adversity is actually one of your

biggest advantages you got to be open to

taking some risks and not being afraid

to fail i want you all to stay true to

the most real most sincere most

authentic parts of yourselves

she's an American Lawyer writer and

First Lady of the United States of

America

she's married to the 44th President of

the United States Barack Obama and was

the first african-american first lady

she has become a fashion icon role model

for women and advocate of poverty

awareness she's michelle obama and

here's my take on her top ten rules for

success as usual as you watch it was

something that she says that you really

really love leave in the comments below

put quotes around it as well so other

people can be inspired as well

some of you have been homeless some of

you have risked the rejection of your

families to pursue your education many

of you have lain awake at night

wondering how on earth you are going to

support your parents and your kids and

still pay tuition and many of you know

what it's like to live not just month to

month or day to day but meal to meal but

graduates let me tell you you you should

never ever be embarrassed by those

struggles you should never view your

challenges as a disadvantage

instead it's important for you to

understand that your experience facing

and overcoming adversity is actually one

of your biggest advantages and I know

that because I've seen it myself

not just as a student working my way

through school but years later when I be

after i came before I came to the White

House and I work as a Dean of College in

that role i encountered students who had

every advantage their parents paid their

full tuition they live

Ben beautiful campus dorms they had

every material possession of college kid

could want cars computers spending money

but when some of them got their first

bad great they just fell apart they lost

it because they were ill-equipped to

handle their first encounter with

disappointment or falling short but

graduates as you all know life will put

many obstacles in your path that are far

worse than a bad grade you'll have

unreasonable mosses and difficult

clients and patients you'll experience

illnesses and losses crises and setbacks

that will come out of nowhere and knock

you off your feet

but unlike so many other young people

you have already developed the

resilience and the maturity that you

need to pick yourself up and dust

yourself off and keep moving through the

pain he moving forward

next I've always felt a deep sense of

obligation to make the biggest impact

possible with this incredible platform

so I took on issues that were personal

to me issues like helping families raise

healthier kids honoring the incredible

military families that I met out on the

campaign trail inspiring our young

people to value their education and

finish college now some folks criticize

my choices for not being bold enough but

these were my choices my issues and i

decided to tackle them in a way that

felt most authentic to me in a way that

was both substantive and strategic but

also fun and hopefully inspiring so I

immerse myself in the policy details i

worked with Congress on legislation gave

speeches to CEOs military generals

Hollywood executives but i also work to

ensure that my efforts would resonate

with kids and families and that meant

doing things in a creative and

unconventional way so yeah I planted a

guard

and hula hooped on the White House lawn

with kids I did some mom dancing on TV i

celebrated military kids with Kermit the

Frog I ask folks across the country to

wear their alma mater is t-shirts for

college signing day and at the end of

the day by staying true to the me I've

always known i found that this journey

has been incredibly three because no

matter what happens I have the peace of

mind of knowing that all of the chatter

the name calling the doubting all of it

was just noise

it did not define me it didn't change

who I was and most importantly it

couldn't hold me back

I have learned that as long as I hold

fast my beliefs and values and follow my

own moral compass then the only

expectations i need to leave live up to

our my own so graduates you see Barack

and I were both raised by families who

didn't have much in the way money or

material possessions but who had given

us something far more valuable their

unconditional love their unflinching

sacrifice and the chance to go places

they had never imagined for themselves

my father was a pump operator at the

city water plant and he was diagnosed

with multiple sclerosis when my brother

and I were young and even as a kid I

knew there were plenty of days when he

was in pain and I know there were plenty

of mornings when it was a struggle for

him to simply get out of bed but every

morning I watched my father wake up with

a smile

now grab his walker propped himself up

against the bathroom sink and slowly

shape and button his uniform and when he

returned home after a long day's work my

brother and I would withstand at the top

of the stairs of our little apartment

patiently waiting to greet him watching

his he reached down to lift one leg and

then the other to slowly climb his way

into our arms but despite these

challenges my dad hardly ever missed a

day of work he and my mom were

determined to give me and my brother the

kind of education they could only dream

up what has been the best advice you

received from your teacher or professor

who I've gotten a lot of great advice

from teachers mentors professors

throughout the year so first of all you

gotta be open to taking some risks and

not being afraid to fail

failure is the key to success so when

you get the college you gotta raise your

hand you have to be engaged don't be the

kid thinking all I shouldn't be here and

maybe I'm not smart enough and maybe you

know know you are more than capable of

going to college being successful and

going on doing whatever you want in life

I sit here because I am you all there is

no difference between me and you working

class kid growing up on the south side

of Chicago growing up with doubts and

fears just like all of you all do I know

exactly how you always feel and kids out

there who were thinking maybe I'm not

ready maybe I'm not good enough maybe I

can't afford it but what teachers and

mentors have told me is that yes

you can and you must so get in there and

be bold with your intelligence raise

your hand get support when you need it

and know that we all got here because

somebody helped us i want you all to

stay true to the most real most sincere

most authentic parts of yourselves

I want you to ask those basic questions

who do you want to be what inspires you

how do you want to give back and then I

want you to take a deep breath and trust

yourselves to chart your own course and

make your mark on the world

maybe it feels like you're supposed to

go to law school but what you really

want to do is teach little kids maybe

your parents are expecting you to come

back home after you graduate but you're

feeling a poll to travel the world I

want you to listen to those thoughts I

want you to act with both your mind but

also your heart and no matter what path

you choose i want you to make sure it's

you choosing it and not someone else we

learned about dignity and decency that

how hard you work matters more than how

much you make that helping others means

more than just getting ahead of yourself

we learned about honesty and integrity

that the truth matters that it that you

don't take shortcuts

or play by your own set of rules

doesn't count unless you earn its there

and squared do you feel like and I'm

sure you did feel pressure to be the

first african-american first lady to did

like there's some kind of responsibility

or well one of the things i know from

sitting in this position that every

first lady feel some level of pressure

I mean this is a big platform and you

don't want to mess it up so i wouldn't

dare to compare my experience to any

former first lady but I do take the role

seriously i do as i said in my

convention speech I know that kids are

watching us there watching what we say

what we do and Brock and I've tried to

make sure that what kids are seeing or

something is something that they can be

proud of because it matters

you're getting advice from around the

world is a former british prime minister

tony blair is why fury bland did you

happen to hear or read which is a know

how she wants that you'll have to learn

I'm to take a backseat to me and you

will not be able to have any kind of a

career she says that that will be a very

difficult thing to do

yeah I think it just depends on the

person i have never been the kind of

person who defined myself by a career or

job i just never have people used to ask

me that doing

of course of the campaign

how do you have stepped off the track

and devoted your your life to his dream

but the truth is is that I believe in

this man is our president and his vision

for the country's and if that meant you

know stepping away from my particular

job for a year and a half or four or

eight years if you do what you're

supposed to divert then you know that's

a small sacrifice to make and it's

enough to keep you fulfilled

oh well I've got these great kids too I

mean the truth is you know and block

know this about me

I I love kids and I love my kids and

this isn't to say that anyone who's

working doesn't but I enjoy the balance

of having a job and having a set of

projects and you never have time to make

sure that i'm in the girls lives and

making sure that we have time it's a

family I mean that's a front plate