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  • Youre a little spicy today, you know that?

  • Yeah.

  • Spicy.

  • Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching MarieTV, the place to be to create a business

  • and life you love.

  • Now, if you ever feel like youre missing out on some big secret to success that everybody

  • else knows but you, you are going to want to watch this one, let me tell you.

  • Alright, so a little story here.

  • A few years back I was driving to a lunch meeting in LA and there was a lot of traffic,

  • as usual, and not too much parking on the street so I pulled into a garage with a valet.

  • Now, what happened next was so unexpected.

  • I opened the door to hand over my keys and I got blasted by this guy with unconditional

  • love.

  • I’ve gotta tell you, this guy’s energy was so off the charts.

  • He was Latino, probably like late 60s, and he was this total powerhouse of joy.

  • The way he greeted me was like he was picking up some lifelong friend at the airport and

  • he gently just helped me out of my car, he asked me about my day, and, get this, he was

  • genuinely interested in the answer.

  • And then he flashed this smile at me that was brighter than the California sun.

  • I’m not kidding, this man was one of the most enthusiastic souls that I have ever met

  • in my life.

  • Now, one of the things that struck me was that this was the valet guy.

  • And as somebody who’s worked in the service industry for years, I know that these kind

  • of jobs, I mean, they can be challenging.

  • Youre often dealing with a lot of cranky people, youre probably not making that

  • much money, and, honestly, it can feel thankless at times.

  • But this guy?

  • Oh my goodness.

  • The energy that he brought to his work, it was like he was this happy king and he was

  • welcoming you into his palace.

  • And the reason I wanted to share this story is because it is such a potent reminder of

  • one of the most underrated secrets to success there is.

  • It is not just about what you do, it’s about how you do it.

  • You see, behavior alone is not enough.

  • The energy, the soul, the spirit that you infuse into your actions, it matters.

  • And, I mean, this applies to your work, it applies to your relationships, it applies

  • to everything.

  • You know, as Jim Carrey said, the effect you have on others is the most valuable currency

  • there is.

  • And I mean, you know this to be true, right?

  • There’s such a huge difference between someone who just shows up and they kind of go through

  • the motions and, maybe even worse, theyre like a walking complaint.

  • I mean, that creates a completely different result than somebody who shows up and like

  • theyre full of warmth and enthusiasm.

  • Like, they actually want to be there.

  • And there are three reasons that I feel why getting this is so, so important.

  • Number one, your attitude is contagious.

  • You know, we human beings, we have mirror neurons in our brains that make our emotions

  • catchable.

  • Meaning your joy, your enthusiasm, all that stuff, it rubs off on people around you.

  • And so does a totally crappy attitude, kind of like germs.

  • Oh my God.

  • Somebody got joy all over me.

  • Sorry, Marie.

  • That was me.

  • You know what?

  • A little joy never hurt anybody.

  • So take responsibility for the energy you're putting out there, all right?

  • Number two, this moment makes your future moment.

  • So here’s what this means.

  • How you do what you do impacts how people respond to you, and very often, the results

  • that you get.

  • So in the case of my very sweet valet, I was so grateful for his energy that I gave him

  • a very big tip, like probably 3 times the standard amount.

  • And let’s be honest, that’s how all of us can build momentum in this life, by wowing

  • other people and doing that with your genuine heart and your genuine caring and your attention

  • to detail.

  • And number three, you can make a difference in this world no matter what you do for a

  • living.

  • And really, really hear that.

  • You know, I get so many questions from people saying, “Gosh, I feel like what I do just

  • isn’t that important.”

  • Or, “Marie, you know what?

  • I want to find a way to make a bigger impact in the world.

  • What should I do?”

  • This is what you should do.

  • Don’t just focus on what youre doing.

  • Give attention to how youre doing it.

  • Because you have countless opportunities every single day to change real people’s lives

  • simply by choosing to.

  • Start infusing everything you do with some genuine love and enthusiasm and your humanity

  • and just watch the difference that it makes both for you and for everybody around you.

  • And if you need a reminder, remember this.

  • Your energy is contagious, so think about what you want people to catch from you.

  • Now I would love to hear from you, and weve got a two parter today.

  • So first up, what is a specific example of where how somebody did something really, really

  • wowed you?

  • And then second, what area of your life might completely shift if you focused more attention

  • on how you did it rather than just going through the motions?

  • Leave a comment below and let me know.

  • Now, as always, the best discussions happen after the episode over at MarieForleo.com,

  • so head on over there and leave a comment now.

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  • from me that I just don't share anywhere else.

  • Stay on your game and keep going for your dreams because the world needs that special

  • gift that only you have.

  • Thank you so much for watching and I’ll catch you next time on MarieTV.

  • Know what?

  • I know.

  • I know.

  • Yeah, I feel you.

  • Really?

  • Seriously?

  • You just go with that because I might, you know me, I’m gonna start kicking.

  • The womens get kicking.

  • Kick it.

  • You know what?

  • Done.

Youre a little spicy today, you know that?

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