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BDSM is bondage, discipline, and sadomasochism.

- It's the mental and physical aspect

of being told to do something.

It encompasses so many things,

and most of them are pleasurable.

- BDSM should be safe, sane, consensual sex.

If it's anything other than that,

then we should be worried (laughs).

- You find two complementary people.

One who likes to do things, one who wants to receive things,

one who wants the incredible sensations of feeling,

the other one who wants

to cause those sensations upon someone.

♫ Ladies and gentlemen repeat after me ♫

- BDSM never has to be painful,

if someone's not into that.

And it should never be violent.

- There's a big difference between BDSM and abuse.

BDSM should be a situation where you can't wait

to see your partner, to have a scene.

It should be something that allows you

to be creative and play,

and it's supposed to be sexually exciting and fun.

- BDSM is rarely about sex.

It contains sex--

- But it's not the payoff.

Sometimes I feel like he's having sex with me

with his eyes, and he hasn't touched me.

It's actually better than normal sex.

- Yeah.

- Least with you, honey (laughs).

♫ Wait for it ♫

- [Master Eragon] There are some really hot clothes,

things that stimulate the skin, rubber, latex.

The sweat between the rubber

and the conditioners on the latex feel great.

- A lot of BDSM can be in plainclothes.

A lot of people like schoolgirl outfits.

Some people have a hospital fetish.

- I like a suit, honestly that's what I do.

♫ Wait for it ♫

- Plain vanilla sex, actually it's commonplace.

It's not everyday that we go and I tie her up

onto the floor and just go crazy with her.

No, I very much enjoy making love.

- Yeah, vanilla sex is great.

It's just sometimes we like a little bit of

chocolate sprinkles on our vanilla ice cream.

I think most people know it somewhere inside.

If you like do something that's unusual,

if something away from the norm turns you on,

if you like being held down when you're having sex,

you're kinky.

- I think you know if you're kinky

when the average normal vanilla sex

doesn't do it for you anymore,

and you start finding other ways

or noticing other things about yourself

that you didn't before.

Perhaps you like a certain smell,

or maybe you like to wear a certain outfit.

All of those things might indicate

that you're stepping outside the box.

(woman laughs and gives amused protest)

(woman screams repeatedly and laughs)

- It's not even on.

- [Woman] (screams and laughs) What?