My question is about marriage,

divorce.

I’m married

Sadhguru: No, no, they are two different things (Laughter & Applause).

Questioner: …marriage

what I see today is

many youngsters like

many of them they don’t want to marry

and few of them who marry

there are occasions where they are getting divorced;

so would you like to throw some light on this situation Sadhguru?

Sadhguru: See, you need to understand the institution of marriage.

it’s about bringing a certain sanctity

to the simple basic needs that every human being has.

there are physical needs,

there are psychological needs,

there are economic needs,

emotional needs,

social needs,

variety of needs.

To fulfill all these things we set up an institution called marriage

where all these can be conducted in a sensible manner,

otherwise if we did it on the streets like every other creature

it would turn ugly for us.

And we will feel not good about it.

So,to bring some sense of organization,

some aesthetic,

some stability,

because man and woman coming together naturally brought fresh life.

it is...

compared to any other creature,

it is the most helpless life

which needs maximum amount of support.

You could leave a puppy on the street;

as long as he gets food, he grows up into a good dog,

no problem.

But not so with a human being;

he doesn’t need just physical support,

he needs variety of support and

above all the stable situation.

Whether there should be marriage in society or not

one will debate when they are eighteen

because physical body is asking for freedom,

all right.

At that time everybody questions –

is marriage really needed,

why can’t we just live whichever way we want?

But when you are three years of age

you valued marriage immensely,

a stable marriage immensely.

Isn’t it so?

Yes or no?

Juhi Chawla: Yes, yes.

again when you become forty-five, fifty you’re hundred percent for marriage

between and eighteen and thirty-five you’re questioning the whole process (Laughter & Applause),

okay?

Juhi Chawla: That’s true (Laughs).

Sadhguru: Because where the physical body is dominant,

at that time if you give in to that

then it will question every institution.

this is hormone fired freedom okay (Laughter).

Your intelligence has been hijacked by hormones,

so you question the fundamentals of everything.

I’m not saying marriage is the thing

but do you have a better alternative?

If you have a better alternative, damn the marriage

but you have not come up with a better alternative

because a stable situation is a must for a child.

Once you have a child it’s a twenty year project (Laughter)

Your whims and fancies will change,

your emotions will change;

if that is what it is, don’t get into such situations.

It’s not compulsory for everybody to get married,

it’s good young

you were saying people are thinking whether to get married.

I’m glad it is not necessary for everybody

but if you get into it and if you

especially if you get into children you must understand,

it’s a minimum twenty year project

whether you like it or you don’t like it.

Otherwise you shouldn’t get into those projects,

you don’t walk into a project, drop it half way and walk away, isn’t it?

Juhi Chawla: Yes.

It’s your choice

but at least choose consciously.

You don’t have to get married because everybody is getting married,

you don’t have to talk about marriage and divorce in same breath

as if they come together (Laughter).

This is a completely an American idea,

you’re thinking of marriage and divorce together

nobody thought of divorce in this country till recently, isn’t it?

Juhi Chawla: Yes.

Sadhguru: So, if it happens,

if something happens

something truly went wrong between two people

and they have to separate that will any way inevitably happen.

You don’t have to plan it at the time of wedding (Laughter).

why should you ever talk about marriage and divorce in one breath?

It's a crime