and try to find the most paranoid person here --

(Laughter)

And then I want you to point at that person for me.

(Laughter)

OK, don't actually do it.

(Laughter)

But, as an organizational psychologist,

I spend a lot of time in workplaces,

and I find paranoia everywhere.

Paranoia is caused by people that I call "takers."

Takers are self-serving in their interactions.

It's all about what can you do for me.

The opposite is a giver.

It's somebody who approaches most interactions by asking,

"What can I do for you?"

I wanted to give you a chance to think about your own style.

We all have moments of giving and taking.

Your style is how you treat most of the people most of the time,

your default.

I have a short test you can take

to figure out if you're more of a giver or a taker,

and you can take it right now.

[The Narcissist Test]

[Step 1: Take a moment to think about yourself.]

(Laughter)

[Step 2: If you made it to Step 2, you are not a narcissist.]

(Laughter)

This is the only thing I will say today that has no data behind it,

but I am convinced the longer it takes for you to laugh at this cartoon,

the more worried we should be that you're a taker.

(Laughter)

Of course, not all takers are narcissists.

Some are just givers who got burned one too many times.

Then there's another kind of taker that we won't be addressing today,

and that's called a psychopath.

(Laughter)

I was curious, though, about how common these extremes are,

and so I surveyed over 30,000 people across industries

around the world's cultures.

And I found that most people are right in the middle

between giving and taking.

They choose this third style called "matching."

If you're a matcher, you try to keep an even balance of give and take:

quid pro quo -- I'll do something for you if you do something for me.

And that seems like a safe way to live your life.

But is it the most effective and productive way to live your life?

The answer to that question is a very definitive ...

maybe.

(Laughter)

I studied dozens of organizations,

thousands of people.

I had engineers measuring their productivity.

(Laughter)

I looked at medical students' grades --

even salespeople's revenue.

(Laughter)

And, unexpectedly,

the worst performers in each of these jobs were the givers.

The engineers who got the least work done

were the ones who did more favors than they got back.

They were so busy doing other people's jobs,

they literally ran out of time and energy to get their own work completed.

In medical school, the lowest grades belong to the students

who agree most strongly with statements like,

"I love helping others,"

which suggests the doctor you ought to trust

is the one who came to med school with no desire to help anybody.

(Laughter)

And then in sales, too, the lowest revenue accrued

in the most generous salespeople.

I actually reached out to one of those salespeople

who had a very high giver score.

And I asked him, "Why do you suck at your job --"

I didn't ask it that way, but --

(Laughter)

"What's the cost of generosity in sales?"

And he said, "Well, I just care so deeply about my customers

that I would never sell them one of our crappy products."

(Laughter)

So just out of curiosity,

how many of you self-identify more as givers than takers or matchers?

Raise your hands.

OK, it would have been more before we talked about these data.

But actually, it turns out there's a twist here,

because givers are often sacrificing themselves,

but they make their organizations better.

We have a huge body of evidence --

many, many studies looking at the frequency of giving behavior

that exists in a team or an organization --

and the more often people are helping and sharing their knowledge

and providing mentoring,

the better organizations do on every metric we can measure:

higher profits, customer satisfaction, employee retention --

even lower operating expenses.

So givers spend a lot of time trying to help other people

and improve the team,

and then, unfortunately, they suffer along the way.

I want to talk about what it takes

to build cultures where givers actually get to succeed.

So I wondered, then, if givers are the worst performers,

who are the best performers?

Let me start with the good news: it's not the takers.

Takers tend to rise quickly but also fall quickly in most jobs.

And they fall at the hands of matchers.

If you're a matcher, you believe in "An eye for an eye" -- a just world.

And so when you meet a taker,

you feel like it's your mission in life

to just punish the hell out of that person.

(Laughter)

And that way justice gets served.

Well, most people are matchers.

And that means if you're a taker,

it tends to catch up with you eventually;

what goes around will come around.

And so the logical conclusion is:

it must be the matchers who are the best performers.

But they're not.

In every job, in every organization I've ever studied,

the best results belong to the givers again.

Take a look at some data I gathered from hundreds of salespeople,

tracking their revenue.

What you can see is that the givers go to both extremes.

They make up the majority of people who bring in the lowest revenue,

but also the highest revenue.

The same patterns were true for engineers' productivity

and medical students' grades.

Givers are overrepresented at the bottom and at the top

of every success metric that I can track.

Which raises the question:

How do we create a world where more of these givers get to excel?

I want to talk about how to do that, not just in businesses,

but also in nonprofits, schools --

even governments.

Are you ready?

(Cheers)

I was going to do it anyway, but I appreciate the enthusiasm.

(Laughter)

The first thing that's really critical

is to recognize that givers are your most valuable people,

but if they're not careful, they burn out.

So you have to protect the givers in your midst.

And I learned a great lesson about this from Fortune's best networker.

It's the guy, not the cat.

(Laughter)

His name is Adam Rifkin.

He's a very successful serial entrepreneur

who spends a huge amount of his time helping other people.

And his secret weapon is the five-minute favor.

Adam said, "You don't have to be Mother Teresa or Gandhi

to be a giver.

You just have to find small ways to add large value

to other people's lives."

That could be as simple as making an introduction

between two people who could benefit from knowing each other.

It could be sharing your knowledge or giving a little bit of feedback.

Or It might be even something as basic as saying,

"You know,

I'm going to try and figure out

if I can recognize somebody whose work has gone unnoticed."

And those five-minute favors are really critical

to helping givers set boundaries and protect themselves.

The second thing that matters

if you want to build a culture where givers succeed,

is you actually need a culture where help-seeking is the norm;

where people ask a lot.

This may hit a little too close to home for some of you.

[So in all your relationships, you always have to be the giver?]

(Laughter)

What you see with successful givers

is they recognize that it's OK to be a receiver, too.

If you run an organization, we can actually make this easier.

We can make it easier for people to ask for help.

A couple colleagues and I studied hospitals.

We found that on certain floors, nurses did a lot of help-seeking,

and on other floors, they did very little of it.

The factor that stood out on the floors where help-seeking was common,

where it was the norm,

was there was just one nurse whose sole job it was

to help other nurses on the unit.

When that role was available,

nurses said, "It's not embarrassing, it's not vulnerable to ask for help --

it's actually encouraged."

Help-seeking isn't important just for protecting the success

and the well-being of givers.

It's also critical to getting more people to act like givers,

because the data say

that somewhere between 75 and 90 percent of all giving in organizations

starts with a request.

But a lot of people don't ask.

They don't want to look incompetent,

they don't know where to turn, they don't want to burden others.

Yet if nobody ever asks for help,

you have a lot of frustrated givers in your organization

who would love to step up and contribute,

if they only knew who could benefit and how.

But I think the most important thing,

if you want to build a culture of successful givers,

is to be thoughtful about who you let onto your team.

I figured, you want a culture of productive generosity,

you should hire a bunch of givers.

But I was surprised to discover, actually, that that was not right --

that the negative impact of a taker on a culture

is usually double to triple the positive impact of a giver.

Think about it this way:

one bad apple can spoil a barrel,

but one good egg just does not make a dozen.

I don't know what that means --

(Laughter)

But I hope you do.

No -- let even one taker into a team,

and you will see that the givers will stop helping.

They'll say, "I'm surrounded by a bunch of snakes and sharks.

Why should I contribute?"

Whereas if you let one giver into a team,

you don't get an explosion of generosity.

More often, people are like,

"Great! That person can do all our work."

So, effective hiring and screening and team building

is not about bringing in the givers;

it's about weeding out the takers.

If you can do that well,

you'll be left with givers and matchers.

The givers will be generous

because they don't have to worry about the consequences.

And the beauty of the matchers is that they follow the norm.

So how do you catch a taker before it's too late?

We're actually pretty bad at figuring out who's a taker,

especially on first impressions.

There's a personality trait that throws us off.

It's called agreeableness,

one the major dimensions of personality across cultures.

Agreeable people are warm and friendly, they're nice, they're polite.

You find a lot of them in Canada --

(Laughter)

Where there was actually a national contest

to come up with a new Canadian slogan and fill in the blank,

"As Canadian as ..."

I thought the winning entry was going to be,

"As Canadian as maple syrup," or, "... ice hockey."

But no, Canadians voted for their new national slogan to be --

I kid you not --

"As Canadian as possible under the circumstances."

(Laughter)

Now for those of you who are highly agreeable,