Cal: Hello I'm Calum

Cora: And today we're talking about porn

Porn is all over the internet these days, and even though you're supposed to be 18 to

watch it, most people have seen it even if it's not on purpose. You stumble across it.

So what is porn?

Cal: So porn is basically any kind of content whether that's photographs or video that features

sexually explicit content. And it's used for sexual pleasure. And it's 100% normal and

100% fine to look at porn and be intrigued by it or to be excited by it but it is also

important to remember that it's kind of an exaggerated version of real life, so if you

are looking at porn that's not necessarily the kind of sexual experience you might experience

in real life.

Cora: SO is it legal to look at porn?

Cal: It is it's absolutely legal to look at porn, but porn is intended for adults so a

lot of websites and things out there will ask you to verify your age and ask you if

you are over 18

Cora: Do you think young people are watching porn because sex education isn't teaching

them enough?

Cal: Yeah, I think sex education is being taught more and more in schools, which is

great but it often kind of focuses more on the biological side of things : this is a

penis, this is a vagina, you put them together you make a baby but sex is a lot more complicated

than that, sex is you know, very much routed in emotions and two people connecting and

I think it can be very difficult to teach that in sex education. I think it's often

overlooked as well. So I think young people are turning to porn to actually okI understand

this in theory, but now I want to see it. And I want to you know, I wanna understand

by watching two people having sex

Cora: SO there are lots of myths surrounding porn, so let's think about some like myths

of fantasy vs reality

What's the reality of that?

Cal: I think the reality of that is, I mean in porn you, it's all sexually charged and

you have the most kind of mundane situations and suddenly they become all excited and everything

turns to sex. But obviously, thats not true to life and there are many many couples out

there who don't choose to have sex all the time, it completely depends on you and and

what your partner wants.

Cal: Yeah that's absolutely not true, I think porn is often an exaggerated version of sex

in every single way. And one of the ways they like to exaggerate things is they cast models

who have particularly big penises, particularly large breasts, but it's not true to life,

so if you ever were watching porn and you were thinking why don'tI measure up, perhaps?

That's the reason why - it's not accurate at all.

Cora: Definitely. And it doesn't even mean that everybody thinks that that is the most

attractive way to look.

Cal: No, no absolutely not. You know there are plenty of people out there who aren't

attracted to ridiculously big penises and breasts, and yeah, it's important to remember

that bodies come in all kinds of different shapes and sizes and often the people in porn

are even being surgically enhanced. So what you see on screen isn't necessarily true to

life.

Cora: Definitely more fantasy than reality

Cal: Definitely more fantasy than reality.

Yeah again that is absolutely not true there are plenty of people out there who have protected

sex. I'd say the majority of people are using protection. It's really important to do that

to prevent unwanted childbirth and also to protect yourself against STIs and things like

that. And often things are staged to make it look like they're not using protection

in porn but they ectually are

Cora: especially in the UK, it's actually illegal for porn stars not to use protection

so...

Cal: Really? DIdn't know that. Learning something new every day!

Cora:Yeah so probably if it's made in the UK, they are you just cant tell

Cal: Again I feel like it's uh... Porn is an exaggerated heightened version id everything

so yu can often see things like that happening in porn, but that doesn't mean that everybody

likes that and I would say that probably the majority of people don't like that. It is

ok to kind of do role play and things like that but it is very very important that both

partners are consenting and both partners have made it very clear that they want to

partake in this activity before doing so

Cora: Yeah definitey that is the key thing

Cal: Yeah consent is so so important and if you're not sure if someone is 100% consenting

you should probably stop what you're doing and find out and make sure that they're happy

to continue.

Cora: Yeah there's nothing wrong with just asking.

Cal: No ask away

It's that, yesh, it again is absolutely not true. Sex is complicated and sex is about

two people coming together and it's not always that easy.Sex can be awkward sometimes. Especially

if you're new to sex, it can sometimes be painful. So it;s not always the best and not

everybody always orgasms every time.

Cora: Yeah, and like anything in life, nobody's perfect at anything, there's always gonna

be times when you're like, oh that wasn't as great as it could've been and,

Cal: Yeah. And even you could be having great sex with somebody one day and then the next

day it's not right. It can shift and that's absolutely fine. I think sex is all about,

it's an experience you share with another person. And Ithink sometimes the best way

to do that is kind of learn about what the other person likes, and they learn about what

you like, and it's definitely kind of a learning process that you go on together

Cal: Un yeah it seems to be really common in porn that both men and women don't really

tend to have public hair. And I don't think that even is necessarily what the majority

of people like even, I think that's just kind of the way it seems to be in porn. But again

it's not true to life, you have people with all kinds of different degrees of pubic hair.You

have some people without any, some people with tons, some people with it trimmed and

tidied, and yeah.

Cora: It's just all up to you and what makes you feel good and confident.

Cal: exactly yeah, each individual person, it's up to them how they want to present themselves

and present their body

Cora:;Yep definitely, and your partner should be happy with that because it's your body

and your choice.

cal:Exactly yeah

It depends on the person. Somebody can last for a minute or some people can last for hours,

it absolutely depends on the person.I think in Porn a lot of the time it can be edited

together and it's all staged so it can seem like people are having sex for hours and hours

on end, but that doesn't necessarily mean that they really are

Cora: SO it's not really very realistic representation

Cal: It's not a realistic representation, at all, I don't think many people out there

go for hours.

cora: Thank you so much for coming!

Cal: thank you

Cora: and we'll see you next time! Bye!

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