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  • - You're better at toast.

  • - No, let them hear you,

  • please, say-- - No, you're so good.

  • - No, say something nice. - Come on.

  • - He's shy.

  • Okay, to my husband I've been married to for two months

  • in one week.

  • It's been the best two months in one week ever.

  • - Cheers. - Cheers.

  • Welcome to Love Like!

  • A show about what love looks like today.

  • - And today we're your hosts!

  • Patrick and Paolo!

  • - Welcome to our home! - Yay, this is where we live.

  • Here's out living room-- - Family room.

  • Here's out kitchen-- - That's our dining room.

  • - Sorry, dining room, so what's, oh yeah.

  • - That's our kitchen.

  • You know you're a real Oprah fan if you have

  • a vision board, especially if you have two vision boards,

  • then you're like a hardcore Oprah fan.

  • One of these was supposed to be mine and one of these

  • was supposed to be his, but his visions are much grander

  • so he's taking-- - Wait, he has no vision!

  • You have, what is your vision, you have no vision!

  • - Take turns describing how you first met,

  • only one sentence at a time.

  • - Patrick massaged me.

  • - I was a massage therapist.

  • - And I went to go get a 25 minutes massage on my back.

  • - So I went into the quiet room and I said, "Paolo?"

  • and then he came out.

  • - I wasn't sure is Patrick was straight or gay when I

  • first met him, so I had to go back for a second massage.

  • - And then he came back for a third massage,

  • and after that third massage--

  • - I knew he was gay.

  • That sounds really bad!

  • No just, no because, I just knew.

  • - The rest is history.

  • - We're soul mates.

  • (laughing)

  • (upbeat music)

  • I kind of knew for a couple months that I wanted to get

  • Patrick rings.

  • I finally had surprised him when we took a trip to

  • San Francisco and that's where it all started.

  • (upbeat music)

  • - We were, like, playing around making videos and he

  • takes hi book bag off and puts it down and he's like dancing

  • on the train 'cause we're the only ones in there.

  • - Oh my God, this is so cool, we're in San Francisco,

  • I'm so happy!

  • What can go wrong?

  • - We get on the bar, we're like half way to the city

  • and then all of a sudden Paolo's like--

  • - No! My book bag!

  • He's like, "It's okay, it's okay!"

  • I'm like, "No it's not okay, like oh my God!"

  • - We finally find out that it's at the police station

  • in the air port.

  • - The thought they had to close the airport because

  • they thought I had some kind of bomb.

  • And I even told security 'cause he said,

  • "What's in your book bag?"

  • And I said the only thing I have in my book bag is

  • Oprah Magazine and then a watch.

  • - I was like, "We'll get you a new Oprah Magazine,

  • "it's okay."

  • - I didn't want to tell anyone about the rings because

  • I didn't want, like, this is like the one thing I worked

  • so hard to surprise him!

  • - He was straight up lying to them so I wouldn't know.

  • - I had one of our close friends, I text her,

  • I said, "Hey can you call Patrick?

  • "I need him distracted 'til I talk with security."

  • - So then I get on the phone with her and she's like,

  • "Oh my God, did you hear the new Britney album?

  • "I love track one, did you listen to track three?"

  • And I'm like panicking 'cause I'm like they're arresting

  • Paolo and then I hang up on her and then the door closes

  • and I'm like stuck outside by myself.

  • - The apologized to me and said that they found the book

  • bag and that it was okay.

  • But it was one of the scariest days of my life

  • because I did not want to lose the rings.

  • Like, how could I do that?

  • On March 13 of 2011, whem we went to the restaurant.

  • - When we walked in they were like,

  • "Oh, we have your table ready."

  • We have a beautiful view, we have our dinner,

  • we have wine, it's so beautiful and lovely.

  • - But I'm not really listening to him,

  • I just kept nodding my head because I kept thinking

  • about the rings and if this is all gonna work out.

  • - And then they come out with dessert.

  • - The waitress comes a box of rings on each dish,

  • one for me and one for Patrick.

  • I knew that this, this is the moment that I've been

  • waiting for.

  • We unwrap the box and then I just said that I want him,

  • when we can in the state of California,

  • I want him to be my husband.

  • - I feel like I kind of, maybe, didn't give the reaction

  • he wanted.

  • - I thought he'd be like, "Oh my God,

  • "this is so beautiful!"

  • - I just kept saying, "What are you doing?

  • "What are you doing? What are you doing?"

  • - He was just like, "Oh my God, what's happening right now?"

  • - My parents got divorced when I was in college so I was

  • kind of like, "Marriage is stupid, whatever."

  • - After I declared my love for him and why he means

  • the world to me, our conversation, kind of, it shifted.

  • - I just, kind of, told him exactly what I was feeling,

  • the anxiety about the idea of marriage.

  • - Once we started talking about it, that kind of like,

  • he just came back to us and the relationship

  • and what it means.

  • - It's not about being perfect, it's just about, you know,

  • being hopeful and giving it a shot and, you know,

  • seeing what happens.

  • - Our good friend Jameson's mom gave us these pillows

  • 'cause-- - For our wedding.

  • - For our wedding, do you get it?

  • Mister-- - And mister.

  • If I sit on the end of this bed to put my shoe on,

  • he yells at me.

  • - That's not, okay, it's just because it's so much

  • work fixing this damn bed!

  • I am so organized in our home,

  • we are so very neat.

  • I Swiffer the floor every day, I Windex, I Pledge,

  • I clean.

  • - Knowing him now, when he first came to my apartment

  • that I lived in when we met, I'm like,

  • "How did you not break up with me?"

  • Because I had, like, stacks of mail all over the place.

  • - Oh my God, his room was so dirty!

  • Piles of dirty clothes, his bathroom had junk.

  • Can he hear me say this?

  • - The fact that he stayed with me through that,

  • that's pretty good.

  • - If you can change one thing about me,

  • you would change?

  • - I would just make you a little more confident

  • 'cause you should be confident,

  • you have nothing to be insecure about.

  • Your favorite thing about me is blank?

  • - That's easy!

  • Your smile.

  • Your favorite thing about me is?

  • - How much you make me laugh. - Aww.

  • I don't really want to know this.

  • My worst habit is?

  • (Patrick laughs)

  • - Um, like, the way you eat.

  • It's really messy.

  • (humming)

  • You're gonna break my teeth with that.

  • - That's how he eats.

  • I spend a lot of time in the kitchen.

  • - I do not spend any time in the kitchen.

  • - And he's telling you the truth.

  • - The kitchen scares me, I go in there and I get water

  • and I get out immediately.

  • We've been together for eight years and I've never

  • helped him bake once, ever.

  • Is that true? - It's scary.

  • So I'm basically in a cage and I can't see anything,

  • and where are you, Patrick?

  • - I'm in the kitchen!

  • - I'm going to be telling Patrick how to make these cookies.

  • So this is my recipe, and it's pretty easy to make, for me,

  • and for Patrick it's gonna be pretty difficult, I think.

  • - Oh my God.

  • - First thing you have to do is pre-heat the oven to 350.

  • - Does that mean where it says bake?

  • - Yes, just press 350, enter. - Okay.

  • Oh good, yeah.

  • - So now what we're gonna do is we're gonna do

  • our dry ingredients first.

  • - My God, okay.

  • - So measure 3/4 of a cup of flour.

  • Now when you open it, be careful, 'cause it's gonna

  • make a lot of mess 'cause it's a new bag,

  • so open it very carefully.

  • - Okay.

  • - What are you doing? - Nothing.

  • - Open the baking soda. - Okay.

  • - There's like four spoons, get the one that says 1/2,

  • one slash two.

  • - Half a teaspoon.

  • - You're gonna do 1/4 of a teaspoon of salt.

  • - That's so weird. - Mix the dry ingredients

  • together. - Like with my hands?

  • - No, with your hands? That's disgusting!

  • Just with a spoon or something, whisk.

  • - Whisk? - Yeah.

  • - Is that what you said?

  • - You know what-- - I know what a whisk is.

  • - So mix it, now put that on the side.

  • Do you see the butter? - Yeah.

  • - So half a cup of butter, that whole stick.

  • - I feel like Paula Dean.

  • - Now you see the peanut butter?

  • - Yeah. - Okay so we need a half

  • a cup of that, that you're gonna mix with the butter.

  • - So disgusting.

  • - I don't know how you're doing,

  • but it doesn't sound right.

  • You see the brown sugar and the white sugar?

  • - Yeah. - Yeah, use a half a cup.

  • - Of what? - The sugar.

  • - The white sugar? - Yes, the white sugar.

  • - Okay so then where does that go?

  • - It goes into the bowl with the butter

  • and the peanut butter.

  • Okay, now you're gonna do the light brown sugar,

  • you're gonna put a half a cup of that.

  • - Just trying to clean as I go.

  • - See the little, the bottle, that beautiful looks like

  • a woman's body, the vanilla?

  • - Yes. - You can add one teaspoon

  • of that, and now you're gonna mix the ingredients.

  • - Don't you need liquid in there or something?

  • - Don't ask questions, just keep going.

  • Get whatever you have in front of you that's clean

  • and put a cup of the oats.

  • - Where do I put them? - On the floor,

  • where do you think you're gonna put them?

  • Did you really put them on the floor?

  • - I'm just following your directions.

  • - Were you gonna roll the dough on the floor?

  • Why would you put it on the floor?

  • - You told me to put it on the floor.

  • Okay one cup, in the bowl you said?

  • - Yes, in the bowl.

  • With the orange spatula, mix it.

  • I'm not cleaning this kitchen after,

  • that's all I know.

  • - This is exhausting.

  • - Fill up that teaspoon.

  • You're gonna do, like, three lines of four.

  • - So now what?

  • - While that's baking for 10 minutes and the timer's on,

  • you're gonna make the filling.

  • So let's try to-- - We have filling?

  • So three tablespoons of butter?

  • - Then you're gonna do one cup of powdered sugar,

  • you're gonna get a half a cup of that peanut butter.

  • - Oh God. - Okay, so the last thing

  • ingredient, hallelujah, is the heavy cream.

  • - I kind of think it's good.

  • Oh, that is hot. - Yeah, be careful!

  • - Am I making, like, an Oreo or something?

  • - [Voiceover] Yeah, it's like an Oreo.

  • - Like smash it? - [Voiceover] Yep.

  • - Oh my God, that looks really good.

  • - Can I go see now?

  • - It's cookie time!

  • Three. - Uh huh.

  • - Two, one! (screams)

  • - They look...beautiful.

  • I am gonna be supportive, give me a sec.

  • This frosting is good.

  • - They're kind of hard.

  • I think he was a little mean, he was a little unclear,

  • he would tell me to throw things on the floor

  • when he didn't want me to really throw it on the floor.

  • But in spite of all that, I think I really followed

  • directions well and I think that this was a success.

  • I would like to do it one more time and I would,

  • maybe, not leave them in the oven as long.

  • - Um, there's not gonna be another time.

  • Thank you all for coming here, I'm gonna ask you to leave

  • 'cause we're never gonna do this again.

  • - It's not that dirty, though, look.

  • Here's Jesus. - He's watching us!

  • - He's, like, looking at this gay wedding like--

  • - Stop everything!

  • - I never noticed that before, it's freaking me out a lot.

  • - Okay, whatever.

  • Okay, and those are my parents and that is his family

  • and those are wedding gifts from our good friend,

  • I don't like to name, Dropa Robin Roberts.

  • - My mom is blank?

  • (laughing)

  • Your mom is Mrs. Home Depot!

  • - For real, you could go into Home Depot with her

  • and be like, "Where's whatever," and she knows exactly

  • what aisle it's in.

  • - 60 aisles at Home Depot and she will tell you

  • what aisle is the hammer, what aisle is the screws,

  • what aisle is the washer.

  • Ms. Dorie knows everything!

  • - The last time he caught me lying was blank?

  • - My birthday?

  • 'Cause he always says he gets me something,

  • but then that's not what it is.

  • I snoop in the house, I snoop in the closets and everywhere

  • and it's not what he says it is, and so I give up.

  • - This is our closet.

  • And this is how fair we are in this relationship.

  • - Yes. - These are Paolo's shoes,

  • and he gets all of these, and then these are my shoes

  • right here.

  • These are actually Paolo's favorite shoes.

  • - Because I don't the dust going on them.

  • - They have to be protected.

  • - I've only worn them, I've worn them twice!

  • So I want them to be in, what's that thing called?

  • The myth-slonia?

  • - Smithsonian? - Yeah.

  • - He likes going, not likes, he loves going to museums.

  • My attention span, like lose, I just,

  • I get so bored easily.

  • So I, yeah, you won't find me at the museum

  • and he loves them and I don't and we fight about that,

  • sorry.

  • So I'm doing this for Patrick, he helped my by baking

  • and now I'm going to help him by giving him a tour

  • of the Craft and Folk Art Museum, yay!

  • - Hi. - Welcome to the Craft and

  • Folk Art Museum.

  • We have three exhibitions right now so let me go ahead

  • and give you a preview before Patrick--

  • - Great. - The title of the work is

  • Paper Works. - Oh, I got it.

  • Paper Works, that's why 'cause everything is--

  • - [Both] Made out of paper.

  • - Okay, that is something I will remember.

  • You can bring Patrick up here.

  • - One thing about this is that the base material

  • is still paper.

  • It's sort of like a two dimensional plane,

  • but it's also a sculpture because you can walk through it.

  • You can walk around it, you can experience--

  • - You can see all the way around it.

  • I love that. - Exactly.

  • - Okay, so Patrick's in the car, I'm about to go get him

  • to surprise him where we are.

  • He's gonna love this!

  • He's really gonna love this.

  • (upbeat music)

  • Patrick! - Hello.

  • - Welcome to Chicago! - That was so quick.

  • I loved it.

  • - So sorry.

  • This is gonna be such a dream for both of us!

  • Close your eyes, don't open them yet, okay?

  • I'll tell you when.

  • Okay, open your eyes!

  • Welcome to the Craft and Folk Art Museum,

  • you're gonna have the time of your life and I'm

  • gonna give you a tour!

  • - Oh my God, I was like blinded, wait.

  • Are you sure you wanna come in with me?

  • - I want to go there so bad.

  • I'm changing, today is a new day.

  • Listen, if you have any questions, just you know,

  • don't ask me yet, on this.

  • Now tell me what you're feeling, are you excited?

  • - Yeah, which one are we going to?

  • - Okay, so don't ask questions right now.

  • I don't know about that one yet, let's go to this one

  • 'cause I know about this one.

  • This is beautiful, let me tell you why.

  • The artist, his name is Lorenzo.

  • I don't remember his last name, but if you look closely,

  • look at the cuts and look at how it's been painted over it.

  • Now, what the cool thing about this is that it's like a

  • 360 that if you go from the inside, this is the only time

  • you can really look at an artwork,

  • you can go all the way around.

  • - You're so good!

  • - Don't touch, when you go to a museum you never touch

  • anything! - I know that!

  • Do you know that? - Yes, I know that.

  • I was yelled at earlier.

  • I think just the details in here are just remarkable.

  • Now we're gonna go by Phranc with a P.

  • You don't have to read it 'cause I'm telling you

  • what it's about.

  • That's different from what I'm gonna tell you.

  • - It's a PH. - Oh, yeah PH.

  • Yeah, that's what I said, with a P.

  • The fascinating thing about Phranc is that she just,

  • is just great at what she does.

  • We have shoes, life vests, and shorts.

  • What's the thing they all have in common?

  • - Are they paper? - Yes.

  • Phrank uses paper.

  • You could actually use it. - No way.

  • - Yeah, that's the special thing about it.

  • No, you can't. - You're making it up.

  • - I'm so sorry!

  • This is not my cup of tea, but I'm learning something.

  • - Usually I have to read all the little things on the walls

  • to like know what's going on and he's, like,

  • pulling me away 'cause he's so bored and he wants

  • to leave, but I can't believe, actually,

  • how much information he knows about these people.

  • I don't know if it's all true.

  • - Now you gonna leave me alone for a couple years?

  • - No, I'm saying, are we gonna go to another one next week?

  • - We'll talk about that later.

  • - I didn't know where we're going,

  • but I kind of didn't think it was somewhere for me,

  • I was thinking it was more for him, like,

  • an ice cream shop.

  • It touches my heart that it was actually something for me

  • that I would want to do.

  • Usually we'll just do the things we can agree on,

  • but maybe sometimes it's cool to, like,

  • go to something that you really want to do.

  • Or for you to, like, go see something, like a documentary,

  • or something that I really want to go see.

  • It just broadens the relationship.

  • Yay!

  • - We did it!

  • We did it.

  • There is just no one like him anywhere.

  • Some people say that about their significant other

  • and like, "Do you really mean that?"

  • But I mean everything I say about him.

  • - I just think he's like a magic person.

  • Like, if he dreams of anything, he can make it happen

  • and he's done it so many times.

  • It's, like, really amazing to watch.

  • - Our love it special, it really is.

  • Like, he's my best friend, but don't tell him.

  • That's the end of our show, thanks for watching!

  • - Do something cute to end the show.

  • - Let's do our-- - Oh yeah, we did this--

  • - This is so good!

  • Oh my God, we did it!

  • Muah.

  • It was great, that's all I'm gonna say.

  • - I can't wait to watch this.

- You're better at toast.

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