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  • One of the biggest sources of stress in my life is that

  • I have too many interests, and I often find it difficult

  • to find just one pursuit

  • to put all of my focus and energy on.

  • And I get a lot of questions from students

  • and viewers who have the exact same problem.

  • So if you feel like you have this problem as well,

  • you're not alone.

  • In fact, this is a really common problem

  • and it's often been referred to as the "Paradox of Choice".

  • One person who has done a lot of research on this problem is

  • the Columbia School of Business professor, Sheena Iyengar.

  • And she summed this problem up really well when she said:

  • "There are times when the presence of more choices can make us choose things that are not good for us."

  • "For me, the clearest example is that the more retirement fund options a person has,

  • the less likely they are to save for their old age."

  • So, here is the big important question.

  • How do you narrow down this ridiculous amount

  • of choices you have to a few things

  • that you can really focus your time,

  • attention, and energy on?

  • Well, there's a story about the billionaire investor Warren Buffet

  • that might actually help.

  • The story goes that Buffet was talking with the pilot of his private jet

  • and the pilot asked him about how he could narrow down his career goals and really focus.

  • So, Warren asked him to do an exercise.

  • He said, "First, write down your top 25 career goals."

  • "Then once you have that list, circle the five most important goals on the list and come back to me."

  • So the guy went and did it.

  • He wrote down those 25 goals.

  • He circled five and he came back,

  • and essentially at this point he had two lists.

  • List A, which were those five most important goals.

  • And List B which were the 20 other goals that weren't as important.

  • So at this point the pilot says,

  • "Okay, I think I got it now.

  • "The five that you had me circle are the most important things I should be focusing on,

  • whereas the 20 I didn't circle are less important so I can practice those intermittently when I have some spare time,

  • but I shouldn't focus on them as much."

  • And Buffet's response was,

  • "No. The list of twenty items you didn't circle is now your Avoid-at-all-Costs list.

  • "These are goals and interests you have that have enough pull on your interests

  • that they will distract you from the five most important goals."

  • "If you want to be superstar at something,

  • you can't afford to be diversifying your attention across all these interests."

  • "You have to focus."

  • Now, it is likely that this story is actually fake.

  • I've read in several places online

  • that Buffet himself has said that he didn't

  • have this conversation with his pilot.

  • However, even if a famous person

  • didn't give these instructions and have this guy do this exercise,

  • I think the exercise is actually still useful to do.

  • But I want to do you one better.

  • You can definitely go through that exercise,

  • but I want to share something that I discovered last week

  • that I have adopted in my own life.

  • There's a guy I've been following for

  • a number of years online named Derek Sivers,

  • and he's an author, a public speaker,

  • and the founder of a company called CD Baby.

  • And he's had a lot of success in his life,

  • so I've been really inspired by his writings

  • and especially this book note section on his website

  • that he has where he summarizes books.

  • And last week, I saw that he put something on his website

  • called a Now Page.

  • It's basically a page where he writes "What I'm doing now".

  • He lists out a few of his main priorities

  • like being a full-time dad, being a programmer,

  • answering emails, and writing blog posts.

  • And then he says, "These are my priorities right now.

  • And because of that, I'm not going to accept new opportunities."

  • "I don't want to speak publicly, and I'm gonna focus my time on these things I've listed."

  • So this page serves as a couple of different functions.

  • Number one. It's a public declaration of his main priorities,

  • which can help him justify saying no to other opportunities

  • and explain that to other people who bring those opportunities to him.

  • But it's also a private reminder

  • for when he's feeling unfocused

  • of what he should be focusing his mind on.

  • Now, I think this Now Page is a fantastic idea,

  • so just like the impossibilist concept that my friend, Joel, came up with,

  • I have appropriated it for my own uses.

  • And now, you can go to Collegeinfogeek.com/now

  • to see what I'm doing with my life.

  • On that page, you'll see a similar layout to Derek's page.

  • I've got "What I'm Doing Now",

  • with a few different priorities listed out.

  • But there is a key difference.

  • Since I'm a bit earlier on in my career than Derek is,

  • I've decided to be a little less staunch

  • about saying no to new opportunities on that page than he has been.

  • On mine, I say that I'm still open to new opportunities,

  • I really value spontaneity and novelty,

  • but 90% of my time is still going to go towards those main priorities.

  • So if you're a student, or you're early on in your career,

  • and you want to use this page for your own purposes,

  • my suggestion is to be a little bit more open

  • to other opportunities and take a stand in that camp,

  • but still be focusing the majority of your attention

  • on the priorities you've all ready set out on the page.

  • So that is all I've got for you in this video.

  • If you'd like to see my page,

  • I've got a link down in the description,

  • and also on the card right now.

  • And if you want to make your own page,

  • I've got a tutorial on how to build your own website

  • on my site that I'll link to in the description.

  • You can also use something simpler,

  • like Wordpress.com or even Tumblr if you want a free and simple option.

  • Or, if you don't want to make it public,

  • you could even just put it in a Word document

  • or an Evernote document just to be a private reminder

  • to keep your own mind focused on your priorities.

  • That's all I've got for today,

  • so if you enjoyed this video give it a like

  • so other people can find this channel.

  • And if you have additional tips that have helped you to focus your priorities,

  • share them down in the comments.

  • And other than that,

  • I will see you, as always, next week.

  • Hey guys, thanks so much for watching this video.

  • If you want to get new tips on how to be a more effective student every single week,

  • you can click that big red Subscribe button right there.

  • I also wrote a free book on how to earn better grades,

  • so if you want to get a copy you can click the picture of the book.

  • And if you want to find a summary,

  • and links to both my Now page and Derek's original now page,

  • and some additional Now Pages that other people have been making,

  • you can click the orange logo right there

  • to go to the blog posts.

  • Last week, we did a fun bonus video

  • about my top 10 favourite fiction books,

  • so check it out if you haven't seen it.

  • And if you want to connect with me,

  • I'm on Twitter @TomFrankly.

  • Also on instagram: @TomFrankly.

  • And you can leave a comment below as well.

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