- That's disgusting - You're vegan, you wouldn't get it

Hi guys welcome back to my channel

and if you're new here, I'm Rosie and that's my wife, Rose

Today we're going to be talking about our relationship

we're actually married, but we're just going to be talking about our relationship in general

Has YouTube affected our relationship?

and I think it's quite interesting one, as people know that uhh

- some of the Lesbian Youtubers have broken up - WHAT?!

There was also that couple who i think called Boy VS Girl who are quite

famously broke up said "ohh it's the pressure vlogging"

- I checked out their channel and they're back together - Yay!

- Vlogging everyday, tell me about it - Right, i don't do it

personally I think that number one - it's quite intrusive in a sense

yeah you're letting people like see your life. You're sharing everything, your journey so to speak

with your audience which is lovely but

also it doesn't give you a lot of time off of camera to...

Have sex!

-well that's one of the things but also to just do you -yeah

- not everything needs to be, not everything needs to be interrupted first of all, but shared

I think there needs to be a clear distinction, Rosie, between what you decide to put on the internet and

also what you do in your personal time.

Now, the good thing about our channel is everything that you put out there is genuinely

conversations that we normally have off the camera - Yup yup

But i still..even though that being said, I still don't want to have every conversation that is natural

on camera. Because I feel like something... - Yeah there're some conversations

..need to be discussed off the camera - Yeah, agree

Like your breath

When we were at Vidcon on the LGBT panel

We were talking about boundaries, what you do and don't share

by the way if you can hear a noise in the background, it's the dog eating

And we said

we don't really have boundaries of what we share and we don't.

We never said "oh i will discuss this and i won't discuss this"

I don't have boundaries, but that doesn't mean to say that i want to have every conversation with you on camera

I can have a best friend right, but

if you see them every single day, you're gonna fall out,

you're going get annoyed of each other. You can't spend too much time together

even though we somehow manage to do it, but whatever.

But yeah..but occasionally we gonna argue

but you're going to get a little bit pissy with someone if you see them every day

and in that sense I think that the daily vlogging

it's like having an audience with you all the time, so i think you need a break

yeah one thing I will say is, from doing youtube we have built up obviously an audience

and then they the audience, you guys, come across and you're on our twitter, tumblr, instagram

Really annoying

and one thing that has changed is that i used to not care about what i tweeted

I don't really care too much now but it's very different tweeting something and a few of your friends replying

and then tweeting something to an audience and it's quite overwhelming

having so many different reponses. And like I don't know I guess

Yeah you can't be as homophobic as you like

and then it's quite overwhelming to read all these difference opinions

and then it makes you think "what's my opinion now?" because

so many viewers say all different things. Do you think it's like weaken your personality?

because so many people are saying different things about you and to you on the internet

My personality can't be touched.

But in terms of that affecting our relationship

I think that sometimes if i argue with someone on twitter, which is rare that it happens

uhm then maybe i'll be like really angry, maybe we won't have a very good day

because i'll be worked up

Another thing I think is difficult being on the internet is

because we're two women in a relationship

I think we got.. get compared to.. against each other like pitted against each other

when it's not really a comparison - right, where is..

-there's no contest

I feel like if we were a man and a woman, that wouldn't happen

and for some reason I've never been able to fathom why

"Fafom"? - Yeah "fafom"

fafom

[Rosie says fathom as fafom]

You said faff...Rosie - fafom

you said "fafom", what the fuck is fafom?

Fathom

Babe why can't you say "th"?

I can't...i say thumb [Rosie pronounce the "th" as "f"]

What did you just say? - "f"umb

Babe i did not married that

That's not what i married

Yeah you did

Women are more than looks. We've come a long way since

like the forties when we were just like pretty housewives who baked

so it's like why in this day and age when we're trying to be educated we're

trying to get equality you know we're trying to like you know really change

the world..so then it's like why you're like "that one's prettier"

it's like oh my god, we are more than looks

like you don't want men to judge your looks right

We are more than truth also

What?

- I could sit here and troll this conversation because i naturally like to do that..

- yeah, misogyny. - ..but Rosie has. got. a point

- yeah! - just because we're together and we're a same-sex couple and we're both absolutely stunning-

- it wouldn't happen if we were a man and a woman. - doesn't mean that we need to be compared to each other.

- yeah. - it causes stress and pressures on my relationship. not!

- but I think we're lucky that we're somehow not too sensitive about, because I guess it depends on

personalities but I think that could be a real pressure- - Well, i think that if you're going to put yourself

on the internet, whether it's alone or as a couple, you've got to have a

slightly thicker skin than anybody else. - Yeah

Out of the years I have developed quite thick skin, not like a clinical way where I need to get treated

or anything, but in a way that, you know, it's like one flip. You say something bad to me, yeah you might

get to me a little bit, but tomorrow I'm going to forget it, do you know what I mean? But it's harder when

your main "competition" is your wife

- yeah - but only you create that, not us.

Yeah. We're not in a competition with one another.

We already won.

here's something that annoys you about being online- that pressure that may affect

us online. - bandwidth.

- I definitely think that if we were doing it every day, there is less time in the day

you're right

just maybe it's not the audience, maybe it's not the vlogging of day, but maybe

it's the equivalent of having a long-houred high-pressured job.

- There could be a problem if YouTube ever became unfun to do

because first of all you guys would be able to tell from our videos that we weren't enjoying it

- Yeah. - I think that would, in itself, would put pressure on our

relationship because if we didn't like what we did,

- Yeah - but we had to do it to make money , then- - but the question is, is there such a word as "unfun"?

- Of course there is. - Do you mean "not fun"?

- Unfun. - I don't think that's a word.

- It's- it's not hyphenated. Yeah. It's an English word. It's- it's American British.

- Does that mean the word "un" is a word?

If it's not hyphenated, that means "un" is a word? Yeah, you're breaking the rules. You're trying to trick me.

- ..So? - I'm good at English, it's the only thing I've got. Even though I can't say "fathom".

What's our biggest YouTube related argument been about?

- Don't think we've ever had one.

I'll tell you one way, in that YouTube makes us argue. - Go on.

- Now, this actually makes me feel great,

sometimes our gaming equipment doesn't work

when we're about to film, and Rose gets really angry really quickly about things like

technology because- - Oh, I go from 1 to 100 in a second

- I get it. In Rose's mind, Rose is like, technology should work

- Yeah, yeah , yes. - right, like press a button, on.

Don't know how to press a button, off. Like- why- it's just simple- technology

either it works or it does'nt and sometimes it'll like, for some reason our

game capture software like, I don't know, doesn't work

- Yeah - Rose gets really irate. She's like, "Fuck's sake! I've- you know

- You don't want to see me have - I got up early..

a technology-related issue.

I feel like, because we got married for the right reasons, we've been together for a long time

started- uh- YouTube before it was a thing, like, well obviously it was a thing

- We weren't trying to do- be YouTube famous.

- We weren't, right, we weren't trying to be YouTube famous or internet celebrities

obviously, you know, we- that has manifested in itself because that's our destiny, but-

- Obviously we're A-list now. - I just feel like- I just feel like because we

started YouTube for the right reasons, number one, we started dating for the right reasons, number two,

nothing is fake because I feel like if something is fake or maybe even just

exaggerated for YouTube - Or staged, yeah. - Or staged

That is just an early grave in terms of your relation and a career- - Well, it depends if

you can act, and i'm not saying we can't act- I would love to do something scripted, but

everything is genuine. - Anything that's, like, disingenuous and not authentic I feel

like has a very limited shelf life - Yeah, 'cos there's only so long that you can fake it

- But no, I mean we're not faking anything. If anything we're faking is the fact that we're sisters.

but yeah! [both say it at the same time] - that's weird

Just like we're married

- I don't know why - See this is why we're good on camera because you can

slap me and I'm gonna laugh about it

YouTube may have made our relationship stronger or our relationship might have just grown, naturally

blossomed and then as we were doing that we were also YouTubeing from day 1, so that's

grown. So maybe we're just- it has to have affected our relationship because it wasn't like

we were in a relationship and then suddenly we turn the cameras on our lives-

- Exactly! - and then had to cope with that. We've actually- and it's- it was good almost

because when our relationship was small and growing and developing, our audience was

small and growing and developing, and- you know- now we're married and we have a bigger audience, but

it's like, you know, we're obviously married because we can cope with our relationship,

the ups and downs. That's why we got married- you know- we're in it for the long haul.

- Yeah. Guys, we're just like you

you know, we're human beings, so - But we're not poor.

- We- exactly, exactly, we're not poor and we dress better. But I just want to say that- you

know- we have our bad days too. You know, how much of that can I blame on YouTube?

Probably none of it.

- Yeah - you know, because we go through normal human being

type feelings in our relationship. - Yeah, we've gotta have a bad- we can't go through life- like I'm a positive person,

but I can't be happy 24/7 like that, that's so unrealistic. - Exactly.

So we do have negative emotions, just like I'm sure you do,

so we're very real in that sense. - We just have less than you 'cause we have a great job.

- Well the money makes it easier so- - Yeah, best fiends

when we feel bad, we'll just go blow a few thousand - Yeah

- Spend that dollar. - When you feel bad- when you feel bad

- You can't make it rain - you're going to blow your nose

- That's all you're gonna blow - That's all you're gonna blow

- Do you know what really annoys me?

When you have a go at me for making a barrier between us in bed with the duvet- - Rose makes a barrier

- I don't mean to do it, but I'm comfy if I make the barrier

that I'd roll on. I have to have one leg in and one leg out.

I'm just- I'm that kind of girl. - You make a barrier

- It's not a barrier! It's just my comfort procedure, and you take it so personally, like

[high pitched] "Ohmygod you're making a barrier between us! We're like married, touch me touch me!"

Even though it's like, 30 degrees outside and

your hot sweaty naked body is on mine. I'm like: I'm dying!

- Yeah but the question is, how angry are you genuinely about this?

- Not that angry. Just trying to make an argument here. - Exactly!

- Ok something I need to talk about in this video is the fact that a lot of

comments had said "Oh Rose, you don't kiss Rosie as much anymore in videos"

Let me tell you why. So I went through this phase of really worrying

that anything overly sexual was going to drive views and traffic to the channel

but I didn't want views and like- - Because we kiss. - I didn't- I didn't want it for those

reasons so I actively stopped kissing Rosie for several months in videos

- Even though you would naturally kiss me, we were never kissing because it was forced

we'd actually like- used to, like, sometimes you'd, like, hump me and shit on camera