have some courtesy and be modest.

Ladies, I will talk a little more to you because guys are visual, and I mean even in our church,

there are tons of women that are dressed in ways that draw attention to themselves. I

have had guys say, "I can't really worship, because I'm being distracted by this." Dress

for spiritual success. I know you've paid a lot of money for them, but keep them for

your husband, keep them for him, don't show them to us, we don't need to see them. Dress

for spiritual success. I know I just offended some of you, but deal with me.

Second thing if you are taking notes, I always say; keep four feet on the flour if you're

dating. Keep four feet on the floor. It's amazing what happens, and how safe you can

be when you keep four feet on the floor when you are dating. Do not get on the bed to do

your Bible study together and wrap your legs around each other, just keep four feet on

the floor. If you are watching a movie, keep four feet on the floor, it's pretty extreme,

but it's pretty dog-gone safe. When you don't, what happens is, guys sitting there, girl

takes her nice smooth-shaved legs and throws them up against his hairy legs. Hairy legs

meets shaved legs, clothes start flying, it just happens. I mean it just happens. Next

thing you know, someone's singing, "Pants on the ground, pants on the ground, looking

like a fool with their pants on the ground!" I got 50 bucks for that! My staff told me

that if I'd do that, I'd get 50 bucks! Fifty bucks, baby! Pay up, looking like a fool with

your 50 dollars in my pocket!

Where were we? Yeah! Keep four feet on the floor, baby!

Next thing if you are taking notes, no sleep overs or playing house. Very normal, isn't

it? It gets late you know, you are dating somebody you know, you can use my toothbrush,

you can wear my t-shirt, don't go home; we are just going to cuddle! Here snakey, snakey!

Here snakey, snakey! That doesn't sound right! I don't know, I'm sorry! Let's just move on!

Golly! Pants on the ground, pants on the ground!

Next thing, and again, this is extreme. But, you are dating, you want some extreme results.

I would suggest no tonsil hockey! No making out! Because, and I am serious about this,

and this isn't thus saith the Lord. This is thus Craig suggestive. There are a whole lot

of things between hello, my name is Sally and you know, there are a lot of things. If

you draw the line well before the I just don't want to have sex, and draw the line way back,

it's amazing how much margin safety you will have.

Amy and I, we waited until we were married to share in the gift of lovemaking, and we

were never ever tempted until we kissed. When we kissed the temptation rose. You know, just

her face close to mine, body close to body. After the kiss, I spent the rest of the time

fighting that woman off! I mean, she just, it was ridiculous! Or something like that,

I am a little foggy! But, it was when we did that, that all of a sudden the temptations

became much more. That's a real extreme statement, but if you want some different results, you

might need to do something different.

Another thing that I would suggest, is to avoid dangerous places. Whatever those would

be, and you are the only one that could know what is dangerous for you. It could be, you

know, going to the bars with people after work, or going to the clubs. Or, for you it

could be going to the chat rooms. For you, honestly, it could be going to the gym. Visually

you can't handle it. You know, just go buy you some P90X and get some Abs of Steel at

home and work out at home. If that is dangerous to you, then you avoid that. You may say,

"Well, that's very extreme." Yes it is, because we want extreme results. Whatever is dangerous

for you, I would recommend that you avoid.

Another thing that I am a firm believer in is monitoring your internet activity. I just

want to talk about this for a minute. When I was a kid, to come across some kind of pornographic

image, it was pretty hard to do. In today's world, on your phone or on your computer,

you've got access to more than any normal person would ever want to see. It is all right

there, one click away. Here is what I do, I have every computer that I have access to

has covenant eyes. There are many different sources and that is what I've used for years.

Every click that I make is recorded and is scored. Any time that I go anywhere that is

even marginally questionable, it flags it and my report is sent to two of my close friends

who are also on the board of directors at our church, which is tremendous motivation

to keep me from ever going anywhere that I shouldn't go. You say, "Well, Craig, you are

a pastor and you are married, is that something you struggle with?" I will be real honest,

at my age now, it's not nearly the temptation it was 10 years ago. It just really isn't.

Almost every day of the year, it's not a struggle for me. But, if it ever came one, I have margin

to protect me. I also want to say that iPhones; if you don't have one and maybe your kid does,

the pornographic apps that are available, you would be wise to help those you love to

create some sort of margin, because there is an enemy with a hook and some bait wanting

to take you out, so that one day you wake up and say, "I never thought it would happen

to me." And it costs you tremendously.

Another suggestion I have is to avoid time alone with the wrong people. In the old days,

I would have said avoid time alone with the opposite sex; but, in today's world, sometimes

the wrong people for some people are the same sex. Whoever the wrong people would be for

you, stay away from intimate situations. In my world, and on our staff, I would never

ride in a car with a woman, besides my wife. It's just too intimate. I would never be in

a closed-door setting. In the business world, it's totally normal for a business to send

a man and a woman off to an overnight trip together. I say insane. You might as well

put the bullet in and do this...just why? Is it okay? Sure. Is there anything wrong

with it? No! Is it wise? No! There's nothing wise about that at all. Nothing wise at all.

Avoid even intimate conversations or inappropriate conversations with people that you are with.

Avoid time alone with the wrong people.

Then finally, I would say guard your eyes, your mind, and your heart, with everything

in you. Guard them, guard them. What does that mean? Be careful little eyes what you

read. If you are reading some romance novels, or reading magazines that maybe aren't really

bad, but they arouse something in you that is not holy and honor. You may say, "Well,

I'm not looking at pornography, but I have got my Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Magazine

in and I can't wait to get past the articles. That is something that might be considered

a hint of morality. You know, praise God, the Victoria Secret Magazine came, I'm going

to shop for some lingerie for my wife. You know, is that honoring God? Is that something

that would make your wife feel special and treasured? Watch what you watch; television,

movies, the kind of conversations you are in. Think about your mind, what you are fantasizing

about, the memories, take those thoughts captive, make them obedient to Christ. Do what Job

did, "I made a covenant with my eyes, not to look lustfully at a woman." Guard your

eyes, your mind, and your heart.

You may say, "Craig, this is so extreme." Yes! It is! Flee sexual immorality, don't

flirt, flee! I've never known a single person who said, "It all started when I created a

moral margin." But, I know a lot of people who have said, "I never thought it would happen

to me."

I have all of these barriers and margin in my life and more, not because I really need

them; but, because I don't want to live without them. I want my sons to know that they have

a father who is a man of God, who is not perfect, but who is seeking God and who is living pure,

by the power of the Holy Spirit. I want my daughters to know that they have a father

who does not objectify women, and who always treats their mother with honor and respect.

I want them to seek after a man like their father, not one that I would never want them

to have. I want my wife to never worry a day in her life about my integrity and my devotion

to her. I want her to feel secure and blessed and treasured and protected. I want my God,

the one who sent His Son, Jesus, who pulled me out of sin and filth and horror and transformed

me, I want Him to be honored with my body, with my heart, with my soul, and with my flee

sexual immorality. When the rest of the world says it's normal, it's no big deal. I mean

the line is way over there. You would say, you know, it's wise to step back and to honor

God with moral margin. Different, weird, yes! Because we want something more than what the

world settles for. We want to live and serve and honor and please God.

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