video will give you some tips and advice on how to get over your ex and get on with your

life as quickly as possible. Now, if you’ve seen some of my other videos,

you know that I usually talk about how to get your ex back…. and this video definitely

applies to those who want their ex back, but it’s also relevant for anyone who just wants

to move on and find someone new. So, let’s get started!

To begin with, I need to give you a bit of unfortunate news… and that’s that all

breakups, regardless of the circumstances, are painful to some degree. There’s really

no magic solution or quick fix that will make your heartache disappear overnight. There

are, however, a few things you can do to help suppress the post-breakup emotions and help

you get over your ex as quickly as possible. The first step is to accept the reality of

your situation.

It’s not helpful or productive to deny the reality that you and your partner are no longer

together, nor is it going to do you any good to try and talk things over with your ex.

Instead, try to own up to the situation you’re faced with and accept that your ex is no longer

a focal point of your life. Accepting that can be painful, but now is the time to let

out your emotions and come to grips with life as it stands now that your relationship has

ended.

Don’t be afraid to do a bit of crying or spend some time alone in the first day after

your breakup, especially if it helps you accept the reality of what’s happened. But do your

very best to avoid having these emotional breakdowns while your ex is present.

In fact, during these early stages, it’s not a good idea to speak to your ex at all.

In particular, avoid begging, pleading, or apologizing to your ex in an attempt to reverse

their decision or in hopes of finding closure.

Many people will try to search for answers after a breakup — trying to learn what they

did wrong or why their ex decided to end things — which is not the right thing to do, especially

in the first few days after your breakup. Instead, you and your ex should go your separate

ways, and you should try to get control of your emotions and accept your reality without

looking for answers or asking yourself what you might’ve done differently.

By the way, if you’re not ready to let go and you’re hoping to get back together with

your ex, then now is a good time to tell you about my free quiz tool…. I’ve created

a quiz on my website that will help you figure out whether or not your ex will take you back

and what your odds of success are. It takes about 5 minutes to complete, and you can try

it out for yourself at www.BreakupBrad.com/Quiz.

Now, moving on... once you’ve come to grips with the reality of your situation, it’s

time to remove all visible reminders of your ex. There’s nothing worse than being reminded

of a painful memory every time you walk into your bedroom… which is why one of the most

important ways to move on is to remove visible reminders around your house.

Take down photos, love notes, gifts from your ex, and any other items that might remind

you of your past relationship and putting them in a box in your attic. Eventually, you

can open them up again, but only when you’ve moved on completely. For now, you don’t

want to be reminded of your ex.

You should also make sure that you “hide” or “mute” your ex’s status updates and

notifications on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc. This will ensure that you’re not reminded

of your ex and seeing what they’re up to every time you log in to your social media

accounts. I don’t recommend deleting or blocking your ex completely -- it’s usually

enough just to hide their status updates or posts from your news feed.

If you’re really struggling with self-control and can’t seem to stop yourself from texting

or calling your ex, I also recommend writing down your ex’s number on a piece of paper

and giving it to a friend, and then deleting it from your phone completely. You don’t

need to contact your ex right now, and deleting their info from your contacts list is a good

way to make sure you don’t do something dumb.

With all reminders of your ex now removed from your life, the next step is to stay busy

and keep yourself occupied at all times. If you sit around the house doing nothing, you’re

giving yourself a chance to think things over and bring undue heartache upon yourself. It’s

best to keep busy with work, school, hobbies, or any other activities that keep your attention

focused on something other than your ex. Even watching a favorite TV show or playing video

games will take your mind off the breakup for a while.

You should also lean on your friends and family. Try to avoid being alone whenever possible

– go out with friends or spend time with family, even if it’s the last thing you

feel like doing. Trust me when I say that being social is one of the single most effective

ways of getting through a breakup.

It’s also important during all of this that you continue to maintain healthy habits. Scientists

have proven that vigorous exercise produces ‘feel good’ chemicals such as seratonin

and dopamine in your brain. That means that an intense 30-60 minute workout 3-4 times

a week can help you avoid depression and feel better about life in general. It’s also

important to maintain healthy eating habits and generally take care of yourself so that

you don’t add any extra stresses on your body or mind.

All of those things will help speed up the process and mimize your heartache, but I should

also mention that the single best way to recover from a breakup is to find someone new.

Now, I realize that at this point you’re probably not really interested in going on

dates or going out and meeting members of the opposite sex, but if you can force yourself

to get out there and start dating again, you’ll be doing yourself a big favor and you’ll

find that the breakup emotions completely disappear once you find a new guy or girl

to replace your ex. So, as soon as you can stomach it, get out there and start meeting

people and going on dates. Online dating is a great way to start, so consider signing

up for a few free datings sites as soon as possible.

If you happen to talk with your ex (either on purpose or as a result of an accidental

encounter), try to stay positive and keep things cordial. Even if your breakup was nasty

and you hate your ex’s guts, starting a fight or being mean to them to try and “get

even” is not going to help you feel any better and usually just leads to more problems

and drags out your recovery. I recommend ignoring your ex completely and avoiding any non-essential

contact with him or her until you’re fully over the breakup.

Finally, if you find yourself struggling with depression and heartache even after you’ve

done all the things I’ve talked about in this video, try to remember that every day

that passes is another step towards a full recovery. You may not feel any better today

than you did a week ago, but I can promise that in a month or two you’ll look back

and realize that each day you spent a bit less time thinking about your ex. Sooner than

later, you’ll be back to normal and completely over your ex.

Thanks for watching…. if you have comments or questions, please use the comments section

below and I’ll do my best to respond to you personally. And finally, please take a

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See you next time!