覺得超棒的。今天禮拜二是你問我答的時間，

and today’s question comes from Alisha and Alisha writes:

今天的問題來自Alisa，她問道:

“Dear, dear Marie. My boss has the mentality of do whatever it takes to get ahead in business,

「親愛的瑪莉，我的老闆在事業上有著不擇手段做什麼都要領先的心態，

even if it means being dishonest or using severe manipulation. Every time I bring this

即使是指需要說謊或使用強烈的操縱手段。每一次，

up to friends or colleagues they all tell me that the most successful CEOs are ruthless

我跟朋友或同事提起這事時，他們都會告訴說大部分事業成功的執行長都是無情

and completely cutthroat. For example, Steve Jobs and Bill Gates. And that this behavior

且十分殘酷的人。例如，Steve Jobs （蘋果公司的創辦人）和Bill Gates（微軟公司的創始人），並認為這種做法

is basically necessary. I hate that and it breaks my heart. How does one create success

是基本必需的。我很討厭這種說法，並感到心碎。要怎麼當一個待人好，又能創造一個成功事業的人呢？

as a sweetheart? XOXO, Alisha.”

愛你，Alisha。」

Alisha, I love this question. Yes, of course we’ve all heard stories about Bill Gates

Alisha，我喜歡這個問題。沒錯，我們當然都聽過許多故事，關於Bill Gates、

and the late, great Steve Jobs and so many others who’ve been painted, sometimes as

已故的偉大的Steve Jobs，以及其他許多被認為

super rich genius jerks. But I’ve gotta tell you, thinking that that’s just the

超級富有、頭腦很好卻惡名昭彰的人。但我必須告訴你，認為反正事情就是這樣，

way it is or that it has to be is so dangerous. Because if some part of you believes that

或是事情一定得如此的想法，是很危險的。因為假如某部份的你相信

in order to be successful you have to check your integrity at the door, you’re gonna

為了成功，而必須拋棄個人操守的話，那你則會

severely limit yourself and what you’re capable of achieving.

大大地限制了自己和自己有能力做到的事

I know most people think that’s the way it works, but it’s not true. This idea that

我知道大部分的人認為那樣做才能有成功的事業，但事實並不盡然

you have to sacrifice your kindness and your values and your moral compass just to be uber

對於必須犠牲仁慈、價值觀和道德羅盤，

successful is plain wrong. Successful people come in all shapes and sizes and there is

只為了能變得超級成功，這個價值觀是錯誤的。有各種形形色色的成功人士，

a critical difference between being a strong, successful leader who achieves remarkable

最關鍵的區別在於當一位有杰出成就的強勢、成功的領導者，

things and being an immoral, dishonest d-bag who does anything to get ahead.

和當一位為了領先不擇手段的無道德感、不誠實的冷酷的人

First thing I want you to realize is that legendary asshats tend to get a lot of press.

我要你明白的第一件事是，那些傳說中冷酷的人，往往會得到很多媒體的注意

And that’s because those are the kind of stories that the media loves. And honestly,

因為媒體就喜愛那樣的故事報導。而且，說實話，

none of us know how true those stories really are. Plus those stories give most people an

我們沒有人知道那些故事的真實性如何。加上那些故事給大多數的人一條

easy out because it reinforces a false belief that in order to be successful, you have to

好走的路，因為它強化了一個錯誤的信念：想要成功的話，

be a jerk.

就必須當一個冷酷的人

Second, there are tons of hugely successful people that are strong leaders and they’re

第二，有超級多的成功人士都是強勢的領導者，

sweethearts. Now, one that I’ve had personal experience with is Sir Richard Branson. Now,

但他們待人都很好。我有過的親身經歷是Richard Branson爵士（Virgin品牌創始人）

I’ve worked with him, I’ve worked with his team, I’ve watched him interact with

我曾和他合作過，和他的團隊合作過，看過他和員工間的互動，

his staff, and I can tell you firsthand that he’s an incredibly kind and honorable human

我可以跟你說的第一手資訊，便是他真的是一位令人難以置信的仁慈又高尚的人

being.

Is he perfect? No, but neither are you and neither am I and neither is anyone. And there

他完美嗎？當然不，但你和我也不完美，沒有人是完美的

are millions of other strong and successful leaders who are not as famous and they’re

有上百萬名其他強勢成功的領導者，雖然沒有很出名，

doing great things in this world. So how do you do it? I’ve gotta tell you, it is all

但他們為這世界也做了很多偉大的事。因此，你該怎麼做呢？我必須告訴你，這一切的關鍵

about your approach. For example, every leader has to be able to do these 4 things:

在於你的做法。例如，每位領導者都必須做到下列四件事：

Number one, give direct and honest feedback. Number two, inspire outstanding performance

第一件：給與直接且誠實的回饋。第二件：鼓舞團隊有出色的表現

in  your team. Number three, make tough calls, which often means disappointing and upsetting

第三件：做出困難的決定，通常會令其他人失望或不安

others. Number four, let people go.

第四件：讓員工離開

Here’s the trick, you can either do each of these 4 things like an asshat or like a

這裡有個小撇步，你可以冷酷地或者像個甜心一樣去做這四件事

sweetheart. So, for example, you can give direct and honest feedback with compassion

舉例來說，你可以用同情或殘酷的方式，給予直接且誠實的回饋

or with cruelty. You can get outstanding results from your team through inspiration or intimidation.

你可以藉由鼓舞或恐嚇的方式來得到團隊表現出色的效果

Now, you get the idea. Anything you do as a leader can be done with an open, honest

現在，你懂我的意思了吧！身為領導者，你可以帶著一顆開放、誠實的心去做每一件事，

heart or you can just be a jerk. The best part, you get to choose what kind of leader

或者你可以就選擇當個冷酷的人。最棒的部份是，你可以選擇要當哪一種領導者

you want to be.

Finally, I’d go so far as to say that being an asshat in business is not only unnecessary

最後，我再次強調，在生意上做為一個冷酷的人不僅是不必要地，

but it’s actually dangerous. In today’s digital world where private emails and texts

而且實際上是很危險的。在今日的數位世界裡，每天都有人分享

and videos of conversations get shared with the public on a daily basis, you’d be a

私人電子郵件、簡訊和對話的影片

total dumbass to behave unethically and think it’s not gonna eventually get out. So let’s

假如你有任何不道德的行為，還認為永遠不會被抓包的話，你就是個十足的大笨蛋

land this plane on a Tweetable.

讓我們就以一則推特訊息做個總結吧！

“Holding onto your heart never has to hold you back from success.”

「忠於自己的心，決不會阻攔你成功。」

Now I would love to hear your take. As we’ve discussed, believing that you have to check

現在，我想聽聽你的意見。如同我們所討論的，相信你必須拋棄

your integrity at the door in order to be uber successful is just plain wrong. So I’d

個人操守來達到成功的目的，根本是完全錯誤的想法。因此，

love to know, what other unchallenged assumptions or beliefs do you have about success that

我想知道，你有什麼可能會阻撓你成功的其他受到質疑的假設或信仰嗎？

might be holding you back? You can’t change what you’re not aware of, so think about

你不能改變你不知道的事，因此，想一下，

it, leave a comment below, and let me know.

在下方留言，讓我知道

Now, as always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com,

如往常一樣，每一集結束後，MarieForleo.com網站裡都會出現熱烈的討論，

so come on over there and leave a comment now.

所以現在就請你到網站上留下你的想法吧！

Did you like this video? If so, subscribe to our lovely channel and share this puppy

你喜歡這一集影片嗎? 如果喜歡，請你訂閱我們的頻道，並將這部影片分享給

with all your friends. And if you want even more great resources to create a business

你的朋友們。如果你想要更多資源去創造

and life that you love, plus some personal insights from me that I only get to talk about

你所熱愛的事業和生活，以及我只在郵件中分享的個人洞見的話，

in email, come on over to MarieForleo.com and sign up for email updates.

那就來MarieForleo.com網站註冊，以取得郵件的訂閱更新

Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world needs that special

專注你的事業，並持續追求你的夢想，因為這世界正需要你那

gift that only you have. Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next

獨一無二的天賦。非常感謝你的收看，我們下次再於Marie TV上相見囉!

time

on MarieTV.