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  • We can't all be sluts.

  • We can't all be asking for it.

  • I am here to give you permission to be angry.

  • This reality might not have to be our reality anymore.

  • I felt this crushing sense of powerlessness.

  • This is the time to take my power back.

  • Here is my story.

  • I felt that it was my duty for the women who are silent to be brave.

  • It's ok to stand up for yourself.

  • People forget a lot that there is a human behind this, someone who was very hurt and wronged.

  • I always thought maybe things could change from my daughter.

  • I never thought things could change from me.

  • Honestly, I was furious.

  • I had had a man grope me in front of multiple colleagues,

  • and I was tired of wondering if it was something I wore,

  • I was tired of wondering if it was a vibe I was giving off.

  • And when I talked to other women, they were furious too.

  • I felt that if I can speak out, maybe if I just stand up,

  • then someone else will stand up with me.

  • There wasn't a place for us to report these experiences,

  • but I sure did talk about it a lot over the years.

  • The least I could do was actually tell my own story and validate theirs for them in a way,

  • just as I was hoping someone much bigger than me will help validate my story.

  • And I knew that other women would continue to apply for jobs there,

  • and that made me feel really uncomfortable.

  • I was afraid of the retaliation.

  • I know the power of patriarchy.

  • I know what men can do when they are angry.

  • They did everything that they could to prevent me from raising my concerns further.

  • They ask me if there were other girls,

  • maybe that he has done this, too and can I go get them?

  • I had to show them that I wasn't lying.

  • It's like they took me for a joke.

  • And if they couldn't stop us from talking,

  • well they were gonna stop everybody from listening to us.

  • People digging into my Instagram,

  • and you know pulling up sexy photos as if that kind of discredited me.

  • Well, I have seen you in committee, you're really tough.

  • Why didn't you just hit him?

  • Why did you let it go on for so long?

  • I was a smart young woman that gone to college that knew how to fight

  • and I still was manipulated and conned.

  • I felt ashamed that I hadn't spoken out sooner.

  • Not having the strength earlier on to make it stop.

  • That feeling of being humiliated as a woman

  • and there's a point you think is it my fault?

  • For so long, I went around harboring this ridiculous belief

  • that because I was a non-white woman in my 20s

  • that somehow it was expected that I would have to be treated this way.

  • We don't have to just live like this.

  • I always thought maybe things could change from my daughter.

  • I never thought things could change from me.

  • I am here to give you permission to be angry.

  • People are afraid, especially women were conditioned since birth to be polite.

  • To be nice.

  • To be kind.

  • To be liked.

  • To not make waves.

  • Bullshit!

  • We can't all be crazy, we can't all be sluts, we can't all be asking for it.

  • And I am telling you that all the people who stand up, all the people who speak out,

  • you are teaching people how to treat you

  • and you should not be shamed for that.

  • The shame is not ours to hold.

  • The shame is on the perpetrator.

  • Me too can be a conversation starter or it can be the whole conversation.

  • It took away the power from the predator and placed the power on the victim.

  • And maybe, just maybe we will be able to get a glimpse at the magnitude of this problem.

  • The amount of people sharing the stories with me is so intense.

  • People that were complete strangers reached out to tell very personal stories.

  • It's what they did with this hashtag and they did a lot

  • and not only in France, in Hong Kong, in Japan.

  • It's an international movement.

  • I feel like the day that I spoke up and I said you are a sexual harasser, I changed.

  • [Spanish] And to know that I was courageous in speaking

  • [Spanish] and saying what was happening,

  • [Spanish] in spite of all the dread and fear that I had.

  • It's an honor to be the person who can say that "Hey! I spoke up about this. I took on the risk."

  • And I was very humble and I was very proud.

  • I am very glad now that the story has been heard.

  • It's a direct response to that arrogance and that show of power and that bullying,

  • that says we won't be silenced.

We can't all be sluts.

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