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  • When I was first learning to meditate,

  • the instruction was to simply pay attention to my breath,

  • and when my mind wandered, to bring it back.

  • Sounded simple enough.

  • Yet I'd sit on these silent retreats,

  • sweating through T-shirts in the middle of winter.

  • I'd take naps every chance I got because it was really hard work.

  • Actually, it was exhausting.

  • The instruction was simple enough

  • but I was missing something really important.

  • So why is it so hard to pay attention?

  • Well, studies show

  • that even when we're really trying to pay attention to something --

  • like maybe this talk --

  • at some point,

  • about half of us will drift off into a daydream,

  • or have this urge to check our Twitter feed.

  • So what's going on here?

  • It turns out that we're fighting one of the most evolutionarily-conserved

  • learning processes currently known in science,

  • one that's conserved

  • back to the most basic nervous systems known to man.

  • This reward-based learning process

  • is called positive and negative reinforcement,

  • and basically goes like this.

  • We see some food that looks good,

  • our brain says, "Calories! ... Survival!"

  • We eat the food, we taste it --

  • it tastes good.

  • And especially with sugar,

  • our bodies send a signal to our brain that says,

  • "Remember what you're eating and where you found it."

  • We lay down this context-dependent memory

  • and learn to repeat the process next time.

  • See food,

  • eat food, feel good,

  • repeat.

  • Trigger, behavior, reward.

  • Simple, right?

  • Well, after a while, our creative brains say,

  • "You know what?

  • You can use this for more than just remembering where food is.

  • You know, next time you feel bad,

  • why don't you try eating something good so you'll feel better?"

  • We thank our brains for the great idea,

  • try this and quickly learn

  • that if we eat chocolate or ice cream when we're mad or sad,

  • we feel better.

  • Same process,

  • just a different trigger.

  • Instead of this hunger signal coming from our stomach,

  • this emotional signal -- feeling sad --

  • triggers that urge to eat.

  • Maybe in our teenage years,

  • we were a nerd at school,

  • and we see those rebel kids outside smoking and we think,

  • "Hey, I want to be cool."

  • So we start smoking.

  • The Marlboro Man wasn't a dork, and that was no accident.

  • See cool,

  • smoke to be cool,

  • feel good. Repeat.

  • Trigger, behavior, reward.

  • And each time we do this,

  • we learn to repeat the process

  • and it becomes a habit.

  • So later,

  • feeling stressed out triggers that urge to smoke a cigarette

  • or to eat something sweet.

  • Now, with these same brain processes,

  • we've gone from learning to survive

  • to literally killing ourselves with these habits.

  • Obesity and smoking

  • are among the leading preventable causes of morbidity and mortality in the world.

  • So back to my breath.

  • What if instead of fighting our brains,

  • or trying to force ourselves to pay attention,

  • we instead tapped into this natural, reward-based learning process ...

  • but added a twist?

  • What if instead we just got really curious

  • about what was happening in our momentary experience?

  • I'll give you an example.

  • In my lab,

  • we studied whether mindfulness training could help people quit smoking.

  • Now, just like trying to force myself to pay attention to my breath,

  • they could try to force themselves to quit smoking.

  • And the majority of them had tried this before and failed --

  • on average, six times.

  • Now, with mindfulness training,

  • we dropped the bit about forcing and instead focused on being curious.

  • In fact, we even told them to smoke.

  • What? Yeah, we said, "Go ahead and smoke,

  • just be really curious about what it's like when you do."

  • And what did they notice?

  • Well here's an example from one of our smokers.

  • She said, "Mindful smoking:

  • smells like stinky cheese

  • and tastes like chemicals,

  • YUCK!"

  • Now, she knew, cognitively that smoking was bad for her,

  • that's why she joined our program.

  • What she discovered just by being curiously aware when she smoked

  • was that smoking tastes like shit.

  • (Laughter)

  • Now, she moved from knowledge to wisdom.

  • She moved from knowing in her head that smoking was bad for her

  • to knowing it in her bones,

  • and the spell of smoking was broken.

  • She started to become disenchanted with her behavior.

  • Now, the prefrontal cortex,

  • that youngest part of our brain from an evolutionary perspective,

  • it understands on an intellectual level that we shouldn't smoke.

  • And it tries its hardest to help us change our behavior,

  • to help us stop smoking,

  • to help us stop eating that second, that third, that fourth cookie.

  • We call this cognitive control.

  • We're using cognition to control our behavior.

  • Unfortunately,

  • this is also the first part of our brain

  • that goes offline when we get stressed out,

  • which isn't that helpful.

  • Now, we can all relate to this in our own experience.

  • We're much more likely to do things like yell at our spouse or kids

  • when we're stressed out or tired,

  • even though we know it's not going to be helpful.

  • We just can't help ourselves.

  • When the prefrontal cortex goes offline,

  • we fall back into our old habits,

  • which is why this disenchantment is so important.

  • Seeing what we get from our habits

  • helps us understand them at a deeper level --

  • to know it in our bones

  • so we don't have to force ourselves to hold back

  • or restrain ourselves from behavior.

  • We're just less interested in doing it in the first place.

  • And this is what mindfulness is all about:

  • Seeing really clearly what we get when we get caught up in our behaviors,

  • becoming disenchanted on a visceral level

  • and from this disenchanted stance, naturally letting go.

  • This isn't to say that, poof, magically we quit smoking.

  • But over time, as we learn to see more and more clearly

  • the results of our actions,

  • we let go of old habits and form new ones.

  • The paradox here

  • is that mindfulness is just about being really interested

  • in getting close and personal

  • with what's actually happening in our bodies and minds

  • from moment to moment.

  • This willingness to turn toward our experience

  • rather than trying to make unpleasant cravings go away as quickly as possible.

  • And this willingness to turn toward our experience

  • is supported by curiosity,

  • which is naturally rewarding.

  • What does curiosity feel like?

  • It feels good.

  • And what happens when we get curious?

  • We start to notice that cravings are simply made up of body sensations --

  • oh, there's tightness, there's tension,

  • there's restlessness --

  • and that these body sensations come and go.

  • These are bite-size pieces of experiences

  • that we can manage from moment to moment

  • rather than getting clobbered by this huge, scary craving

  • that we choke on.

  • In other words, when we get curious,

  • we step out of our old, fear-based, reactive habit patterns,

  • and we step into being.

  • We become this inner scientist

  • where we're eagerly awaiting that next data point.

  • Now, this might sound too simplistic to affect behavior.

  • But in one study, we found that mindfulness training

  • was twice as good as gold standard therapy at helping people quit smoking.

  • So it actually works.

  • And when we studied the brains of experienced meditators,

  • we found that parts of a neural network of self-referential processing

  • called the default mode network

  • were at play.

  • Now, one current hypothesis is that a region of this network,

  • called the posterior cingulate cortex,

  • is activated not necessarily by craving itself

  • but when we get caught up in it, when we get sucked in,

  • and it takes us for a ride.

  • In contrast, when we let go --

  • step out of the process

  • just by being curiously aware of what's happening --

  • this same brain region quiets down.

  • Now we're testing app and online-based mindfulness training programs

  • that target these core mechanisms

  • and, ironically, use the same technology that's driving us to distraction

  • to help us step out of our unhealthy habit patterns

  • of smoking, of stress eating and other addictive behaviors.

  • Now, remember that bit about context-dependent memory?

  • We can deliver these tools to peoples' fingertips

  • in the contexts that matter most.

  • So we can help them

  • tap into their inherent capacity to be curiously aware

  • right when that urge to smoke or stress eat or whatever arises.

  • So if you don't smoke or stress eat,

  • maybe the next time you feel this urge to check your email when you're bored,

  • or you're trying to distract yourself from work,

  • or maybe to compulsively respond to that text message when you're driving,

  • see if you can tap into this natural capacity,

  • just be curiously aware

  • of what's happening in your body and mind in that moment.

  • It will just be another chance

  • to perpetuate one of our endless and exhaustive habit loops ...

  • or step out of it.

  • Instead of see text message, compulsively text back,

  • feel a little bit better --

  • notice the urge,

  • get curious,

  • feel the joy of letting go

  • and repeat.

  • Thank you.

  • (Applause)

When I was first learning to meditate,

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