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  • You're texting a girl, she stops replying, and you start thinking "shoot. what did I do

  • wrong?"

  • Has this ever happened to you?

  • Or maybe you've spent WEEKS hitting up the same girl, only to be baffled when another

  • guy gets her number and is already hanging out with her within a couple of days.

  • Texting is hard.

  • We've all messed up with texting before, maybe you said something you shouldn't have said

  • and then immediately realized you just messed up.

  • Maybe you just don't know what to say next or how to steer the conversation the way you

  • want it to go.

  • So today, I'm here to teach you 5 Do's, and 5 Don'ts, to use when texting girls.

  • These are really simple things you can remember, or write down in your notes app, and they'll

  • improve your text game SIGNIFICANTLY.

  • Do: Text pretty quickly after getting a girl's number.

  • You NEVER want to wait more than a maximum of like 2 days between getting a number and

  • texting the girl.

  • I usually do it the same day.

  • This lets you keep up the momentum that you already had and ensures that she doesn't lose

  • interest or forget about you.

  • Don't: Send cheesy emojis, smilies, L.O.L's, or anything like that.

  • It will ruin any good impression she already had of you.

  • As a rule of thumb, if someone else were to read your texts, and think you were a GIRL

  • ... you're probably using too many ------- emojis.

  • Do: Use emojis, but sparingly.

  • Now, you don't need to stop using them altogether.

  • You just don't want to overdo it or send really feminine kissy face ones all the time.

  • Check out my other video about the best emojis to use when you text.

  • Don't: Text her all day every day.

  • This is even worse than being the guy who sends the kissy emojis all the time.

  • Being the guy who texts her all day, every day, about EVERY LITTLE THING.

  • Nobody really cares what you ate for lunch, or what you're doing right now, or that you

  • got a good grade on an English test, or that you're bored.

  • Nobody cares.

  • You should text, when there is something worthy of texting.

  • Do: Text enough to keep her interested.

  • Now just because you're not sending her a hundred texts a day, it doesn't mean you want

  • to wait 3 weeks before you text her again.

  • Momentum is a big thing in dating and relationships.

  • If the momentum dies, the relationship, or the potential relationship, also dies.

  • You need to text enough to keep her interested in you and thinking about you.

  • If you wait too long, she'll just stop caring.

  • Don't: Be afraid to tease her.

  • So now that you've nailed down WHEN you should text her, you want to make sure that your

  • texts are actually USEFUL.

  • Don't be afraid to tease her and flirt with her.

  • This is one time when emojis work well, so she knows you're just messing around.

  • You should tease her about little things she does or says, because it shows that you don't

  • put her on a pedestal and are confident enough to tease her when other guys just suck up

  • to her.

  • Do: Use texting as a way to set up plans.

  • Don't forget what you're actually trying to do.

  • You're not just looking for a text buddy, you're looking for a girl to go out with.

  • Use texting as a way to set up plans.

  • It's better than calling because it lets her reply when she's free.

  • If you call and she doesn't answer, it already sets up the tone that you're the one who wants

  • to go out with her, when the tone you really want is that you both want to go out with

  • each other.

  • Don't: Always text her first.

  • A lot of guys do this.

  • They text a girl, the conversation goes for awhile, the girl stops replying, then later

  • the guy texts again.

  • And repeat that process over and over.

  • Well, all that does is, again, set the tone that you're a lot more into her than she's

  • into you.

  • Don't be all over her.

  • Don't text her good morning in the mornings.

  • It's unnecessary and just makes you look clingy.

  • Do: Be casual.

  • You want your texts to be casual and light.

  • You don't want to bring up super complicated topics or heavy discussions or anything like

  • that, because if the tone is too heavy, it'll just start pushing her away, and also, text

  • isn't the best place to do it because it's really easy for someone to ignore a text if

  • they start feeling overwhelmed.

  • Now, if the girl you're talking to is into philosophy or she's majoring in astrophysics

  • and you KNOW she's into deeper topics, then sure, go ahead and bring em up!

  • But if you're texting Bimbo Britney that you met at the Justin Bieber concert last week,

  • then randomly texting her "hey, I was just wondering what your opinion is on the philosophical

  • and existential implications of the recent developments in quantum superposition effects

  • being observed at the macroscopic level" - she's not gonna have any god ---- idea what you're

  • talking about and it's just gonna push her away.

  • See, if you're talking to someone in person, and they don't like a topic, it's really easy

  • for one of you to just change it.

  • But if you're texting, and they don't like a topic, it's really easy for them to just

  • ignore the text and make you look stupid.

  • Don't: Talk too much.

  • If you can't think of anything good to say, don't say anything.

  • If you think it's good time to end the conversation, end it.

  • Don't be afraid to end a conversation!

  • Bonus tip: Set up a reason to text her often.

  • For example, you've been talking to a girl in one of your classes, and you set up the

  • sort of vibe where you guys both text each other when you want to discuss the homework.

  • It's really simple and it's a good way to create constant conversation with someone

  • without ever appearing like you're trying too hard.

  • So that's it!

  • I hope these tips helped you, remember them or save them somewhere, and start using them,

  • and you'll IMMEDIATELY see your success with texting improve.

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