tell you personally, I've been married 12 years and have two kids. And the way to keep

your sex life alive and fresh is by putting new energy into it. When you explore and think

about all the ways that not only have you turned each other on but it's almost like

a library. It's kind of thinking about hmm, what would I like to try and it's a mind-set.

When you can still look at your partner with that sense of desire. One of the biggest turn-ons

is feeling desired by your partner. So it has so much to do with how you treat each

other and show up in your relationship. Because when you show up with sort of enthusiasm and

adventure and a sense of excitement and focusing on possibilities, I assure you, how that translates

in the bedroom is limitless. But unfortunately, many couples fall into what I call scripted

sex. And all of a sudden, it becomes very mechanical and ritualized and for many somewhat

boring. It just becomes sex that doesn't feel worth having. So, you have to take a step

back and think if you're having sex that doesn't feel worth having, what happened? What shifted

in your relationship? Is it something going on in terms of just your sex life? Or are

there other disappointments or frustrations that are unfortunately are spilling over into

your bedroom? The reality is there's no reason that sex life needs to be monotonous. Forget

even just toys and fantasies and role play and lots of ways that you can create new experiences.

But it really has to do with your mind-set. Because of the intimacy of this monogamous

relationship and all the intimate ways in which you know each other, you're not only

gonna have the safety to do the exploration, but you're also gonna have the wonderful intimacy

that helps you to want to stretch further and really push each other's boundaries. So

that in time, actually you're gonna experience more with this one person than you probably

ever have allowed yourself to with anyone else. So, seize this opportunity and make

your relationship and sex life the best life and the best sex that you can.